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To be peeved that Dh wants to go to football match on New Years Day?

57 replies

Orangeanddemons · 23/12/2013 12:49

I just am, and don't know why. It's his last day off, so last day to do anything as a family.

He will be gone about 5 hours. I feel peeved. Please can someone explain it to me

OP posts:
RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/12/2013 13:29

Surely you'll all be sick of the sight of each other by then anyway?

AnuvvaMuvva · 23/12/2013 13:31

You don't know that people are seeing their families, do you? Some will, some won't. Just ask around. Beats feeling pouty! :)

AnuvvaMuvva · 23/12/2013 13:32

Could you go see your family?

What stuff do YOU like doing? You had a life before him! If you could spend a perfect day with your dd, what would you do? Ask her what she'd like to do.

Guitargirl · 23/12/2013 13:33

YABU - just do something nice with your DD.

Sunnymeg · 23/12/2013 13:50

I normally buy DH tickets for the New Year's Day match. It means he is out of the house for the whole day. I think you can all get a bit cooped up over Christmas and need a breathing space.

bigbuttons · 23/12/2013 13:51

"Something to do with me having to entertain a bored dd on last bank holiday"
You've got one kid to entertain and it's a problem?Shock

pudcat · 23/12/2013 14:21

I thought a football match was traditional on New Years Day, same as Boxing Day.

usualsuspect · 23/12/2013 14:24

YABU.

Suelford · 23/12/2013 14:48

If you want to do something together, go with him.

ChancetoDance · 23/12/2013 15:09

I agree how about showing some interest in his interest and going with him if togetherness is so important?

whois · 23/12/2013 15:12

I don't think I would be annoyed. Too much. Our 'tradition' is for a NY day hike and I would do that with or without DP.

aderynlas · 23/12/2013 15:35

Home game boxing day and off to london for nyd for us.

EdithWeston · 23/12/2013 15:40

New Years Day is a big day in the football calendar.

If he's a fan and not gone to matches that day in previous years, then it's surely his turn this year. I think it might get a bit petty to keep an exact score, but it sounds as if he's foregone this quite frequently (for it wouldn't be an issue if there had been a balance to date).

CynicalandSmug · 23/12/2013 15:45

Yabu, surely after all the Xmas mania you all could do with a day of your own interests/relaxation ?

BackforGood · 23/12/2013 15:45

YABU
NYD is a big traditional day to go to the football.
Generally by then you've had a week or sometimes more of all hanging round the house or relatives houses being together, it's time to get outside and do something else.

ilovesooty · 23/12/2013 15:50

Another who thinks YABU. Five hours? And you can't find anything to do without him and entertain your daughter? I also echo the poster suggesting you go with him and take an interest if togetherness on NYD is so important to you.

mummylin2495 · 23/12/2013 15:55

My dh is going to footi on New Year's Day along with my brothers. They have to travel a couple of hours to get there, do i mind? No I will be glad of the peace and quiet ,they are also going to footi in our town on Boxing Day

aderynlas · 23/12/2013 15:59

Can i use this thread to ask for at least 3 points and at best 6 over xmas. Thankyou in advance father xmas.

fluffyraggies · 23/12/2013 16:00

New years day is no biggie here. I think in the past it's always been - lie in, hangover cures, late breakfasts and one big slob about.

(this year the same, but without the hangover - no booze for DH or me - i'll be 37 weeks by then)

DD must have lots of new toys to play with OP. Why not spend the 5 hours chilling, nibbling left over goodies and having a long bath/hot shower with any new smellies. It will be a nice way to spend your last day before going back to work (while he's out in the cold yelling at a load of blokes on a muddy field. No love of football here Grin) When DH is back you can snuggle up.

fanjofarrow · 23/12/2013 16:05

I'd love to go watch the football! I'm a sport-obsessed Scouser, though, so I can't help it. Grin

lestagal78 · 23/12/2013 16:07

Yabu. Dh will be off to 2 matches over xmas. But him and the younger kids are season ticket holders.

Im looking forward to the peace and quiet with dd1 who like me prefers to be in the warm watching a movie.

ddubsgirl · 23/12/2013 20:16

im only off xmas day working 6 hrs boxing day was really looking forward to spending nyd with dh & kids but found out they are all off to football nyd Angry had I known before I wouldnt have said I would work boxing day and done nyd instead too late to change it so spending nyd just me the dog & cat

Pixel · 23/12/2013 23:09

Dh, BIL and Stepdad were supposed to be going to a match on Boxing day. Me, Sis and Mum were quite looking forward to a relaxing afternoon with a good film and a big tin of Heroes/bottle of Baileys. Now the men have changed their minds so we are a bit disappointed Blush.

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 23/12/2013 23:17

DP is going to the Liverpool game New Year's Day. It's also our anniversary Xmas Hmm I admit I had a hissyfit to start with but we're spending the evening/night together and it makes him happy.

Reds better fecking win though or ill be stuck with a very moody git which spoil our night just a bit.

Caitlin17 · 24/12/2013 03:16

Do people do anything on New Year's Day? How bizarre. Apart from the football, which is a big thing on New Year's Day and the lunatics who go swimming in the Firth of Forth I've never come across anyone doing anything much on it.

YABU if football is his thing. Won't you have been doing "family things" for at least a week by then, won't you want a break from each other?