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AIBU (family want my booze)!!!

92 replies

Jalexis · 23/12/2013 21:43

I've just had a text from mum asking if she can have a few bottles of my fizz to open on Christmas morning (I have 6 bottles left over from my wedding in January).

If me, DH and DS were going to be with her in the morning I'd of course take a bottle or two, but we are not as have the in-laws with us this year.

AIBU to think this is a bit off and that they should just buy their own fizz? Dad has just been on the phone giving it the 'well seeing as I paid for it...'

Just to clarify, we're not talking Dom Perignon here either folks, just a decent sparkling wine... I'm only keen to hold on to it as DH and I like to pop a bottle on special occasions.

AIBU???

OP posts:
FirConesAtXmas · 24/12/2013 09:22

Surely paying for the wedding was a gift, and the wine was simply leftovers, so not used in the day, and op took it home.

It's since been there all year, the only reasonable thing would have been for op to have offered to share it with her parents, rather than her parents having to ask for some.

Personally I would be mortified that my parents even had to ask.

Fudgeface123 · 24/12/2013 09:27

I'd be surprised that my parents asked, it was a gift and again, if OP was seeing them that day then yeah, take a couple of bottles. To give it to them as they CBA buying their own is an unreasonable request. What would they have done if OP didn't have any left?

HappyMummyOfOne · 24/12/2013 09:56

Are you always so rude to your parents? We teach our children to share but seems to go out of the window as an adult.

Ay left overs from the wedding that others had paid for should have been offered back to them after the event to use them up or shared between guests to take home.

I like your dads response, hopefully he will think twice now before subsidising you as an adult given you wouldnt even part with some cheap wine.

Fudgeface123 · 24/12/2013 10:14

"....subsidising you as an adult....", it was a wedding present FFS!

rookietherednosedreindeer · 24/12/2013 10:18

Sparkling wine/Champagne goes off quite quickly - have been disappointed a few times when we found a bonus bottle in the garage.
It was odd of him to ask, but maybe he assumed that as it was still there you weren't drinking it so he was doing a favor by using it.

You were ungracious OP, the best thing you can do now is drive over with the wine and a box of chocolates to say sorry ( see how it costs you more than it would have done if you just handed it over in the first place).

FirConesAtXmas · 24/12/2013 10:18

It wasn't a wedding present though. It was wine for the guests to drink paid for by her parents, which the op took home.

VestaCurry · 24/12/2013 10:21

If my parents were still alive I'd have happily given them some. Would not think twice about it.

Fudgeface123 · 24/12/2013 10:29

Even so, I wouldn't be asking for it back!

Pooka · 24/12/2013 10:35

Bit mean of op really.

Begrudging a couple of bottles of sparkling wine that were paid for by the father and will go off if not drunk soon ? Not great.

MrsWolowitzYouAMerryChristmas · 24/12/2013 10:37

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Fudgeface123 · 24/12/2013 10:37

Op has said she is hosting tomorrow so will open them then....why should she have to make a special trip to take them to her parents if she's not spending the morning with them?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 24/12/2013 10:53

OP, you sound terribly mean. That wine wasn't YOURS to take, your Dad should have taken it home from the wedding. Why did you think it was yours to take? Give it to your Dad, generously, and buy your own champagne. Shock

carabos · 24/12/2013 11:17

I think your Dad's response is indicative that you've got form for this sort of thing...

PenelopePipPop · 24/12/2013 11:39

WOW! YAB incredibly U.

DH and I paid for our wedding. My parents only helped with the clear-up and so forth. My Dad took home all the left over wine which was never seen again. I've never batted an eyelid about this obviously, thought it was a reasonable pay-off for staying late and tidying up the venue with my stepmother. In fact giving away all the flowers and bits and bobs and was quite a nice touch to let people know we appreciated their kindness in helping us.

How incredibly grasping would you have to be to haggle over a bottle of sparkling wine left over from a wedding your parents actually paid for? You really need to have a think about your priorities.

DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 24/12/2013 11:40

I'd have give them a couple of bottles, no question.

AnnabelleLee · 24/12/2013 12:39

MAybe the parents are too broke to buy their own wine after paying for OP's wedding this year?
Stingy wagon.

Clutterbugsmum · 24/12/2013 12:39

And make sure you shake them first Grin.

YouTheCat · 24/12/2013 12:44

Given that response to you saying you'd get a couple of bottles to them and the fact that you are hosting so they'd be getting some anyway - they sound like twats and I can understand why you might not want to give them back. Sounds like anything you've had has been begrudged.

WooWooOwl · 24/12/2013 14:39

I'm not surprised you got that reaction from your Dad. You sound incredibly ungrateful for the fact that they paid for your wedding, and tight as arseholes to not have said yes straight away.

DamnBamboo · 24/12/2013 15:12

I think YABU and rather mean!

DamnBamboo · 24/12/2013 15:14

*I just messaged them saying I felt bad and I'd get a couple of bottles to them tomorrow.

Dad replied saying 'don't bother about it, I've moved on'

Charming!*

Of course he has you tightwad! Enjoy your wine won't you...

LadyJx · 24/12/2013 16:05

Alcohol left over from January? I'm sorry I just don't understand... :-D

WitchWay · 24/12/2013 18:02

If you were going over to them for Christmas fair enough, but you're not!

LayMeDown · 24/12/2013 18:11

I don't understand this.

You have wine left from Jan?
This wine was paid for by you Dad. How did you end up with it?
How do your parents even know you have six bottles left?
When asked to share you refused? Said no to sharing drink you are obviously not that arsed about? with your own parents? At Christmas? Even though they paid for it?
TBH I am surprised you didn't offer to give them some of it a long time ago. And judging by their actions so are they.

HyvaPaiva · 24/12/2013 18:21

'Saving it for special occasions'

It's a year later and you have 6 bottles of it left. How many of these 'special occasions' are you expecting to have and how frequently if you're only halfway through after a year? It's just normal wine Confused

What about the season of goodwill, or the fact that you've got your family and it's Christmas and that's a special occasion. If my family asked me for something that I had, I'd just give it without a second thought. They're my family. I wouldn't see it as my wine. It's just wine. I can't imagine being possessive over something so insignificant.