To be upset no-one has bothered with DTDs 1st Birthday?

[GirlRunning]

DTDs are one today and we're celebrating tomorrow by taking them out for the day (just me, DH, DD1 and DTDs). No big party or anything with it being so close to Christmas and tight budget.

But apart from my parents who have left them a small gift each when they visited last month, no-one has bothered to send anything or call us. I'm really sad, both DH and I have siblings, and all parents alive and well so why couldn't they even just call or send a card? Such a huge fuss was made of DD1s birthday, my Mum made a massive cake, gifts galore, party etc but this time nothing.

I know, I know, they won't know any different but I do. And I feel really disappointed for them. Am I being Unreasonable?

YANBU

Its near Christmas but a bloody card and phone call won't cost much.
I understand why it is bothering you, its the lack of thought or recognition.
Happy birthday to them both .

YANBU, I had a similar situation. My DS turned 1 a week ago and none of our friends bothered to send a text or a card. I'd never expect gifts, most of our friends came to his christening and brought a gift which was lovely of them and we really didn't expect them to. The thing is, our other mutual friends had a baby about a month ago, last week several of our mutual friends text to ask for their address to send gifts to without a second thought that it was DS's birthday, it really upset me. I just wanted them to make a bit of a fuss of DS on his birthday, they were barging the bloody door down when he was born because they all wanted a cuddle of the newborn. Now he's older it seems the novelty has worn off and they've moved on.

Happy birthday to your twins! Try not to focus on the actions of other people it will just make you feel bad.

Sending a text or card isn't really making a fuss of a one year old though as they it won't mean anything to them. Surely people need to be with a one year old to make a fuss of it?

im surprised gp's/aunts etc havnt sent a card or even rang you maybe they forgot :(

agree 1yr dont need huge parties but would have been nice to maybe invite those round you are close to on the weekend and said pop in for cake/cuppa 3/5pm etc

sadly i dont have kids , but i do rem my good friends kids birthdays and have probably spent £1000's over the years for pressies and slip £10 in a card for them