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AIBU?

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AIBU (family want my booze)!!!

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Jalexis · 23/12/2013 21:43

I've just had a text from mum asking if she can have a few bottles of my fizz to open on Christmas morning (I have 6 bottles left over from my wedding in January).

If me, DH and DS were going to be with her in the morning I'd of course take a bottle or two, but we are not as have the in-laws with us this year.

AIBU to think this is a bit off and that they should just buy their own fizz? Dad has just been on the phone giving it the 'well seeing as I paid for it...'

Just to clarify, we're not talking Dom Perignon here either folks, just a decent sparkling wine... I'm only keen to hold on to it as DH and I like to pop a bottle on special occasions.

AIBU???

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ImperialBlether · 24/12/2013 18:26

It was paid for by your parents, OP. You shouldn't even have it in your home!

You have really pissed them off, haven't you? And they were generous to you when you got married.

Go round now with the bottles and apologise. Stop at the off licence on the way home and buy your own.

Tuhlulah · 24/12/2013 18:51

If it means that much to you then why don't you buy them two bottles of decent champagne and give it to them instead of your sparkly wine? Tell them you want to keep your sparkly wine for wedding anniversaries.

That way you don't look mean, and they get some champagne.

ll31 · 24/12/2013 18:54

Yabu and mean. Think we know what your family nickname will be now....

Tuhlulah · 24/12/2013 18:56

ll31 -what?

MalibuAndMilkPleaseLibertine · 24/12/2013 18:59

What Hyva said.

Sleepyhead33 · 24/12/2013 19:02

It was not a wedding present. They paid or wine for the guests and you took the leftovers home. That wine should have gone straight to your parents from the venue.
I am really surprised that anyone whose parents have been generous enough to pay for a wedding/ alcohol this year would seriously begrudge them a couple of bottles of wine. I don't think the dad was cheeky at all but I bet he is feeling a bit like you have been! I would not do anymore texting, just take some wine over graciously and apologise for bing such a grump about it!

ImperialBlether · 24/12/2013 19:05

Yes, ll31, what will her nickname be?

Panzee · 24/12/2013 19:06

Wine left from January?

FortyDoorsToNowhere · 24/12/2013 19:06

It was a gift, didn't realise gift still belonged to giver.

My MIL bought my cake topper, it is kept on a shelf in my bedroom, so MIL could request it back at any time.

Tuhlulah · 24/12/2013 19:08

ImperialBlether and Sleepyhead -I agree with you totally.

AnnabelleLee · 24/12/2013 19:52

Who said it was a gift? no=one.

DamnBamboo · 24/12/2013 20:21

I didn't read it as being a gift. I thought the OP took leftover wine home from the wedding reception that her father paid for?
If so, not actually a gift.

TikkaTurkey · 24/12/2013 20:22

You've got six bottles of leftover alcohol (what? Does not compute ) that's been sat around for a year.
Which they bought for you in the first place I'm not surprised that they don't think you're that bothered about them, and I don't see why it's cheeky to ask for a bottle when there's so many lying about.
If there was only one or two, I could see your point as you may be saving for special occasions. SIX though?! Surely you could spare one measly one, that's seriously tight and Grinch like!

ToffeeOwnsTheSausage · 24/12/2013 20:31

He was being a prat saying he had paid for it.

He was being a prat saying he had moved on.

Take all of it for them and be done with it.

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Jalexis · 25/12/2013 00:42

Thanks for all of the comments and thoughts everyone.

To those saying I'm ungrateful, I disagree. DH and I paid for half of the wedding costs, and were simply keeping these last inexpensive (but sentimentally special) bottles to enjoy as a couple.

I've been pregnant/breastfeeding since March, so yes, still leftovers!

Parents are not hard up, I think just being a bit lazy IMO. Furthermore, brothers both work in the wine trade and have large cellar collections but neither were asked to take bottles along! BUT, I agree I should have just said okay... We haven't fallen out and I'll make it up to them.

Merry Christmas everyone, here's to not having leftover booze this time next year!

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Workberk · 25/12/2013 02:14

YABU and a bit mean I think, and the fact you felt bad tells you that.

Maybe they thought it would be nice to toast with the wedding wine at Christmas... Bet they don't think that now!

Still, no point dwelling on it, try to give them a nice Christmas evening.

kmc1111 · 25/12/2013 02:56

How weird. My DH paid for his son's wedding this year, DSS took home the leftover champagne. They've opened one bottle, when they bought their house, they still have probably 15 or so bottles left for anniversaries and the like. It would never, ever occur to DH to ask for any of it and he wouldn't even let them share it with him, it's for DSS and wife to enjoy on special occasions.

Surely if you choose to pay for your child's wedding you view it as a gift?

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