To hate having house guests.

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On some level I know I am... Am looking for company though as I feel guilty. We live abroad, holidays are here as are the guests...
I hate feeling lost in my own home. DH's family love light whereas at night I prefer my soft, well placed low light. But no we have to have every fecking ceiling light on....... So no effect from twinkling lights on the tree! I don't much like having my own guests to stay... Isn't this why hotels exist!!! I love all of these people I really do I just don't like them staying in my home... And we have the space

I know I sound petty, just popped on to vent.

No doubt you are a lovely, welcoming hostess in real life, so why not have a vent on here?

Yanbu. It can be stressful having house guests.

Hope it all goes well

YANBU!! Nothing more annoying than being woken up in the night by guests going to the loo, leaving lights on etc etc. hate it.

YANBU! Hate it hate it hate it!

Yanbu I'm not looking forward to slaving away all day then not being able to collapse on sofa cos someone else is in it!

YANBU

I hate it. I also hate ceiling lights and am baffled as to why anybody has them on.

Other people might think it petty but the light thing would drive me nuts as I hate strong lights. I think I would be tempted to just go round switching them all off!

I also hate being a house guest. I just like my own bedroom and bathroom. I barely tolerate DH

Ugh. Ceiling lights. You need to learn to prepare. Keep spent bulbs precise
Y for this.

Just before the guests are due swap the good bulbs for the spent ones!

No more 'big light' misery!

YANBU. Why do they get to decide how you light your home? Unless one of your guests is partially sighted I would put my foot down on that.

I HATE having houseguests. It's bloody awful. Even when they are people I like or family, I just don't feel like I am comfortable in my own home with other people around.

Yanbu I hate hate hate house guests, esp the overnight variety. It's a bloody inconvenience and an intrusion.
I'm watching this space for ways to dissuade any in the future. I thought the light issue was just me.... I'm always going round turning off lights. It's your house, you pay the bill. Turn them off/down....... Ohhhhhh isn't it cosy!

Hands I also barely tolerate DH.

OP YANBU - I love low lighting in the evening but then DH comes home and it seems he cannot function with the TV lit up when on, A large standard Lamp, a large table lamp and the Christmas tree lights on. He also has to have the main light on as well. We have a small living room

Annoying is not the word.

YANBU. This is the reason our spare bed (day bed) is in the living room not in one of the two spare bedrooms - discourages long stays!

I am the same.
I never stay in other people's houses overnight as I need space and my own bathroom.

No one stays overnight at all in our house.

In fact, in 20 years of knowing dh, The inlaws have only been once, for 4 hours.

whereisshe this is why I am putting a sofa bed in the living room! I want to be hospitable, but not for weeks at a time.

Yanbu. Last Christmas we had too many people staying for too long. After they'd left (finally) we said NEVER EVER EVER again.

I di think YABU - you and everyone else on the thread! Yes, having other people in the house causes some shifts/compromises in behaviour, but are you all really so selfish and anti-social that you aren't prepared to make the adjustment for people you like?
Unbelievable, tbh, but no more so than the MN orthodoxy that dropping in for a quick chat and coffee is rude

No cardi because I don't do that to other people. At least I am consistent.

Maybe I would feel differently if we had a big house but I doubt it.

That doesn't mean I don't like hosting and parties, we do that lots, I just don't want people staying overnight now. Was different before the dc to be fair.

The idea of perfect lighting and temperature seem to vary wildly, but I enjoy both being a host and a guest. I would be gutted if friends and relatives didn't enjoy coming to stay with us and stopped coming, so bottom line, I want them to be comfortable.

This is why we never invite anyone to stay.....!

Hate houseguests and never have them. We never offer for anyone to stay.

Cardibach, I love people dropping in for a quick coffee and chat, and it happens most days. I love people staying. .. but I find it hard to have people cluttering up our tiny 2 bed terrace for more than a few days at a time. Is that so wrong?

Baffled by how many people hate ceiling lights! Is it really comfortable to read without them? Watching TV is the only time I might have them off, otherwise I need big lights to see food/newspaper etc clearly.

I see your lights and raise you 'the TV, left on when not in the room'

Makes me see red. I am not bothered about TV and would happily not have one, but DH is an addict and so there is one in every room.

My forthcoming house guests insist on the TV on at all times and move around the house, switching on bit never off.

I feel your pain OP. MIL has been here today and asked "which loo am I allowed to I use?". Whichever the hell one you like, FFS.

We've been married 4 years and she's been coming to see us for 11!