AIBU to not want DH to go out and get drunk?

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AIBU to not want DH to go out and get drunk?

We welcomed DS2 to the world 12 days ago.

DH's friend is having a 40th birthday party next weekend and he wants to go out for a 'proper night out'. Some of his childhood friends are musicians and they are getting the band back together for one last time!

He has arranged for DS1 to stay at his Mum's for the night.

Although I don't mind him nipping out for a bit, I'd much rather he didn't go out and have 5 or 6 pints. I'm concerned that if there were an emergency he'd be incapable if helping out.

He's a good dad. He's taken 4 weeks off work and is helping out. He does most of the nappies, the school run, cooks most of the meals - and I really appreciate all of that. Which is partly why I feel mean asking him not to go out for a 'proper night out'.

I am a bit sad that he doesn't seem to able to see this from my point of view.

So - AIBU?

YAeitherBU or NBU, we can't tell as we don't know your emotional state, as JennyOnAPlate pointed out.

I sent my dh out the same day I got out of hospital with dd2 to wet the baby's head, and he well and truly soaked it! Dd1 was out for the night st my parents and I enjoyed spending the whole night just me and my brand new baby! Dh stayed in the spare room and was right as rain to help out the next day. It never crossed my mind to worry about emergencies that probably wouldn't happen!

Enjoy having your lo all to yourself!

I think you are being a tiny bit U, but am worried about you, perhaps you aren't coping too well, if that seems so daunting.

My DH had to go to Africa for a week for work shortly after DC 2 was born. I dreaded it, was in tears about coping after 2nd CS with toddler and new baby, but we didn't have a choice. Do you know what, it was fine, I just had to get super organised. It was like a military camp, but fun too. We all slept together, lazed together and it was a lovely bonding time that DC1 still remembers.

Can you face seeing it as positive time with your LO, rather than something awful.