To want MILs dog to stay in the kitchen.

[Filimou]

A few months ago mils dog lunged at our ds (2) when he fell on the floor at her house.
It was only quick reflexes and good fortune that the dog didnt get his jaws round his face
Since then we have insisted that the dog is locked in the kitchen when we visit. The dog doesnt like this and yelps and barks and tries to get out becoming quite distressed, so MIL goes and sits in the kitchen with it...so needless to say our visits are getting shorter . After receiving some excellent ideas for keeping the dog calm here, we suggested them to MIL who just wants to keep sitting in there with it.
At the weekend we went to visit and the dog started whimpering again, as we were packing up dh suggested that maybe next time the dog could come in as long as ds sat on dh lap. I was .
For a start how can ds at 2 be relied on to sit still on dhs lap, why should he feel afraid??? Most of all I just cant trust that dog. I just cant. So AIBU to refuse, to stick to my guns and say, if its not in the kitchen we are NOT visiting with ds.

OP in the light of your last post about the dog trying to bite, not just snapping, i really really would make sure your DS is never in the same room as it.

This happened a few months ago and your MIL is still sticking to this sitting in the kitchen with the dog stupidness ...

I think to be honest she has pushed too far now, shot herself in the foot somewhat and given you the perfect excuse not to bother visiting her with DS. ie: what is the point in visiting if she going to sit in a different room?

I don't feel it would be rude to say this face to face. It's the logical truth.

If this is the plan she intends to stick to then you might as well play along and say pleasantly - ''MIL, we hate you having to sit in the kitchen with the dog, so we'll not come to yours anymore - we'll stick with you coming to us from now on so you can actually spend time with your GS ....''

Who could argue with that?

MTB you must stay with these people for xmas!

I cant really say too much without outing myself to anyone who may know me IRL but there are circumstances which make it difficult to come to us to visit (as a result in the 6 years we have been in our home, she has popped round 3 times).

Sorry MTB must NOT stay with these people!!!!!!

Meet her out somewhere then maybe? Or at another relatives house? (if that would help the issue)

I do sympathize OP. XH and i lived a ten min. walk away from his parents house, and they only managed to visit ours 3 times in 9 years (no special circ.s and plenty of invites)