to think life in the MN world as an adult is rather boring?

[ThereWasOnceAGirl]

Definitely not everyone but it feels to be a large percentage feel that -

You only should celebrate your birthday until you are 10. Anything after that and it's odd.

Why are you buying Christmas presents for adults, only buy for children? So not adults aren't allowed presents at Christmas.

Going out on a Saturday night even for just one drink seems very frowned upon and

Life as an adult is pajamas on at 7 every night of the week, not celebrating your birthday and not getting presents at Christmas.

see as a single parent I get a shed load of gifts because I buy myself what I want and wrap it up - and I never have to share chocs or booze I LOVE buying gifts for adult friends and family as well to bah humbug to the dullards!

Oh no TheGreat. I was just looking on the TopShop website for a really revealing outfit to go clubbing in tomorrow night. Do you mean I don't have to?

oh god, the outfits. Now THAT is where I do feel like I come across as though I'm a million years old. I want to leap out of my car and demand they all put jumpers on.

I told my son's TA to go back into the school and put a coat on. it just came out. I think my late gran channelled through me or something. I said "You must be FREEZING! Where's your coat? Go back in and get warm."

He meekly went in and I realised oh crap, he's not actually one of my kids!

IamtheZombie. Lovely. Go for it!

I treat mumsnet as a different world to the rest of my life.
I have no intention of living my life the mumsnet way.
It bears very little resemblance to the rest of my life.

I went to see a show in Birmingham town centre and we came out about 10pm. It was January. The girls on Broad Street were wandering about half dressed.

No i celebrate everything from xmas to halloween we always have birthday partys and an xmas and halloween partys whare all the adults dress up too we love it as much as the kids and i love a good night out too i love being a mum and if anything its made my life alot more fun

I think drinking in town is boring. And I'm only 30

Really?

The other weekend I went out with my best friend she is a very much a home person and hates the idea of clubbing.

We went to a lovely Caribbean bar and had the most gorgeous cocktails and had a good catch up. We got tipsy but not shitfaced.

Drinking in town is what you make of it.

I meet up with friends at the pub at lunchtime. We have a hoot.

I like nothing better than a glass bottle of wine or a cocktail. I love christmas and love buying presents for the adults in my life. For me Christmas shouldn't concentrate only on children, it's a family thing.

Loving this thread. I had a manager once who was 50+ and still went clubbing all the time! She was great fun and just loved a good old dance.

Everyone should celebrate their birthday!
It's always sad to read posts from people really upset on their birthdays because no one cared enough to make any effort.
Its not about how much is spent either.

Whaaaa?!! YABVU. Who says birthdays are only to be celebrated up until the age of 10?! What a load of TRIPE.
You can celebrate it at any age! OK, admittedly, I can't go out until 3am in the morning and roll in steaming drunk anymore.
I can arrange babysitters (ie, my mum and dad!) overnight to have the small peeps and can go out and have a grown up celebration of meal and drinks with husband/friends.
We go out with the kids as well the day before or after my birthday, the day depending on whether my birthday falls on a weekend or not/what day of the week it falls.
Oh and Father Christmas DOES come to grown ups. I think I'd cry if he didn't

at saying "Where's your coat?" to the TA.

I wish I had some port.

I know not as bad as my youngest's TA at his primary school coming up to me with a young lad and me smiling and saying oh hello! Is this your son?

Nope.

My son's new TA.

I like birthdays, christmas. NYE parties, any party, i dontmind Haloween (its no begging fgs), i like sex, i like people coming to my house, i even like ...SHOPPING! Not only online shopping, i like shopping malls!

Obviousely i dont do all the above but if i had money i would.

I love going out. It's many years sincel i've gone out and got steaming drunk, and i have never been in to clubbing. Live music is more my thing. i have friends that still get very drunk every so often. i am the youngest of them by a few years ( i'm mid 40's) but the most lightweight .good on them i say!
Most of us have grown up/ teen children so it's much easier to have a decent social life now, work committments and finances permitting, although i can say honestly that all of us managed to keep our social life alive to some extent, even when our kids were very little!

I Go out for dinner with dh often,- go out with friends for lunch/ coffee. Go to the cinema, maybe once a month. I go away with girlfriends once a year for long weekend.

I also love curling up in my pj's in the evening with a hot choc, and reading my kindle, and watching a sloppy film with dh and dd with the blinds drawn on a cold sunday afternoon.
It doesn't have to be either/or.

I think it's important to have fun. Ultimately, your children will grow up and move out. In fact way before then ( when they go to high school) they will start to spend less and less time at home.
If you dont develop relationships outside of your immediate family, and go out and do stuff, even if only occassionally, you really are setting yourself up for a fall imo.

I celebrate birthdays, christmas everything in fact. I love a celebration my 40th birtday celebration went on for a week.
i also spend far too much on presents, and drink too much wine ( although i am working on that)
Oh, and for all you bah humbug christmas haters out there, i'm putting my tree up this weekend
Put that in your pipe!

I love the PO threads as when they they say you shouldn't go out anymore, you shouldn't roll home at 2am as you are a parent they normally back it up with "I had my twenties for all that". Well I am in my twenties so to you

I go all out for anyone's birthday and at Xmas. We also celebrate the winter and summer solstice in this house. DP goes out every Friday night, I go out for the day Saturday, normally have a rather boozy lunch with friends and end up home in the evening with said friends where we all slob out in the lounge and drink more. We all function fine the next morning, and I would say I'm a far better parent for getting a day off once a week as it gives me time to refuel. DP gets a whole day with the kids which they and he love and then Sunday is family day.

If either of us goes out clubbing or on a pub crawl etc we don't expect the other home until 4am. DP still holds down a very good job at one of the big four accountancy firms, we have happy healthy children. Yet I've posted the above about our social habits before and mentioned our ages without stating what job DP has, and what level of education I have, and have had accusations of being "unemployed benefit scrounges", "chavs" and been told that this is why "young people shouldn't have kids". There are some hugely judgemental pillocks around these days, and they are normally the ones who don't have many friends, dont have a life outside of their DCs and who believe anyone who does isn't devoting enough energy and headspace to "nurturing".

I don' t drink because it gives me pretty much instantaneous migraines, which is no fun at all. I get a bit exasperated with people thinking there's something wrong with not drinking.
I do however like to celebrate Christmas for everyone, and definitely birthdays. Birthdays are very important in our family.
I don't go out a whole lot, but definitely enjoy it when I do.

There is definitely a small element on here that wouldn't have felt out of place with the Victorians. It's not so much the lack of birthday celebrating, or going out it's the disparaging of those who do enjoy it.

OP you forgot weddings, attendance must be under duress and spending over £10.50 on the whole event is an indulgent waste.

Having a social life can be frowned upon on MN, yes. Hiring a babysitter for going out with partner or friends etc can be deemed positively decadent.
Asking the help of family and grandparents can be another no no.

There is definitely a small element on here that wouldn't have felt out of place with the Victorians.

Bwah.

Are there really people here who think you shouldn't have a social life or celebrate anything? I have never come across them (thankfully)