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to be upset at this rude woman

54 replies

iwasntshoutinghonest · 03/12/2013 21:31

I was with my friend at the Christmas market tonight and she was walking slightly in front of me so were calling to each other. We were walking along for a bit and suddenly this young woman turned to me and said "do you mind? You've been screaming in my ear for the past five minutes!" I wasn't really sure what to say.

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AIBU to think this was rude!?

OP posts:
ArgyMargy · 03/12/2013 22:18

BOOP she expected the woman to walk away from her to avoid the shouting, therefore I assumed it wasn't crowded. It was not a rude question.

ArgyMargy · 03/12/2013 22:20

Oh no my mistake BOOP - it was YOU who expected the woman to walk away! Even though it was crowded? What, barge through the crowd to get away from the shouters?

BitOutOfPractice · 03/12/2013 22:21

It wasn't a rude question argy no. It was a perfectly reasonable on. Asked in a very rude way.

emsyj · 03/12/2013 22:25

So it was too crowded for you to walk close enough to your friend to have a conversation at normal volume, but obviously not too crowded for this woman to just 'walk away' from you when you're shouting down her ear...? YABU.

sooperdooper · 03/12/2013 22:27

If it was too crowded for you to walk next to your friend then how did you expect her to move away? I think you were rude to be having a shouty conversation with your friend, I'd have found it irritating too

PumpkinPositive · 03/12/2013 22:28

she sounds joyous ignore the old trout

The OP stated the woman was young but why let that stand in the way of a bit of casual ageism? Hmm

Justforlaughs · 03/12/2013 22:28

You couldn't walk next to your friend and had to shout to her, because it was too busy. You didn't like the fact that someone who obviously couldn't get away from you shouting, asked you to pipe down a bit, without being abusive or shouting. YABU

YouTheCat · 03/12/2013 22:29

Maybe it's not really the place for a conversation? Go and have a coffee if you want a chat.

I had some woman shouting into my ear at the Christmas market last week. I didn't say anything to her but I wanted to. There was no way to get away from her.

5OBalesofHay · 03/12/2013 22:35

Exactly what I wanted to say, pumpkin. Ageist sexist shite.

BackforGood · 03/12/2013 22:37

YABU

londonrach · 03/12/2013 22:40

Aibu and abit rude. Maybe if not much room go around separately and meet for coffee later for chat viewing of items bought. That young lady was very brave. Wish i was as brave at market last weekend. It wasnt winchester was it. I refused to visit that one this year due to cattle crush conditions last year. X

londonrach · 03/12/2013 22:41

Yabu not aiba..

ilovesooty · 03/12/2013 22:42

Exactly what I wanted to say, pumpkin. Ageist sexist shite

Absolutely.

DirtyDancing · 03/12/2013 22:47

You should have smiled, wished her a very merry Christmas and walked off. Being marginally polite to someone like that throws them every time

PumpkinPositive · 03/12/2013 22:56

You should have smiled, wished her a very merry Christmas and walked off. Being marginally polite to someone like that throws them every time

Why the need to "throw" her? Surely a simple apology would suffice?

emsyj · 03/12/2013 23:05

"You should have smiled, wished her a very merry Christmas and walked off. Being marginally polite to someone like that throws them every time"

What is 'someone like that'? Someone who has pulled you up for being rude? Confused And that isn't 'marginally polite', it's passive aggressive. Being passive aggressive when challenged for rude behaviour doesn't give you the moral high ground, it just demonstrates to the world that you are an arsehole.

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 03/12/2013 23:18

I wish I was a bit more like her tbh op. I'm never brave enough to let folk know when they've annoyed me except when pushed to my absolute limit. Maybe try to be more aware of your surroundings? I'm not being unkind op. Occasionally I'm surprised to be pulled up on minor crimes myself. I have a tendency to ramble on and on. blush

WooWooOwl · 03/12/2013 23:19

Presumably the reason she couldn't get away from having to listen to your shouting is the same as the reason you weren't walking next to your friend and were feeling the need to shout.

YABVU to be upset. You were rude, and should have apologised for shouting.

YouTheCat · 03/12/2013 23:22

I put people who shout loudly when out in public (whether crowded or not) in the same category as those people who barge into you to get on the bus, instead of waiting for you to get off, and those who obstruct escalators whilst they have an oh so important conversation.

It is just so rude and unnecessary.

Selks · 03/12/2013 23:34

YABU. Holding a shouted conversation over someone else's head is extremely rude and annoying.

defineme · 03/12/2013 23:41

I would have done my best big smile and said a very loud merry Christmas-usually disarms grumpy people.
It's a market and she has a choice where to walk. If it was a cinema or something then she'd have a right to complain because she'd be unable to move. perhaps she was just having a bad day-don't let it bother you.
The people saying you're being unreasonable are also very grumpy people or possibly just very British Smile

OldBagWantsNewBag · 03/12/2013 23:52

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Monty27 · 03/12/2013 23:54

Yes you were very rude indeed.

5OBalesofHay · 04/12/2013 22:46

southeastastra is an old trout.

Financeprincess · 04/12/2013 22:53

So you should have.