to think my Mother is being unreasonable?

[BunnyLebowski]

DP and I are selective about answering the landline phone. We both see an incoming phone call as an invitation to talk rather than an obligation to iyswim.

My darling mother has quite the opposite view .

I'm 6 weeks pregnant and feeling very tired, DP is working long and busy days. We have DD and a demented puppy to keep us occupied every evening! Tonight I just wanted to have a bath and watch Masterchef with DP in peace (watch TV with DP NOT bath with DP) once bedtime had been done.

She has just phoned FIVE times in half an hour!!!

I know she would ring my mobile if it were an emergency. It would have to be an emergency as she is tight and refuses to ring mobiles as a rule. She didn't. And she didn't text either. Just 5 shrill, demanding, attention seeking phone calls till it rang out.

AIBU to think she should have stopped ringing after one and maybe two phone calls??

Rant over. And breathe.

I don't really get the 'be careful what you wish for' thing either. That sounds like the kind of guilt trip certain types of elderly parents use when anyone complains about their unreasonable behaviour - 'you'll be sorry when I'm dead' (I doubt it...)

I think I must be some kind of freak. Not only do I still have a landline, with the ringer switched on, but I actively miss the days when people used to ring for a chat. The phone hardly ever rings now, people just text instead and it makes me really sad. You can all tell all your mums to ring me whenever they like, I love a good phone natter

Unplug the phone when you really don't want to be bothered.

I'm with you bunny. I often don't get to my phone before answer phone kicks in& I don't pick up messages for week. Working & looking after ds(3) is enough drain on my time & its rare that I want to chat after 730 except if dh is out.

I ring my mum a lot, & she generally doesn't call me much after 8. If she does & I don't want to speak I say so. It usually takes at least 15 mins to get rid of someone as you don't generally get to hang up straight away. I always chat a bit.

I don't know anyone who would ring 5 times. That's really rude. It would make me more antagonistic & even less likely to answer.