Wrapping AIBU

[TwentyNinePerCent]

I'm probably being at least a smidge U but anyway

I did all our Xmas shopping, for DH's family as well. Spent hours choosing presents for in laws, put a lot of thought into it, and each family member has 3-4 presents- not necessarily expensive but unique and thoughtful (IMHO)

Anyway, DH offered to take over wrapping so I could do a bit of cooking prep and come back and he has stacked all the presents for each person together and wrapped as a big lump. Got upset and explained that I wanted them wrapped individually, so they could enjoy a few separate surprises and take time to have a proper look at each gift. He said I'm being ridiculous and hormonal (35 weeks pregnant, may account for some of this!)

I'm upset on two counts I think - first, it's always been tradition in my family that we wrap everything separately and take time - at least a good hour - over unwrapping our presents and showing everyone what we got, rather than it being over in two seconds. Secondly, because it feels like he doesn't appreciate how much effort I've put in to choosing everyone's gifts and sees them as just 'stuff'

Someone is going to say I sound about 12 (I'm 39).

I get where you're coming from, honestly, but you're being a bit of a martyr. You'll be one of the many women posting on here in five years time saying you have two young children and another on the way, you're buying for everyone and run ragged organising everything lah blah blah. Relax. You have bigger fish to fry. Don't set yourself up for years of stress, it's not worth it.

YANBU, he's a lazy git

They should be individually wrapped unless they're ridiculously small, like pens, which would get irritating to unwrap if there were loads.

He should be charged with the attempted murder of the Christmas spirit, it carries a 15 year sentence where you get the lions share of the bed and duvet

He would be thinking "job done", however you are thinking " thanks a bunch"!

It takes a lot of time and effort thinking of every ones gifts, so Unbu! Why bother if it's all going to opened in one parcel.

Actually he sounds about 12.
Who wraps all the gifts for different people together???

Make him unwrap them and wrap them up again.

Ah, and LTB.

YANBU, it sounds as though he put no effort in at all...just wanted to get the job done as quickly as possible while you were cooking.

Really though, why does he have no involvement whatsoever in buying his family gifts?

I agree with CailinDana, you need to make sure he shoulders some of the work.

YANBU
I have a DH who actually tends to do the opposite and will wrap desperately things I might well combine.

They are things like nice hand towel, posh chocolates, Molton brown bath set - im not like my dad who once wrapped me a freddo as one of my presents!!

Sorry but

I don't think he mixed up different peoples presents lweji, the OP maybe bought more than one present for each person and he's wrapped them up together?

Ps can I admit that I actually cried a bit (definitely hormonal)

My dh bought horrendous presents for his family. Not my problem.

YANBU. Wrapping all the presents together totally defeats the point.

All the presents for each person in one lump?

Sorry OP that's hilarious!!

Is it gossip? DH made me feel like that was what normal people did??

P.s I remember very well what it's like to be heavily pregnant at Christmas (was there twice) feel free to cry. But please don't run yourself ragged. It really isn't worth it.

No - it's not normal at all!!!

No no no no no to wrapping in a lump!

DO NOT wrap the presents tell him to sort it out.

Is he aiming for the do a shit job not to get asked again tactic?

Dear god, at 35 weeks pregnant you have bought all your DH's family's gifts for him? (Why have you bought 3-4 presents for each person, that's not what normal people do surely?). He should be so bloody grateful that you have taken on his chore for him that he should wrap them any way you like.

I can just about tolerate wrapping two presents of the same 'theme' eg mug and box of nice tea, but FFS photo frame with a fucking box of truffles and a hand cream!!

If he doesn't wrap them properly, keep them to yourself.

There is nothing abnormal about buying three or four things, one thing, a giant thing, a small thing.

What is abnormal is the lump approach.

I've just bunged everyone's in as one package each. Saves paper and time IMHO.

That is totally rubbish. Although I've actually dispensed with wrapping anyone's presents other than those of my immediate family for the first time this year.

Having wrapped 70+ presents (including stocking fillers) for 3 DCs and DH, everyone else has had a gift ordered online, giftwrapped and sent to their address.
It's the way to go.