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AIBU?

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Original poster

about the man that shoved into me in the supermarket?

45 replies

RibbonsInMyHair · 18/12/2013 11:16

Only went in to buy some bread. It's a small supermarket so only 3 tills (it doesn't smell cigarettes so not smaller checkout either)

It was quite busy and the people in front were doing a much bigger shop than me. The man started to scan someones shopping through (they were two ahead of me in the queue) so obviously the belt started moving and because I only had one item I was standing next to an empty part on the belt.

I couldn't move forward as I was already pretty close to the woman in front of me. The man behind me said excuse me I want to put my shopping on there and then lunged forward not once but twice knocking into me and thus me knocking into the woman in front.

No apology and he just carried on.

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PumpkinPositive · 18/12/2013 11:17

Did you say anything/give him the death stare at the time?

Gruntfuttock · 18/12/2013 11:18

Is he still alive/conscious?

mistlethrush · 18/12/2013 11:19

I've had someone barge into me with their trolley and then swear at me in similar circumstances...

SMorgauseBordOfChristmasTat · 18/12/2013 11:20

I wonder if he meant to be so rude.

MrsLouisTheroux · 18/12/2013 11:20

What did you say to him?

CranberrySaucyJack · 18/12/2013 11:21

What's the AIBU?

He was a cunt. There's nowt to discuss.

Might I recommend some Muay Thai classes if you live in an area where the locals make a habit of this sort of behaviour? People will only barge you the once when they realise there's a swift knee waiting to catch them.

MrsUptight · 18/12/2013 11:23

A man once shoulder barged me on Fleet Street...so hard that I got a bruise on my chest. I think SOME men like doing this type of thing. Either they get off on it or they're misogynists. Next fucker who does that will get a poke in the eye.

MrsUptight · 18/12/2013 11:23

Oh and yanbu. But move on....don't let him spoil your day. He's probably at home now...pondering his sad life.

mumofweeboys · 18/12/2013 11:25

Im hormonal and tired. I would have been asking (screaming in his face) what his problem was

WaitingForMe · 18/12/2013 11:36

I generally say "Please, there is no need to touch me" loudly. It generally gets people looking to see who is being an arse. And they always look with such disgust.

lessonsintightropes · 18/12/2013 11:38

I have, and would, say 'please don't touch me - are you in a real hurry? Only I can't move anywhere' and then glare, but I do live in London and wouldn't do this back home up north.

GodRestTEEMerryGenTEEmen · 18/12/2013 11:41

Speak up next time.

"Please stop pushing me."

It's really very easy.

Original poster
RibbonsInMyHair · 18/12/2013 11:41

I'm in Leicester.

I just wasn't sure if I was being unreasonable because I was standing next to the empty area of the belt as my item was just ahead of me - but only because I literally could not move further ahead.

I didn't say anything. Wish I had Sad

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GodRestTEEMerryGenTEEmen · 18/12/2013 11:46

YABU for not speaking up.

HTH

fluffyraggies · 18/12/2013 11:49

Use the experience to prepare you for next time someone is rude OP. Horrible to be sat thinking ''i wish i'd said X, Y or Z'', but we all do it.

My bug bear is folk behind me in the queue starting to put their shopping on their end of the conveyer while i'm still unpacking my (usually large) load. How do they know my shopping wont need the whole conveyer? It's MY turn at the moment! Just bloody wait!

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kungfupannda · 18/12/2013 12:13

MrsUptight - I used to commute in London with DS1 on my back in a sling. Someone once shoulder barged me so hard he actually dragged the sling half off my shoulder and then bounced backwards off me.

Whereupon DS1 (just learning to talk so limited vocabulary) smacked him in the face and screamed 'Dog!' at him as he came forward to push past again.

He retreated looking rather startled.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 18/12/2013 12:20

Yes YABU for not standing up for your right bot to be shoved by anyone! Of course you should have said something. Call him out on his appaling behaviour. Feeling sad about it now is pointless and serves no purpose.

Fakebook · 18/12/2013 12:23

Can't believe you were knocked that many times and didn't say anything. You should have told him to stand back and wait.

AutumnFire · 18/12/2013 13:13

This reminds me of an incident on a train that I still wonder about as it felt very malicious at the time.

Train was packed, I was one of the unlucky ones stood fairly close to the door. A tall man got on and stood/squished next to me, which was fine. But once the doors closed he kind of stuck his elbow out and leaned into me, the hard part of his elbow digging into the soft part of my stomach just below the ribs.

I wriggled and gently tried to sort of slide his elbow away from me as I thought he didn't realise, and instead he forcefully jammed it into me even harder and kind of leant harder into me.

I was so shocked I didn't say anything. It just seemed so deliberate, like he knew exactly what he was doing and was trying to hurt me.

I ended up wriggling my whole body sideways (not easy in the packed train!) so that his elbow was hitting my elbow instead and then gave a firm push back of my own, plus a death stare.

He had a face like thunder, but didn't say anything. Horrible man.

Yuppers · 18/12/2013 16:50

Kungfu that had me laughing out loud.. I hope your DS was not hurt, but to smack this guy and call him a dog.. fantastic!

monicalewinski · 18/12/2013 17:05

I always speak to people like this in the same way I would admonish a child.

You do the mum look and say 'STOP pushing into me - stand back there'.
Then when they move back you say 'Thank you, now don't do it again.

It works 9 times out of 10, because it is inbuilt into everyone to respect the mum bollocking.

(Obviously I would do a MrsUptight and poke them in the eye if they persisted though! Grin

letzygonsbezyons · 18/12/2013 17:37

Had someone barge into me today, (Im on crutches), knocking me to the ground and then had the feck to have a go at ME for not saying excuse me for HER to pass ME.
left me speechless!

FeckOffCupofMulledWine · 18/12/2013 17:54

I'm just back from the supermarket and it was packed with absolute fuckwits. There was the woman who was stood with her trolley sideways on at the end of an aisle who returned my "excuse me" with a blank stare, the guy at the checkout who abandoned his shopping once it was on the conveyor to piss around getting stuff he had forgotten and the woman after him who let her DS key in her pin into the machine and he took fucking ages and then so did she arsing around folding up her receipts. Thank fuck I have not got a christmas dinner to shop for so can avoid the place for the next week.

Tulip26 · 18/12/2013 18:06

Kungfu I can just picture that. Epic, I may have to do the exact same thing next time someone is pushy.