Aibu or would this irritate you too (mil related)?

[HunterWellies]

So, we've just finished redecorating the lounge in time for Christmas, but haven't yet had any Christmas visitors - that all starts next week.

Mil came to babysit for us yesterday and when we returned she casually mentioned that she had invited sil over while we were out.

Immediately I thought 'oh, I would have liked to see her first reaction to our new lounge, Christmas tree etc'.

This probably showed on my face because mil asked if I minded. Of course I said no (damn it!!) and just asked what sil had thought of things.

Dh thinks I'm being daft but I've spent ages choosing colours, furniture etc and putting it all together. Part of enjoying it for me is seeing it finished and watching our friends' and families' faces when they first see it.

It's our first Christmas in this house. I think she should have realised I might be put out. Aibu?

I don't really think you have enough going on in your life OP if you are bothered that yo didn't get to sees SIL's reaction to your new decorations.

I understand. I'd be the same.

I do like mil (most of the time) so it's not really about that I suppose, any other issues I have with her would be drip feeding.

Also, I wasn't exactly planning on doing a big show-off thing, at all. I just like to see what people think. Like if you have a new dress or something.

Of course it is a very first world problem :o If you want to hear all the shit that's going on and why this project has been a nice distraction from it then you're out of luck, sorry!

Oh Hunter I never show off dresses either :(
People comment or not & I don't care either way.
It's nice when they do but ... sorry.

The thing is, your SIL isn't going to care about your lounge.

If you're looking for a reaction, most people will say 'oh yes, it's lovely'.

But only as an alternative to standing there and actually saying 'meh'.

Unless you've just built a cool, underground, eco, hobbit-style thing. In which case you'd definitely get a reaction. New paint and a sofa are not going to make anyone's face light up.

I don't think its rude to invite your daughter to your son's home while you are babysitting for them.

She probably didn't invite them anyway. SIL probably called MIL and said she was going to pop over, MIL says she's at OPs house, so SIL pops over there instead.

I think the nicest comments are the unsolicited ones. If when you see your SIL next she comments on how lovely your lounge is it will feel just as nice.

Oh don't be sorry - this is what aibu is for isn't it? And, it seems, I am being. God I hate it when dh it right :o

Next time I shall hold a massive party, in my new dress, and be ready with my Polaroid to ppa everyone as they walk in and gasp in astonishment at the beauty of my perfectly co-ordinate sofa and curtains.

ps it's not Farrow & Ball btw. Sorry to disappoint.

I'm suprised people think it is rude for MIL to invite her daughter over. She isn't employed by the OP, she was doing them a favour. And presumably OP is pretty close to SIL if she was excited about her reaction to the decor, so why would MIL consider it an issue to ask her round?

Haha good idea about the party Hunter. You could set up a tripod so visitors could have their photos taken next to your new decor as well.

*pap - not ppa - not even sure what that is

YABU

NOthing wrong with a bit of Dulux op
i have no F and B either.

That's the spirit hunter.

You don't have to tell DH he was right we won't say anything

YANBU - in thinking you should invite people, not randomers

I say this even though I am practically allergic to the whole cult of home-makeover, and people going on about it as is it is a noble endeavour which is exhausting them, rather than just another branch of consumerism. So on that basis I am pretending I didn't notice that it was about you missing the "reaction shots"

Sorry OP but you have lost the plot. I'm sure your room looks lovely but no one else gives a shit. I mean that in the nicest possible way.

What was sils reaction to the christmas tree? I think we need to know as you were keen to see her reaction, what have you decorated it with...something shocking?!

Cheers Cat. He's smug enough as it is! No chance I'm telling him The Vipers agree with him. Although it would be funny to see his face as he tries to grasp the idea that he is in agreement with mn for once...

Although no doubt mil will invite sil round to see his face before I get chance.

Of course it's ok for the mil to see the sil whilst at her sons home......would people of even pointed this out of it were the OPs mum and sister......strange people.

I feel for your mil and sil, are you always this precious.

Perhaps they don't like your taste.

givemeaclue I have no jeffing idea what her reaction to the tree was as i wasn't bloody well there :o

It may amuse you to know that our fairy has her completely bare arse on display though.

Have you included in the decor any of the following:

Brown leather or pleather sofa
Twigs and pebbly stuff
Don't panic posters
Wall art words
Anything with a cupcake motif

Sorry another YABU :)

I'm just home with a tin of Dulux, some filler and sandpaper and am about to Google a tutorial on how to fix vinyl paintwork that a toddler has peeled off :(

I'm looking for the opposite reaction to the one you were - hoping no one notices my work otherwise I won't have done a very good job

It is really not rude in the slightest for your MIL to have asked your SIL around to keep her company whilst she is babysitting.

Sorry, you are being really very unreasonable here. It wouldn't even cross my mind that anyone would want to see the reaction to the decorations.

Maybe you should have thought ahead and had a lighting ceremony or something?

Come on, chill out and enjoy Christmas!