To think that a vast proportion of umsnetters are not having the Christmas they would like?

[Sparklingbrook]

They are either-

Going to other peoples' houses that they don't want to go to, and eat food they don't want to eat with people they don't want to speak to.

or

Having people round that they don't want round, who tell them what they want to eat (and when) and they don't want to speak to.

Or Mumsnetters even.

Yep

I should be on a cruise but it will be fine

Yep.
Dd will be visiting dp's family (long story) and I'll be left home alone for the morning.
Trying to look at the positives, can paint my nails in peace?!

Usually I'm in the position you describe, but this year I am having exactly the Christmas I want, am going to really make the most of it.

I think that those of us who are having exactly the Christmas we would like just aren't bothering to mention it.

I'm happy about mine.

That could of course be because I'm not cooking this year

And because I'm fingers crossed ds1 will come with us tomorrow. If he refuses I will be very sad.

I'm not having the Christmas I would like, but it's not through choice. DH is away, he doesn't want to be, I don't want him to be but there's nothing we can do about it.

If he were here we'd be having it, "just us"! We decided when DS1 was 1 that we were having Christmas Day on our own and we have. People are welcome every other day, just not on the day.

YANBU!

YUP, I am having my exact ordered Christmas. I am not working (as a result of me being a student nurse), I get to spend the time with my DD2, DS and DP. DD1 and her DF will also visit. What's not to love?

DH was telling me about a friend who usually hosts but is off to the ILs this year. And none of the ILs speak to him.

I'm on the wine, at home and wrapping presents. I am happy....... I am not at the in laws watching TV that I hate in a cold house. There is a strong correlation between the two.

I'm not having the Christmas I want..I'm working tomorrow..and have been unwell in the weeks preceding Christmas so haven't really organised things as much as I would have liked but there you go! We are better off than some people so I'm not going to stress about it

Wenare at home. No guests. Just hiw we like it but I have some horrible lurgy so it wont be great

I'm happy as Larry. But then again I'm in Florida (straight out boast, no stealth about it ) visiting the PIL, love my MIL and SIL and DNiece and the DDs love it here and are being SO good and we are about to have Tourtiere for dinner, a Canadian tradition. Sigh.

Almost makes up for all the crap of the last 6 months...

I am just so grateful.

oh I am - Christmas day has only ever been about me and my kids (and my ex DH until he became ex) so I do what I want and we are all chilled and happy

I consider myself very lucky. I am spending tomorrow with the family I like, get to see my nephews enjoying their presents aswell as my son.

It will be chaotic, noisy and complete madness at times but we will all be together and thats what counts!

I'm having what I want. In-laws and parents are coming to us. Everyone gets on. Bonus- I don't have to see my SIL or my brothers. Happy!

I'm in work, so not having the Christmas I wish.

Once I am home it's going to be perfect, nobody wants to trouble me and had no invites as I will not be home till 3.

Sort of having the Christmas I would like. Parents are not the visiting sorts, they are separated and are happier alone, kind of broke my heart over it years ago, it's healed now and have had to accept it.

Have to just block out my brother is not with me.

I have dh and dc and inlaws and we are safe, happy and warm and are in our own home. It's the best it's going to be and so I am happy with just a small bit of sadness in my heart.

I am sure I will have a brilliant Christmas. I am hosting and everyone from both sides of the family is coming to us. We've done this for the last few years and has always been great. I love hosting and everyone else loves coming - perfect!

Nope we put our foot down this year.
Our front door is open for anyone to come round but we decided after 12 years of having to drive somewhere on Christmas afternoon that we are staying at home.
Also dragging 3 kids out the house on Xmas afternoon is a pain.
Oh yes, and this means we can go to our local for a swift half in the morning because it doesn't matter if dinner is after 1pm.

So yes we are doing exactly what we want.

We are doing exactly what we wanted. All relatives have already been visited. We have been to the cinema to watch The Hobbit. We are now sat in front of improving television drinking wine and eating chocolate.

I'd like a housekeeper, a big lady with a ruddy face who will cook and serve dinner for us in the dining room of our big country house.

Other than that, I'm happy.

I just wet myself throwing up so no - not really the Xmas eve I was hoping for! I'm 9+6 with dc2 so weak pelvic floor and morning sickness are to blame...

Well... it was going great till we started getting the d and v bug at the weekend,3 of us have now had it and we still feel like crap, and the last one seems to be just getting it right now. And I put my back out throwing up and my toddler is hysterically clingy because he's been ill and wants me to pick him up all the time. Christmas is basically cancelled bar the presents.