Ok, it's not a massive issue really quite trivial but this has really annoyed me.
When I married DH I didn't change my name. This friend knows this as she also kept her name when she married her DH and we discussed the whole change name/don't change name thing in detail. She was much more militant about it than me - "DH doesn't own me, patriarchy etc etc" . I just wanted to keep my name because I like it.
Anyway, several years later, we both have DC and friend decides to change her name and take her DH's name. Her choice, whatever.
I am still Ms Eagerbeaver.
Just received Christmas card in the post titled Mr and Mrs DH initial DH surname and it's really annoyed me. I will grin and bear this from older relatives, where I haven't really explained the name thing but why would a friend who knows full well what my actual name is do that ? Using "Mrs DH initial" adds extra fire to my ire.
Haven't seen friend for a while, don't live near, we're all busy with work/kids but I have known her for years. I know it was her and not her DH because I recognise her handwriting.
So, AIBU to be really irritated by this? Should I ask friend WTF is that all about or just let it go?