To expect family members to take the time to write my childrens names in a Christmas card.

[AlwaysWashing]

We have received two cards this morning from close family members. One was to "Always Washing, Mr Always Washing. & the boys" the other to "Always Washing, Mr Always Washing & family". They were not from elderly, potentially forgetful people or from rels that don't see my children?
My children have names AIBU to expect them to be used?

Mmm i have 4 girls and i should imagine it is easier to for people to put "the girls" than to spell all their names as 2 of my dd have hard to spell names.

It doesn't bother me, i'm just happy that people remember to write us a card.

I'm sure they don't intend to offend you.

Yes, you are. Very unreasonable.

Yabvu!

Wouldn't even register in my world.
It's a Christmas card - if in person they referred to your child as "boy" then there might be an issue.
Find something else to get annoyed about - I have lots of suggestions if you get stuck.

But they are unreasonable for sending cards to close family members and 3 weeks before Christmas. So it even out!

oh I am one of those people! I come from a family who like to produce at least 3 children.. I find writing something like "Brian, Joyce and family" just about covers it.

YABU - I would definitely let that one go. Not worth feeling outraged about.

Actually I'd expect their names....

Cards from work colleagues say 'and family' not close relatives.

I wouldn't lose sleep over it though.

Ha! That's me told!!!!
I am massively sleep deprived and could fall out with myself so I shall refrain from being so VERY unreasonable.
Oh and thanks harticus you condescending dear, I have plenty.

I personally don't see the point of sending a christmas card unless you are going to take the time to actually address the people that it is for. It's so lazy and thoughtless. It just seems to be less about actually wishing people a genuinely merry christmas, and keeping up appearances. You can just picture them with their mountain of blank cards, ticking people off one-by-one, like a production line. My cards usually have a small message in them (nowhere NEAR round-robin territory by the way) and are given to people I actually give a shit about. I don't need the people from number 2 posting a pretty picture through my door we don't even know what each other looks like let alone each other's names.

But you'll have people on here telling you how 'entitled' and 'precious' you're being soon

Going against the grain here but I think YANBU - of course its easier to write the girls/boys/and family but it's so much nicer to use their names.

I drew the line once my Aunty had over 4 children and just wrote Aunty y, uncle x and the kids.

I think two children's names are not hard to do unless maybe they cannot spell them or something.

Grandad sends us all our own individual cards for every member of the house, I know some people who don't address the cards too though so it just says

Love from the snitches family

Doesn't bother me.

chattymummy my Grandad does the same! with five lines of the lottery in it

A friend of dm's used to write a Christmas card to my dm, df & db and not me this was when I was a teen still living at home. She was fully aware my dm had 2 dc.
I was very

I've done a couple of "and family" ones because I can't remember the names of all DH's cousins' children and CBA to phone MIL and find out.

We get money in ours Tracy. The boy when rushes to the Argos book to pick his new toys ha

I address envelopes to Mr and Mrs - and family, but write all their names in the card.

I'd be glad I got a card at all, with the postage at 50p second class.

Is it possible that said elderly relatives have forgotten the name of one of your children, so have put 'and family' rather than risking getting a name wrong and causing offence.

Tbf, they don't have to be elderly for that to be an issue - I am not yet 50, and I sometimes get total blank spots about people's names - even people I know really well - so I have a list on the computer - everyone's addresses and the names of all family members, so I don't have to rely on my increasingly unreliable memory!

Just about everyone I know dont put all the names on.
Didnt realise that they were being unreasonable

YABU - I have yet to find a child that cares.

It's just something I'd expect from a colleague, someone who knew I had children but not all the details. I'd write to "Dave & family" to the milkman whom I know has family but I don't know them or them me.
Precious and entitled I am not I just feel it's a bit lazy. Awfully grateful for the card and the cost of the stamp etc etc.

Gosh - are you looking for something to be offended about?

Return the favour or don't send a card giving them the perfect excuse to stop sending you one next year.

I am just envious you have received at least 2 cards. It's the ffffing 6th and no cards for us. Bah.

As I say - maybe it is forgetfulness, not laziness. Whenever I have put 'and family' in a card, that's the reason why. Though I do curse myself every year, for choosing such a long name for ds1, and deciding not to shorten it!