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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to be upset at this rude woman

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iwasntshoutinghonest · 03/12/2013 21:31

I was with my friend at the Christmas market tonight and she was walking slightly in front of me so were calling to each other. We were walking along for a bit and suddenly this young woman turned to me and said "do you mind? You've been screaming in my ear for the past five minutes!" I wasn't really sure what to say.

AIBU to think this was rude!?

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Ifcatshadthumbs · 03/12/2013 21:34

Well maybe you were shouting in her ear?

eden263 · 03/12/2013 21:34

I think YAB a little bit U. I would prob have found it annoying too, sorry. Especially if it's as busy as our christmas market and she couldn't easily move away from you. I'm not big on shouting though.

PansOnFire · 03/12/2013 21:35

Yeah I think you probably are, although you didn't do it on purpose it's very irritating when people do this. I can see why she said something to you.

TheCrumpetQueen · 03/12/2013 21:35

Good on her

pictish · 03/12/2013 21:36

It probably was annoying, even if it wasn't deliberate.
Forget it. No biggy.

SeaSickSal · 03/12/2013 21:36

A woman did similar to me once. She had a massive go at me for not putting my hand over my mouth when I coughed but I hadn't coughed.

Some people just have a go at whoever is nearest when they're pissed off. Best to ignore and not let it get to you.

How did you respond in the end?

CoffeeTea103 · 03/12/2013 21:36

Sorry I think it's you that were rude. I absolutely hate it when people shout to each other or speak very loudly. It's bloody rude to people around you.

SeaSickSal · 03/12/2013 21:38

Sorry, if you can't deal with a bit of calling and shouting don't go to a market. That's what markets do . Although I hadn't realized she actually did it when I made my last post.

BitOutOfPractice · 03/12/2013 21:39

Well I think she should have moved away from you. It's not as if you were in a library or at a funeral - these places are pretty noisy anyway. Maybe she'd had a hard day. YANBU

Original poster

iwasntshoutinghonest · 03/12/2013 21:39

ok I didn't think I was being that loud, why she couldn't have walked away I don't know!

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Salmotrutta · 03/12/2013 21:39

Are you a bit like my DH OP?

He shouts from another room rather than walk the two metres to actually speak quietly.

...usually to ask where some car-related gadget is.

Like I'd know or care...

pictish · 03/12/2013 21:41

She was probably a bit of a crabk having a bad day. Wouldn't give it another thought.

SashaOfSiberia · 03/12/2013 21:42

I think you were being rude and why should she have to walk away? You are effectively the one being antisocial by calling to your friend like that and making that woman feel like someone was shouting in her ear for a while. I don't think she should have to move or change her browsing speed because of you. She obviously gave you a bit of time to stop it and then made it clear it was upsetting her. I suppose she could have asked you in a more polite way but you didn't say she swore or shouted, I think she was fine.

AnnBryce · 03/12/2013 21:43

Some people are very cranky. Just forget about it.

MrPoppy · 03/12/2013 21:43

Oh, I thought this was going to be a reverse.

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iwasntshoutinghonest · 03/12/2013 21:43

But it was outside, and hard for us to have a conversation without raising voices a bit! Oh I don't know!

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ArgyMargy · 03/12/2013 21:43

Why weren't you walking next to your friend like a normal person?

southeastastra · 03/12/2013 21:45

she sounds joyous ignore the old trout

EndoplasmicReticulum · 03/12/2013 21:46

Christmas market rage. That's why I didn't go this year.

HavantGuard · 03/12/2013 21:46

Most people learn the no yelling thing when they're children.

If she's not next to you you don't repeatedly yell. You wait until you catch up to her, then talk.

HyvaPaiva · 03/12/2013 21:47

You said yourself you were 'calling' to each other, which is louder than just speaking. Walk with your friend to talk, not behind and calling. Or walk behind her and talk later when you catch up.

Other people's loud calling-to-each-other conversations are really annoying, even if you don't mean them to be.

BitOutOfPractice · 03/12/2013 21:49

Argy maybe it was crowded eh and they got a bit separated? Whta a blummin' rude question.

I'd take a megaphone next time OP and really piss people off

Jengnr · 03/12/2013 21:51

Tell her she'll hear you telling her to fuck off down her ears too unless she moves.

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iwasntshoutinghonest · 03/12/2013 22:00

argy you couldn't really walk 2 abreast cause it was crowded. I just felt embarrassed in front of my friend and other people!

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fluffyraggies · 03/12/2013 22:09

She turned to you and said "do you mind? You've been screaming in my ear for the past five minutes!"

It doesn't sound like she ranted or abused you OP. Sorry, but i think you were probably 'calling' in her ear hole more than once and she had the gumption to pull you up on it. The chances are that she wasn't the only one thinking that.

Why have a shouted conversation? Just wait till you're next to your mate and chat then.

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