to think life in the MN world as an adult is rather boring?

[ThereWasOnceAGirl]

Definitely not everyone but it feels to be a large percentage feel that -

You only should celebrate your birthday until you are 10. Anything after that and it's odd.

Why are you buying Christmas presents for adults, only buy for children? So not adults aren't allowed presents at Christmas.

Going out on a Saturday night even for just one drink seems very frowned upon and

Life as an adult is pajamas on at 7 every night of the week, not celebrating your birthday and not getting presents at Christmas.

I think you and I live in different MN worlds OP . Mine's rather nice and habited by people who enjoy life.

But if you live by the rules then it's over but where's the sense in that ?

Dido knew a lot about life !

I don't live my life according to someone else's rules on a random, though popular, website chat thread. Neither do a lot of people.

I cant be bothered with my own birthdays, but I like to celebrate other peoples, I dont give adult xmas pressies if I am buying for their children, but I do buy for the ones who dont have any, and most of my family do the same and I can never think of anything I would like when family members ask so I just say , just buy the children.(they are more fun anyway)
drunken binge drink nights a glass of wine with the girls and then dancing at the 80s club a taxi home however is essential and if I could afford it more regularly it would be a regular saturday night! strangley enough most of these nights are for someones birthday

Water is the strongest element; I'm water - DH is fire. I argue and rant - he argues professionally and never rants. Actually our house gets quite feisty we have fire, water, air and earth in equal measure.

What was the context of someone frowning at people having a drink on a Saturday night? I've not noticed that one.

Not celebrating my birthday and not buying Christmas presents for adults makes my life better though.

Money and time can then be spent on other stuff.

You can't beat lying on the settee in your dressing gown drinking pretend Southern Comfort and watching Strictly on a Saturday night.

Oh, and going to weddings-expensive and boring.

Well, half of mumsnet earn over £80K, the other half survive rather well, with a lot of treats of all on £19K,

I'm the only person with a house hold income in the middle of that. (I know I'm not, and everyone else is keeping quitet!)

I celebrate my birthday. I celebrate christmas bigtime, but will go without a pressent from DH so my DC can have what they want. But expect something nice from everybody else and am always disappointed I go out on a Saturday - very occasionally. Usually I have something better to do. I never put my PJ's on before I actually go to bed.

I remember one poster saying that there was never any need for any parent to stay out beyond midnight.
I said that when I go out, I tend to stay out, so coming home in the wee small hours was common for me...not that I actually go out that often, but still...
She said "well...that's certainly not something I would be proud of. I feel sorry for your children."

Never forgot that one.
Fuccckkkkk offfffffff.....

I am always surprise at how curmudgeonly a lot of posters are about celebrating their birthdays, as though fun is something to be rationed and kept to an absolute minimum amongst children who don't know any better. I am always up for a get together with friends and having a nice time, regardless of the occasion, but my husband and I have been known to take each other's birthdays off work just so we can lounge around together and get drunk in bed (although having a toddler has reduced that to one of us lounging around whilst the other attempts to give them the birthday present of a lie-in!).

What was the context of someone frowning at people having a drink on a Saturday night? I've not noticed that one.

The impression I've got is someone will usually post - AIBU to not want to go out?

Usually with a group of friends to have a couple of drinks etc. Lots of people will say no, already in my pjs about to watch x factor.

Fair enough. But you're viewed as very immature if you go out into town and have a drink.

I agree op. The how much do you drink thread is rather depressing. Talk about joyless!
Posters falling over themselves to talk about how little they drink, and anything over a half a glass of wine a week would see you struck down with all manner of horrible illnesses.

i had to have a large drink whilst reading it

Sparking me too. That money has far better places to be than my birthday, or tat for other adults.
We are not well off. If we could afford to indulge our birthdays with prezzies and meals out, and buy gifts for the world and his grandma, we would. As it stands, these things are not a priority.

I don't live my life according to someone else's rules on a random, though popular, website chat thread. Neither do a lot of people.

I live my life according to the gospel of MN.

maturity is overrated!

Yes Pictish. I have had forty-odd birthdays, I am bored now. I don't need anything and as you say there are other more important things to buy.

But I am far from joyless, I am happy that I have my priorities right.

I agree with the poster who thinks that it's sanctimonious to say, 'Christmas is for kids'.

I don't like to be told, unilaterally, that it's just for kids. Oh yeah ? Who put you in charge ? If that's their view, fine. If they don't like/won't be having Christmas, again, that's their circumstance. Just don't 'bah humbug' me because I have the temerity to enjoy Christmas. Oh and, no birthday presents for adults ? Really ?

Haha Whistle I'll join you on that.

pictish that's completely fair enough. I think it would be nice for you to celebrate your birthday, one treat once a year - but you live within your means, I do get that.

But you don't have to describe presents as "tat"

Agree Sparkling. I feel just the same.

But I am far from joyless, I am happy that I have my priorities right

I don't think that's true, or a particularly nice statement to make.

You have different priorities. It doesn't mean people that are different to you have the wrong priorities.

I don't get excited about my birthday anymore, but i do my kids! I go waaaay OTT at Christmas. I like gin and i was in my jammies at 6pm.

I have my priorities right for me and my family There. I don't care about other adults swapping unnecessary gifts or having birthday parties-that's up to them.

I am lovely.