So, DP thinks I'm being oversensitive about this. In a nutshell, I think it's pretty rude if someone you have not heard from in years and are not particularly close to sends a message out of the blue asking for a favour without even bothering to preface the message with so much as a 'hi, how are you'.
I downloaded a mobile messenger app the other day as so many of my friends use it and today received a random message from a girl I haven't seen or spoken to in about 5 years which simply read "Do you have any contacts in xxx (company I used to work for) or know of any any jobs in that sector? My hubby is looking for a job". As a bit of background info, I was briefly friends with this girl a few years back - she was the girlfriend of a friend of mine. However the friendship fizzled out as she kept arranging to meet up with me and then either not turning up or canceling at the very last minute. This happened 4 or 5 times and she did not bother to apologize on a single occasion. The final straw was when she invited me to birthday drinks at a bar which involved a 1.5 hour trip across London. When I arrived at the bar I couldn't find her so gave her a call and she told me that she had decided to go to a different bar but had forgotten to tell me..and unfortunately there was no point in me trying to come to this new bar as it was full and doormen were not allowing anyone else in. She then rubbed salt in my wounds but sending an e-mail saying it was a shame I travelled all that way for nothing. I was furious but happily didn't hear from her again so just let it go.
Anyway, I decided to ignore today's message and then received another one: "Also, I saw on LinkedIn you now work for xxx (company I now work for). Do you get a discount for (software package the company makes)? If so can you order me one? Can pick up from your office". I do get a hefty discount but am on Maternity Leave at the moment (she didn't bother to ask how I am so she wouldn't know I guess!). I should probably just laugh this off but for some reason these messages have really riled me. MN'ers i know you always tell it straight so a) AIBU to want to tell her to go to hell and b) I actually want to reply letting her know how rude i think she is but in a subtle way..any ideas?