Oh, I completely agree Punt. Completely.
I remember reading a book about confirmation bias (for example) & once my consciousness was raised to it, I began to notice how frequently I applied it to just about everything. I do try to be aware of it now in discussions, but I'm not always successful.
I've mentioned this before - but I went through a deeply emotional phase in my life about 5 years ago and started reading horoscopes! I even, for fucks sake
paid for a birth chart. You cannot be more sceptical than me - but at that point, emotional need for comfort took over and I was prepared to put aside the rational part of my thinking, "just in case". If the horoscope appeared to say what I wanted to hear, I felt better (ignoring entirely the times when it didn't).
It's also occurred to me (although I don't like to think about it) that if anything happened to my son, who means everything to me, I could imagine myself finding a "psychic"....just in case. Under those circs, I think I might grasp at anything.
So I do get it. But, in my case, a situation has to be quite extreme for me to take my thinking head off. But that I'm capable of doing it is without question.