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Original poster

to wonder what on earth goes through some peoples heads?!

95 replies

Bogeyface · 20/12/2013 19:41

My friend works at Aldi, his first customer of the day threw up all over the place, the till, the conveyor belt etc. She said afterwards that she had been ill all day but had to go out as she had no food in and thought she would be alright for a short trip.

Really?! She was so ill that she threw up and spread her germs around an entire supermarket yet thought this was ok? There are no houses in the area around there, and she would have had a corner shop much closer so if she was desperate, why not go there?

WTF is wrong with some people?

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SeaSickSal · 20/12/2013 22:10

How terrible, perhaps she should report it to the police? Or somhe kind of public health authority. At the very least she should have been forced to around with a bell and some kind of sign so that people could keep away.

What do you expect her to do? Go without food so that when she is feeling better she's too weak to go to the shops anyway? Some people don't have someone who can go out for them.

Despite what you might read on Mumsnet having 'germs' or being ill is not come kind of moral failing.

I saw a woman being sick when she got off a bus last week. Rather than asking if she was okay everybody else apart from me was calling her a dirty bitch and having a go at her. It was round the corner from a maternity hospital, you might have thought people might have two brain cells to rub together and make the connection.

Apparently not.

CrohnicallySick · 20/12/2013 22:13

But I would say you did have warning as you felt sick and it was your supervisor's fault for not believing you- had she have believed you then you would have been at home by the time you were actually sick.

CrohnicallySick · 20/12/2013 22:14

That was to MrsGrasshead by the way

As to SeaSickSal- that is dreadful, I certainly wouldn't have a go at someone who was sick, I would be too busy getting out of there as swiftly as possible!

NewtRipley · 20/12/2013 22:15

Crohnically

Let's say you are right. She still didn't choose to vomit over the conveyor belt. Whatever reason she had for carrying on with the shopping overrode her fear that she'd vomit in public, otherwise she'd have got out of the situation.

OR

She chose to vomit everywhere.

NewtRipley · 20/12/2013 22:18

And yes - you can feel sick but not be sick, so I'm sure you can feel sick and not believe you are going to be sick.

MrsGrasshead · 20/12/2013 22:22

Yes but if you're a mum in that situation with no back up, you have to get supplies for your dc. Because nobody else is going to. So you go out thinking you might be ok and get caught out. Sadly many many people, have absolutely nobody to ask for help.

CrohnicallySick · 20/12/2013 22:22

I never said anywhere that she chose to vomit everywhere.

However (in my head, based on my experiences of vomiting) it is selfish to take the risk as discontinuing your shopping inconveniences you (in the absence of children- can discount this as either they'd have been with her, or whoever was looking after them could have shopped instead of her). Whereas continuing and vomiting inconveniences all the other shoppers, staff, and could be more than just an inconvenience if someone with a weakened immune system became ill from it.

CrohnicallySick · 20/12/2013 22:24

Newt- that's what I'm (clumsily) trying to say- I know when feeling sick will lead to being sick and wouldn't say I felt sick if I wasn't really sure I was going to be sick.

MrsGrasshead- if she was a mum with no back up then where were the kids?

tolittletoolate · 20/12/2013 22:24

I used to work in a residential home for people with severe learning disabilities. Once you have changed a 50 year old man's shitty nappy you can pretty much put up with anything!

CrohnicallySick · 20/12/2013 22:25

Feeling sick to me is the feeling that precedes being sick, so if you say you feel sick I think you mean you are going to be sick (even if not for a little while yet).

Anyway, I'm tying myself up in knots here and unable to express exactly what I mean, I'm tired and my processing ability goes to pot when I'm tired, so I'm going to bed.

Lilacroses · 20/12/2013 22:28

Horrible for your friend of course but also horrible for the poor woman who was sick. That could happen to anyone. You can't always be totally housebound if you feel poorly, not if you have no one to help you out. My Dd threw up all over the place in a cafe once with no warning. I was holding her when she was about 2 and was paying at the till. She literally vomitted everywhere. I was absolutely mortified. The cafe staff were incredibly kind and helpful.

willyoulistentome · 20/12/2013 22:30

Poor woman. Don't be so mean. I'm sure she wouldn't have thrown up if she could have helped it.

MrsGrasshead · 20/12/2013 22:31

So she might have been on her own with no back up. There really is no situation where somebody wants to do that.

But she got caught out.

I guess I'm kind of immune to that sort of thing because I've worked in care. People poo, wee and vomit - it's normal. It's unfortunate if it happens somewhere inopportune. But I'm fairly sure she didn't go out knowing that she'd vomit in quite such a public way.

People still need food and medication if they're ill. If they had support, they wouldn't need to go out and get it themselves if they felt like shit.

Sympathy is all I would have in this situation.

paxtecum · 20/12/2013 22:39

CronicallySick: we are all different.
I find it odd that some woman don't know they are pregnant until minutes before they give birth, but don't disbeleive them.

Just because you get minutes to prepare to vomit doesn't mean everyone else does.

Yamyoid · 20/12/2013 22:39

chronicallysick, the dcs could have been in school.
I would have sympathy for the woman. What a shit situation where you have to go food shopping in that state.
Op, Yabu.

perlona · 20/12/2013 22:40

Poor woman, how mortifying! People still need to do their shopping and get on with it, life doesn't stop when you're ill.

NoComet · 20/12/2013 22:43

surely you drive to Aldi and park outside, not walk past anywhere else.

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 20/12/2013 22:43

The last time I was sick was in 2010. The time before was 2008. The time before 2004. The time before 1998.

I have had two babies during this time and felt very sick with morning sickness but not actually been sick.

I have no clue how sick you have to feel before you are actually sick.

NoComet · 20/12/2013 22:44

surely you drive to Aldi and park outside, not walk past anywhere else.

PeriodFeatures · 20/12/2013 22:51

I would be fine with this if she had gone to Waitrose.

What a boring AIBU. Seriously.

I feel a sorry for her actually, she must have felt terrible.

FreudiansSlipper · 20/12/2013 22:57

Poor woman it was hardly planned

I have passed out in many public places, once came round and I was being carted off on a suitcase carrier waterloo station was very busy at the time Blush i pretend to pass out again through embarassement

crapholes · 20/12/2013 23:07

Op, do you want your medal for your outrage or for having a friend that works in Aldi?
Not very nice for anyone concerned, but not exactly newsworthy either.

MincedMuffPies · 20/12/2013 23:13

Urgh not nice. And there is no need to throw up all over the conveyor belt, the floor would of been better!

I would of been seriously pissed off it I was the cashier and now would of caught her bug and spread it to dc over christmas.

A garage for bread and milk or corner shop would have been fine, in out bish bosh and no barfing inside.

You know when your going to vomit, you go hot your mouth goes all salivery and you run to the toilet. In the supermarket you don't just stand there and barf and if it really comes on that quick get it on the floor.

Original poster
Bogeyface · 20/12/2013 23:14

Clearly IABU

However I do wonder how you would feel if you had been behind her in the queue and heard her admit that she knew she was ill and went to a packed supermarket anyway. Hmm

I dont think she wanted to do it, but given the outrage when someone suggests sending a child into school after throwing up once, I genuinely dont get why its considered ok for this woman to go shopping in Aldi!

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MincedMuffPies · 20/12/2013 23:16

YANBU bogey, there is mass outrage for people sending their ill dc into school and spreading it.

And so many shops deliver, no need to go and do a full shop in aldi when you could get everything in asda for the same price.

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