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AIBU?

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Original poster

to wonder what on earth goes through some peoples heads?!

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Bogeyface · 20/12/2013 19:41

My friend works at Aldi, his first customer of the day threw up all over the place, the till, the conveyor belt etc. She said afterwards that she had been ill all day but had to go out as she had no food in and thought she would be alright for a short trip.

Really?! She was so ill that she threw up and spread her germs around an entire supermarket yet thought this was ok? There are no houses in the area around there, and she would have had a corner shop much closer so if she was desperate, why not go there?

WTF is wrong with some people?

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MincedMuffPies · 20/12/2013 23:17

I actually feel awfully sorry for the cashier who will get ill over christmas now. What a shit christmas because of this woman.

OutragedFromLeeds · 20/12/2013 23:18

When you're a grown up, there are things that have to be done, like buying food. That's how it's different to a child not being sent to school. HTH.

(If I'd been in the queue I'd have been gagging because I hate people being sick, but I wouldn't have blamed the sick woman).

youretoastmildred · 20/12/2013 23:23

I don't think it is that odd or confusing that people do things like this (although very nasty obviously)
The most obvious assumption is that she needed to get some shopping in and presumably had no one to ask. That is pretty basic

But it is in a neoliberal capitalist context in which we are alwyas being told that illness doesn't exist, is all in the mind; the strong individual triumphs over illness; incapacity is shameful; mind over matter.

The harrassment that you get at work if you get an unfortunate run of illness is appalling. Sickness, disability and incapacity are being erased from existence as reasons not to work, or not to be vilified for not working. Popping to the shops might be considered a minor project compared to doing a day's work; I can see how a person with pride and a porousness to the Messages of the Day (which we all have) would bully themselves into "pulling themselves together", and then something like this happening.

Sickness needs some space and compassion (and even basic existential recognition) if we don't want things like this to happen. (When things like this happen to me, I burst into tears; I have a strong stomach but am a mentalist who doesn't know when to stop and stay in bed)

big hugs, strength and courage to everyone who is sick at this dark time of year
((()))

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Bogeyface · 20/12/2013 23:24

Oh and for the record, my friend is a man, not the bitchy woman you think she is! He told me this in a "I have had a shit day" kind of way not a "OMG, get this!" gossipy way.

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OutragedFromLeeds · 20/12/2013 23:27

You said in the OP 'his first customer of the day threw up ', so we know it's man.

OutragedFromLeeds · 20/12/2013 23:27

^it's a man

OutragedFromLeeds · 20/12/2013 23:30

And the 'my first customer of the day threw up' is 'I've had a terrible day'.

The ' she said afterwards that she had been ill all day but had to go out as she had no food in and thought she would be alright for a short trip' is gossipy. His day wouldn't have been any better if she hadn't felt ill earlier in the day would it? Vomit is vomit.

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Bogeyface · 20/12/2013 23:41

Outraged Some PP seemed to have missed that so I thought I should point it out.

He added the details because I asked, he didnt volunteer them. He said "My first customer threw up" and I asked "OMG what happened?" at which point he said that she honked up, and when offered assistance she said that she had been ill all day but thought that she could manage a trip to Aldi.

Seems selfish to me, but I am wrong it seems!

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OutragedFromLeeds · 20/12/2013 23:43

Well at least you can admit it and that's the important thing!

PeriodFeatures · 20/12/2013 23:44

This shouldn't even be up for debate. Poor bloody woman. She would be feeling awful, fed up that she even had to go out, and totally embarrassed. All you can pass comment on OP is that she shouldn't be passing on her germs.

If this happened to me i would feel fed up being vomed over but really, I think i would want to help the poor bloody women get home.

If your first thought is 'she shouldn't be out spreading germs' Shame on you. Seriously.

PeriodFeatures · 20/12/2013 23:46

In fact I wonder what on earth is going on in your head?

Selfish disease. Get it treated.

EBearhug · 20/12/2013 23:46

I'm another person who can go years between actually being sick. I do sometimes feel nauseous, without actually throwing up. I live alone, so there's no one else to go and get me food or anything, so if I was feeling ill but not physically vomiting, I'd probably risk it.

AnitaManeater · 20/12/2013 23:48

My then 3 yr old threw up on the conveyor belt at lidls. I watched in horror as the vomchunks piled up at the scanner. He was fine when I took him in there...

BrianTheMole · 20/12/2013 23:55

Oh well. Shit happens. Or vomit, in this case.

sashh · 21/12/2013 06:33

I really can't understand how people do this, I have NEVER thrown up without any warning at all.

I have. And I mean no warning. Once in an ambulance and once in A and E, both times I had fortunately been given a bowl because I was having abdo pain.

Both times the bowl was on my knee and I didn't have time to grab hold of it before the vom came out.

Just because you have never done it doesn't mean no one has.

BakeOLiteGirl · 21/12/2013 08:56

I worked FOH in a theatre. It's pretty standard for people to come in and faint or chunder everywhere. Even over several rows of people in front of them. We always used compassion and care every time.

lljkk · 21/12/2013 09:34

I threw up in bed 4 yrs ago. Suddenly, no warning. I had a temp of 41 when admitted to hospital 30 hours later (I had no idea I was so feverish). I had a blood infection, nothing contagious. Did feel rotten, but had been trying to soldier thru until then.

MidniteScribbler · 21/12/2013 09:49

I can't imagine anyone thinks "Oh I might just pop to Aldi and vomit all over the cashier". Poor woman is probably mortified. I hope she's not a member here, because coming and reading this thread is just going to make her feel so much worse.

Whinging to a friend about having someone throw up on you: Acceptable.
Questioning her motives on a public forum: Not cool.

FantasticDay · 21/12/2013 20:44

I threw up on a virgin pendelino the other day. If been working in London for the day. I hadn't felt well all day. But then I feel nauseous for half the winter due to severe sinusitis. I still have to work. I didn't expect to be sick and was mortified when I was, but at least the staff and other passengers were kind and sympathetic.

RevoltingPeasant · 21/12/2013 21:38

I don't understand why everyone assumes she must be contagious though.

It might be allergy, food poisoning or morning sickness surely?

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