To hate having house guests.

[Downandspout]

On some level I know I am... Am looking for company though as I feel guilty. We live abroad, holidays are here as are the guests...
I hate feeling lost in my own home. DH's family love light whereas at night I prefer my soft, well placed low light. But no we have to have every fecking ceiling light on....... So no effect from twinkling lights on the tree! I don't much like having my own guests to stay... Isn't this why hotels exist!!! I love all of these people I really do I just don't like them staying in my home... And we have the space

I know I sound petty, just popped on to vent.

I used to put up with it when I was younger, now I don't allow it at all ever.

If I have to be away overnight I'll get a hotel rather than be a house guest.

I'm ok until about day 3, then I start getting fed up

We live in a very holiday area so every summer get lots of people who we haven't heard from all year crawling out of the woodwork. I've started doling out B&B telephone numbers now.

3 nights for close friends and family is plenty enough for me

Two points - 1) You could switch the lights off - it's your house and presumably your electricity bill and 2)What's their eyesight like? If, like mine, it's poor, and they are reading or something, is that why they like living with Blackpool Illuminations?

I have found of way of limiting the visits however by having a list of chores as long as my arm and then apportioning tasks or general household DIY to said guests. Mwahahahahahhahh. Visits more limited as a result.

I will get to the stage where I will ban any house guests. I hate imposing on anyone and cannot understand the logic of family and friends that cannot see how by being so fucking lazy whenever they choose to descend, not contributing anything whatsoever not even a fucking bunch of flowers or bottle of wine to say thanks, they are creating rifts.

No yanbu. I am a hugely sociable person, love visiting others, love having parties, having friends over for dinner but, aside from my parents and one or two best friends I cannot stand house guests. I feel exactly as you describe!

Bloody pil came for Christmas. I bust a gut all Christmas Day doing everything single-handedly. Collapsed into bed at night.

At 2 in the morning fil banged on our door saying mil was cold and wanted another hot water bottle. Fil was wearing his anorak and roaming around because mil needs her sleep and so he couldn't share the bed with her. Of course they woke up ds and dd who was a small baby and then the next morning the pil had the audacity to be grumpy and put out that they had had such a bad night.

The good news was that they never stayed again - yay!!!!