To be upset no-one has bothered with DTDs 1st Birthday?

[GirlRunning]

DTDs are one today and we're celebrating tomorrow by taking them out for the day (just me, DH, DD1 and DTDs). No big party or anything with it being so close to Christmas and tight budget.

But apart from my parents who have left them a small gift each when they visited last month, no-one has bothered to send anything or call us. I'm really sad, both DH and I have siblings, and all parents alive and well so why couldn't they even just call or send a card? Such a huge fuss was made of DD1s birthday, my Mum made a massive cake, gifts galore, party etc but this time nothing.

I know, I know, they won't know any different but I do. And I feel really disappointed for them. Am I being Unreasonable?

Happy birthday to DTD's--we share a birthday

YANBU. I remember all my nieces' and nephews' birthdays. It doesn't take much to keep a small supply of kids' cards and stamps and get one in the post ffs.

Happy Birthday to your DTD's. It is my DS2's birthday today too
I would be sad if no-one remembered or bothered, and thankfully no-one has.
I am usually good with remembering birthdays and always send a card at least. I am surprised at all the posters who don't. I thought everyone did, it's what you do for people you love isn't it?

Yanbu -

Children of siblings/grandchildren are close family in my book.

Very strange behaviour from your family op

We had this with DC3. My Grandad who NEVER forgets anyone's birthday and sent other DC cards and gift forgot her first birthday in August. My Great Aunt who also never forgets anyone forgot but sent one a month later apologising so I forgive her . My dad thought it was a week sooner than it was... and mil wasn't really interested in pictures of the day whereas she was begging for other DC's (she lives half way across world). It made me feel sad. Just because she's the third born doesn't make her any less special...

Yanbu btw. I think it's sad. It could be because of Christmas and so on but for immediate family that's no excuse.

All my DGC's birthdays are special, from the first one onwards. Can't imagine not giving cards/presents and seeing them.

YANBU at all!

But I think it's more to do with their proximity to Christmas than anything.

Sad, but true. I do sympathize. Mine is this weekend.

Happy Birthday, DTDs!

My DC1 got loads of cards for her first birthday.

DC2 got a handful or so.

DC3 got 2.

I felt very sad about that too, so I think YANBU. It does seem to be the way though, I got fewer congratulations cards when DCs 2&3 were born too.

Maybe it is the postman-busy time of year? Grasping at straws a bit I know x umm if I were you I would probably do a little facebook post and say happy bday twins and hope the family saw it! Men are typically shite at remembering if you have brothers. Its crap though and I do feel for you

YANBU. I'm also surprised at all the people that think it's normal not to mark children's birthdays. I'd be mortified if I forgot my nieces's birthday.

Nieces' birthdays even.

Op's not looking for a fuss just a call or a card.

Happy birthday girlrunnings fabulous dtd's
They abvu!
I am upset on behalf of your daughters.
Good job they have got their amazing mum, dad and big sister to celebrate with

I'd be mortified if I forgot my nieces's birthday.

Ah. I do struggle to remember all 8 of my nieces' and nephews' exact birthdays and they are all under 6yo. They have always had a card and present from me, just not always on their exact day.

It works both ways as well, though. Last year, my DSIL and DBIL forgot to invite me and my DH (DBIL's brother) to their second born's DD 4th family birthday party. We got a sheepish phone call while it was happenning!

It's getting close to Christmas so they might be distracted? grasps at straws

Nah YANBU, my parents forgot DD's first birthday completely. It hurts

Happy birthday minigirlrunnings, it's not about money or presents its the principal isn't it, you want to know they are cared about by a loving family YANBU

Yanbu. Big birthday wishes to your dtds

yanbu at all!
Its my daughters 1st bday this week and to me and my family its such a special day! I would be gutted if they didnt feel this way.
Happy birthday twins from me and minibazoo xx

But Op why didn't you invite the GPs and family round at the weekend, just for an afternoon and have a tea party with sandwiches, cake & candles.

Sorry, I don't mean to criticise you but it does seem obvious to have done that.
It's not that close to Christmas for GPs not to be able to spare any afternoon.

YANBU at all. I remember my friends' children's birthdays and send cards at least, presents too to the ones I am very close to! for your DTDs and to you. Some good suggestions here about how to plan for it next year.

I think, as the parents you should have organised a party.
I don't know why you would expect GPs to do it.

Have a lovely day out tomorrow. It will be fun.

Fair enough Kitty I only have two to remember! But I also remember all my friends' children's birthdays but I am good at remembering dates. I think a card in or around the right day is reasonable in any case!

Oh Yes, NuggetOfPurestGreen, am rubbish with dates. Practically forgot my own anniversary this month! I suppose I rely on the parents organising a party or a get-together, to remind me to bring round presents and cards when visiting. In that respect, paxtecum does have a point that the OP might like to have the family round for future birthdays.

I agree with Brokenhearted and paxtecum. Understandable not to want to have a big party, but why not just invite family over for a cup of tea and a slice of cake? If you aren't marking the actual day yourselves and family aren't seeing your dts around the time of their birthday then it is more understandable that others won't think of it I think.