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To think these parents were rude

79 replies

BeasofSnoozeberry · 20/12/2013 17:28

Was at a little Xmas tea party today at our children's centre and a small group of mums spent the whole time LOUDLY warning their children off the lollipops, cake and crisps and saying things like "Oh darling, we don't eat nasty, sugary cakes" while also snidely bemoaning the lack of broccoli florets etc on offer. Bad enough but most of them came empty handed while other mums and dads made the effort to supply this evil fare. I actually felt quite upset, as I'd provided the Rudolph curly wurly antler cupcakes stealth boast which DS was really proud of and I thought everyone would like (yes that is a bit pathetic!).

I just hope some of them are reading and know that it was actually pretty mean and hurtful and probably says a lot more about them than it does about my 'terrible' parenting

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ouchthathurt · 20/12/2013 19:26

I think it's very unusual for a pre-school party to have NO fruit or veg especially if it was at a children's centre?? All parties at that age that I remember would have a few grapes, carrot battons, houmous etc. maybe bits of cucumber, satstumas etc... They'd also have the cheesy wotsits, chocolate buttons and cupcakes a-plenty. I think it was a pretty poor show if there wasn't even a token effort to encourage a bit of balance.

I wouldn't have commented loudly about it or been rude but I may have passed comment. Was it totally down to the parents to supply the food? I would probably have brought along some home-made cake or biscuits with an expectation that the basic catering would have included a bit of healthy stuff. Balance is the key and the rudolph cakes sound fab Smile

bigbarns · 20/12/2013 19:28

Very rude and as an earlier post said, unintentionally funny.
Incidentally, reindeer cakes are indeed fab, I found it easier to use pretzels to make the antlers, my curly surly antlers were a bit of a faff to make! Mini Amaretti biscuits for noses too.

Dancergirl · 20/12/2013 19:29

Those Rudolph cakes are FAB OP!

Fruit and veg...it's a frigging PARTY.

Those poor children.

starofbethlehemfishmummy · 20/12/2013 19:33

I have a very strange ds (he's older now but just the same) who wont tujch sweets or cakes or party goodies but would quickly demolish a plate of veg!! But I would never have been so rude as to say anything, I would have just taken party stuff as my contribution for the table and a tupperware of veg for him!!

starofbethlehemfishmummy · 20/12/2013 19:35

*touch

And if he wanted cakes or sweets he could have had them.

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BeasofSnoozeberry · 20/12/2013 19:49

My Rudolph cakes looked significantly shitter than the ones in the link, but DS had a blast making them (and eating)

And the party spread wasnt devoid of healthy stuff, there was some chopped fruit, breadsticks, pitta and cherry tomatoes etc. I think they were just trying to be as po faced as possible!

Am all for treats in moderation. As it is, DS only has water at home and very few sweets (odd pack of raisins or biscuit after dinner) but my rule is he can have juice when out eg in a cafe and sometimes we share a slice of cake in a cafe. I also don't stop him from eating what they children are having if he is round someone's house or prevent his grandparents from spoiling him occasionally.

I have a pretty healthy, balanced diet (though definitely not perfect) and that's all I want for him

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Goldenbear · 20/12/2013 20:23

YANBU, a party is a different setting where people should loosen up a bit IMO. This reminds me of my DP's annual family gathering, this year lots of PFBs have become toddlers/preschoolers and a few Mothers were having panic attacks about excessive breadsticks let alone the cakes on offer! The cakes and desserts were homemade so in my mind better than the shop bought stuff. The funniest moment was when one cousin berated her husband for getting a sandwich bag and filling it with pretzels. Asked why he was doing that, his response was that the 'toddler' loved them and he thought it would keep him quiet for the journey home. The Mum was incensed that he'd let the 20 month old try them in the first place, 'what were you doing, why did you let him have them?' ...

MammaTJ · 20/12/2013 20:27

They are obviously people with poles up their arses! They are NOT people to take notice of!

TheHeadlessLadyofCannock · 20/12/2013 20:27

OP, now you've told us there was bread and tomatoes etc as well, I think they were even more cuntish and pious!

LittleBearPad · 20/12/2013 20:31

Those cakes are fab.

YANBU about the rudeness

2Tinsellytocare · 20/12/2013 21:05

Has anyone seen the programme where they had two childrens bday parties, one with 'junk food' and crafts and one with healthy food but raucous activity. The sugar riddled children were calm and fine but the kids doing the exciting activity were hyper

shazbean · 20/12/2013 21:11

Stealing the Rudolph curly wurly cake idea!
Bah humbug to them. I just love the food police.
Guaranteed as soon as those children are old enough to make their own choices it'll be candy all the way.
I'm strict about sweeties but seriously....everything in moderation.

MrsGrasshead · 20/12/2013 21:47

It all goes out the window when they start school. Ours get a bag of chocolate coins if they win top table, a bag of sweets if they win star of the week, each dc brings in sweets for their birthday and at Christmas, any dc who wants to brings in sweets for the class as well as several of the classroom assistants/teachers.

Try keeping them on broccoli florets after that!

cjel · 20/12/2013 21:55

And how many chemicals on broccoli florets?

rockybalboa · 20/12/2013 22:00

Those cupcakes work well with pretzels for antlers. Those mother sound like utter cunts.

mumofweeboys · 20/12/2013 22:03

Meh junk party food is what parties are all about. I let mine fill their boots then I take them to the park to run it off

Damnautocorrect · 20/12/2013 22:13

Curly wurly antlers = genius!!!
Yes they were rude and should have bought a microwave veg bag contribution

Borka · 20/12/2013 22:15

Love the curly wurly Rudolph cakes - and surely the raisins & glace cherries on them count as 2 of your 5 a day?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 20/12/2013 22:23

Broccoli at a party is about the saddest most anal thing I have ever heard

youarewinning · 20/12/2013 22:28

They were rude. Those cakes look lovely.

My DS (9) came out of after school club with a list of the sweets and chocs he'd got today. When asked where they were he'd eaten them Grin

SeaSickSal · 20/12/2013 22:29

Glance at their arses then pointedly say 'You don't eat nasty sugary cakes. Yeah right, rilly?'

AngelaDaviesHair · 20/12/2013 22:30

Good job they weren't at our Childrens' Centre, we had curried goat!

Those sort of pointed remarks are very tiresome. And yes, if you come empty handed, you shut up about the food.

Fontofnowt · 20/12/2013 22:31

No yanbu they were being cocks.

For introducing me to Rudolph antlers made from curly wurly you are my new hero.
I'm going to put them on everything now even my Christmas fucking turkey.

LoveAndDeath · 21/12/2013 00:16

The way, I see it, if I went to a party now, as an adult and the host/hostess served lots of lovely food, with plenty of butter and cream added and a gorgeous chocolate fondant dessert, it would be very rude of me to go "Oh, for heaven's sake, Nigel, I want salad with the dressing on the side and just fruit for dessert, I can feel my arteries hardening looking at that Brie" that would be really rude and ungrateful.

Children don't go to parties every day and an occasional sweet-fest is fine.

PeriodFeatures · 21/12/2013 01:46

what miserable bunch of bastards. Yup. Sugary stuff is bad but at a party now and again? With children? surely that is reasonable? Fucking killjoys. Curley wurley antler rudolph cakes sound amazing.

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