Wrapping AIBU

[TwentyNinePerCent]

I'm probably being at least a smidge U but anyway

I did all our Xmas shopping, for DH's family as well. Spent hours choosing presents for in laws, put a lot of thought into it, and each family member has 3-4 presents- not necessarily expensive but unique and thoughtful (IMHO)

Anyway, DH offered to take over wrapping so I could do a bit of cooking prep and come back and he has stacked all the presents for each person together and wrapped as a big lump. Got upset and explained that I wanted them wrapped individually, so they could enjoy a few separate surprises and take time to have a proper look at each gift. He said I'm being ridiculous and hormonal (35 weeks pregnant, may account for some of this!)

I'm upset on two counts I think - first, it's always been tradition in my family that we wrap everything separately and take time - at least a good hour - over unwrapping our presents and showing everyone what we got, rather than it being over in two seconds. Secondly, because it feels like he doesn't appreciate how much effort I've put in to choosing everyone's gifts and sees them as just 'stuff'

Someone is going to say I sound about 12 (I'm 39).

Yanbu that sounds like something my DP would do.
I just don't get the logic though. The point of presents is that you open then individually. Here we like to give one, watch recipient open it, cue oohs and ahhs, then the next person has a go and it kind of goes round like that.
I would have re wrapped too.

(replying to Precious) After over 20 years together, I reckon I know my dh's family as well as my own - obviously all the dc we have known for the same length of time. Also, we ask for wishlists in our families, so you know you are getting them something they want.
I agree 'workload' should be shared, but that still doesn't equate to both people doing 1/2 of each job, in my world.

I think it's pretty odd to wrap all the presents in one.

But then I also think it's pretty odd to buy 3 or 4 presents for an adult relative, there's very little chance that they are genuinely going to be surprised and excited by any of them - "ooh chocolates", "ooh bath stuff" isn't a surprise (not a bad present, just not something to get excited over like a 4 year old might over something)

So if I did buy the multitude of presents there, I may well mix 'em up into a single wrapped gift. Rewrapping them was certainly unnecessary.