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Original poster

To think that a mother shouldn't threaten to 'Drop Kick' their child on Facebook?

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JudgyOldBag · 03/12/2013 13:51

A friend of mine has just posted the following status on her Facebook:

"Just about to drop kick DS as he is behaving so badly"

DS is 6. He found out a couple of weeks ago that his parents are splitting up and he's having to move house soon when his mother leaves his father.

AIBU to think that this child needs love and support rather than have his mother joke about threatening physical violence towards him on Facebook? Or am I just being judgey and should take the joke as it was meant?

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CrapBag · 03/12/2013 14:37

All these people saying its a joke. Did you laugh at it?

I was taken the mick out of me and various things said. It also massively affected my self esteem, in that I have none.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 03/12/2013 14:42

I wouldn't say anything too uncharitable to him like swearing or anything but sometimes I may be a bit harsh I'm sure. In all fairness your OP just mentions her saying it on fb, and not to his face. And yes, I may mention something on fb if I need to vent, DS doesn't have fb and so would never see it.

I appreciate my DS but I wouldn't be human if he didn't annoy me some of the time.

Good luck with your TTC and yes, once you have kids of your own you will understand why sometimes people need to vent about them. Same as partners really, we sometimes whinge about our other halves and unhappy singletons probably wish we didn't take our partners for granted. Same as mums, my mum has passed away and I don't particularly like seeing people moan about their mums but hey, that's life and we are all entitled to vent!

SaucyJack · 03/12/2013 14:43

You're venting on here Judgy. Your friend is venting on FB.

I see little difference.

HesterShaw · 03/12/2013 14:44

Yes but CrapBag, just because something is meant as a joke, it doesn't mean it is funny to everyone.

I don't agree with the saying things like "You're a horrible child" to a kid (who actually does?), but the FB thing is not the same.

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JudgyOldBag · 03/12/2013 14:49

You're venting on here Judgy. Your friend is venting on FB. I see little difference - I am venting, anonymously, to a group of strangers about the behaviour of an adult.

My friend is venting to her friends about her 6 yo DS.

I think they're quite different. And yes she does say those things to his face as well.

Anyway, I feel better knowing the general consensus is that its not great, but it's not awful. Thanks for the perspective MNers

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JudgyOldBag · 03/12/2013 14:50

HesterShaw I think CrapBag was trying to say the same thing as you there - she doesn't think it's a funny joke either

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stinkysox · 03/12/2013 15:00

I once wrote on fb 'I love my son but if he turns the sky box off one more time I'll knock him out'. My friends would never judge me over a lighthearted comment like that! hester my dm calls ds1 a horrible child all the time! He laughs and says 'no, you're a horrible child nanny' Grin

HesterShaw · 03/12/2013 15:00

No I mean, that just because something doesn't actually end up being funny, doesn't mean it wasn't a joke.

VivaLeBeaver · 03/12/2013 15:04

Mmmmm, dd is a teen and sometimes I threaten to throttle her to her face! It's never said seriously and she knows it. We have a great relationship.

tolittletoolate · 03/12/2013 15:05

My friend called her 6 month old baby girl a little bitch because she woke up in the night!

AnAdventureInCakeAndWine · 03/12/2013 15:05

I threaten to put mine in a pie sometimes.

[Disclaimer: Cannibalism is Wrong. Do not eat your children with or without a pastry accompaniment]

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JudgyOldBag · 03/12/2013 15:09

[Disclaimer: Cannibalism is Wrong. Do not eat your children with or without a pastry accompaniment] Grin

OK, I get it, I'm a Judgy old bag.. I kind of knew that when I namechanged....

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JudgyOldBag · 03/12/2013 15:10

My friend called her 6 month old baby girl a little bitch because she woke up in the night! although that is awful. Granted, the baby won't understand now, but if that becomes her accepted way of talking to her child..... Hmm

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LambinsideaDuckinsideaTrout · 03/12/2013 15:13

I heard a woman talking to her young daughter the other day. She must have been around 6.

"Walk in your wellies properly or i'll wrap them round your head"

Lovely.

Crowler · 03/12/2013 15:16

People cope with parenting through humor. Save your judginess for her actions, not her words.

KellyElly · 03/12/2013 15:36

I say things to my friends like 'I could kill DD today'. I'm not actually thinking of killing her, it's just another way of saying I've had a bloody hard day with her. I think you are taking it too seriously if she is an otherwise good and non abusive parent.

Crowler · 03/12/2013 15:44

"Walk in your wellies properly or i'll wrap them round your head"

I must say literally 30 things along these lines to my kids every.single.day. She probably had been walking in some strange 6YO way for a long time and it had ceased to be funny.

Oblomov · 03/12/2013 15:54

I tell ds's that I'm going to box them up and send them to china.
You are very judgey.

Booboostoo · 03/12/2013 15:58

YABU I've written on FB that I want to throttle DD, clearly it's a joke and I don't mean it.

usualsuspect · 03/12/2013 16:01

Just hide her statuses then or is it more fun to judge her on MN?

Cluffyflump · 03/12/2013 16:08

I told my dds (3 &5) that I'm going to find a suitable cupboard to lock them in yesterday.
The result was, they ran aroun looking for a good cupboard. They settled for the pantry Hmm this may be because the choc advent calendars are in there Grin

I wouldn't put it on FB though.

Strawberrykisses · 03/12/2013 16:09

Ah, we are all perfect parents before we have kids.
I just told my two (aged 2 and 4) that unless they stop running in circles screaming I will stick one in the cupboard with the spiders and tie the other one to the tree outside.
Yes, I'm a terrible mother. Of course I was joking the cupboard is too full and the tree too public

KellyElly · 03/12/2013 16:48

My friend called her 6 month old baby girl a little bitch because she woke up in the night! Not great parenting for sure, but a usually good and caring parent sleep deprived and with a child that cries a lot is a very different scenario than one who doesn't give a fuck and neglects their baby.

usualsuspect · 03/12/2013 16:51

There was a very funny thread on here years ago about inappropriate things parents had said to their babies.

How things have changed.

HarkTEEHeraldAngelsSing · 03/12/2013 17:23

Let she who has never threatened their child cast the first insult.

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