To expect family members to take the time to write my childrens names in a Christmas card.

[AlwaysWashing]

We have received two cards this morning from close family members. One was to "Always Washing, Mr Always Washing. & the boys" the other to "Always Washing, Mr Always Washing & family". They were not from elderly, potentially forgetful people or from rels that don't see my children?
My children have names AIBU to expect them to be used?

I only get pissed off by the card-sender who thinks I've got DP's surname. That's you told, BIL.

YABU - do people really get offended by things like this?

Marrow - as soon as I received a Christmas card, I going to check exactly what they wrote inside and get my judgy pants on and use my festive cats bum mouth if it is not up to my very high card writing standards.

Yabu.

Sitting writing out 30+ cards is a pita without writing every child's name.
We always use & family.

This is why I don't send cards!

They were probably on card no 102 and had lost the will to live :)

Your kids won't give a monkeys.

I think sending cards to close family members is a bit pointless, I dont tend to bother as I'm probably going to be seeing them anyway. And the children probably wont read the cards, they're more interested in the pressies in my experience!

I send close family cards as we don't live near our families and there's lots of them I might only see once a year if that.

HA! You'd hate me, I don't even write our names in cards we send.

Just 'from DustyBaubles, DH and Co.'

OOooohh this really annoys me as well! I have an only child and think when people put "family" they clearly can't remember.

I obviously have my judgey pants on when I'm opening cards. But to be fair to me, I make sure I remember to put all the children's names on each card. I want to do the job properly if I'm going to. Last year I didn't send cards as my mum had died. It caused mayhem so I have done it properly again this year!

Dustybaubles- same here. We have 6 dcs, Next year will be 7. Ive told dh im going to buy a stamp with our names on. He thinks im joking, im really not.

I put all the children's names in - I know their names because I write them in my address book - it isn't hard to make a little bit of extra effort. I only have just one child & it annoys me if he's missed out. Once he leaves home I expect it will stop irritating me!

My god Christmas is fraught. My suggestion is that you produce a guide in time for next Christmas so that when you need to complain about trivial oversights, you can refer family and friends to the correct page.

"Precious and entitled I am not I just feel it's a bit lazy"

I get writer's cramp when I write the Christmas cards. I also have lots of friends with 3+ children and quite frankly I CBA to write a list on each card.

I did actually ask a couple of my fertile friends if they minded and they both said that when they send cards they put from friend and family on them because they CBA to write a list either!

"I think sending cards to close family members is a bit pointless"

If they are close geographically yes, but I only see my family once a year because they live 100s of miles away. It would be rude not to send a card.

Hurrah, sarcasm is alive and thriving on Mumsnet! I shall buy myself a little book especially shall I Apocalypse
I'm not especially offended by it it's just a bit sad to economise on effort at this time of year. Mumsnet does say it's about making an effort not what it costs blah blah

How many children do you have Always?

I make the effort to write children's names in cards and I would expect the same in return but lots of people don't bother.

For me its the same as when people tell me my DS2 will get his bday present at Christmas or if they wrap his bday present in CHristmas wrap.You just dont do it. But that is a whole other thread and rant.

If I can remember the names I write them in cards but if I can't remember I write "& family".

yab vvvvv grumpy and unreasonable

I can't for the life of me remember all my cousins DCs and I don't expect them to remember which spelling DD is.

I do put all DFs DCs, but even after 17 years I'm certain I miss spell the older two and there are ligit alternatives to the youngest.

I can't for the life of me remember all my cousins DCs and I don't expect them to remember which spelling DD is.

I do put all DFs DCs, but even after 17 years I'm certain I miss spell the older two and there are ligit alternatives to the youngest.

Bag humbug merci

Why oh why dear iPhone did you do that??

Bunbaker only 2 and the rels in question are quite find of them which is what made me a bit really.

I think YANBU. If I get an 'and family' card I assume the sender can't remember my dd's names. That normally doesn't offend me, but it might a little if it was close family.

I can counter with my own minor irritation, I have been with dp for 7 years, we own a house and have two dds. I discovered today that she doesn't know my surname (she put the wrong name on). And don't get me started on the number of 'Mr and Mrs Dp' cards his relatives send.