To be peeved that Dh wants to go to football match on New Years Day?

[Orangeanddemons]

I just am, and don't know why. It's his last day off, so last day to do anything as a family.

He will be gone about 5 hours. I feel peeved. Please can someone explain it to me

What would you do otherwise? It's not like there's much to do on New Years Day that doesn't involve shopping or sleeping off a hangover.

Surely you have weekends to do things as a family?

Mine is going too. He goes every year. I just don't let it get to me and try and do something nice with the kids instead

"It's his last day off" .....from that I'm taking it to mean you have other days off to do nice things as a family? He's entitled to his own hobbies and interests too you know.

Is it just him going, or is he taking his children?

I kind of get what is annoying but he does need to do his own thing too, are you doing something you want during his time off?

He has plenty of his own hobbies and interests. Which he will be doing lots of over the holidays. I just feel miffed about New Years Day

No, he won't be taking dc.

What else would you like him to do?

I'm not sure why you're miffed. Because he has something to do and you don't?

No that's not why..

Something to do with me having to entertain a bored dd on last bank holiday. It's my last day too. I would rather we did something together

I think YABU.

Am I?

Yes, I think you are too.

What would you want to do if he didn't go to the football? There isn't much open on NYD so i imagine you will hang about and watch films/play games or go out for a walk. It certainly wouldn't worry me if DH wanted to do this.

Depends on your family traditions, I think? For my family (and most people locally where I grew up) NYE wasn't really a big deal, and instead New Year's day was the big day for visiting as many family and friends as possible, and wishing them all a happy new year (and having a drink). It was equal to xmas day in terms of the significance. Much more important than, for example, Easter.

I know for DH's family though (different part of the country), then they really have no real concept of celebrating NY, and just see it as a pointless boring day when everything is shut for no reason.

So if you are both from a background of expecting to celebrate new year's day together, then YANBU. But if it's just a normal day off, then maybe it's fair enough, unless you had concrete plans for that day, that you couldn't move to a different day.

yes I think you are too.

Yes, you are. Poor bloke.

Find something else to do! Invite some friends over for lunch and have a lovely day. Ring up some people now -- make a huge lasagne or something, fill the house with friends and kids.

Or have a girly day with your dd. I'd LOVE that. (I have boys.)

Do brunch - people with hangovers love brunch.

Forgot to add - if it is the case that he views it as just a "normal" bank holiday, and he goes to the football, I certainly wouldn't be spending all day cooking a big roast dinner etc for him getting home though. And I'd be expecting to get some time to myself over the holidays to spend on my own hobbies too.

Yabu. New Year's Day is usually dulls-ville anyway.

Sorry, I think YABU. The football will only be on for 2 hours. Can you not do something together in the morning, then have dinner together in the evening?

I think everyone is doing stuff with their family on New Years Day, so no one to invite.

I come from a tradition of staying with your family on New Years Day. He sees it as a dead day.

Turkey curry and a film.

YABU. Boxing Day and New Years football are my favourite things about this time of year!

I'd be at the match with joydivision.