I know I am being unreasonable but ....

[mumofbeautys]

Me again sorry this is going to be a rant.

so I am sitting in hospital with my daughter yet again, who has finally dropped off to sleep ... guess where were going to be spending xmas.

after talking to a consultang about how important a lung transplant will be as in 18 months ago it was said she wouldnt survive 2-3 years without one, I got increasingly upset thinking about how many .. no offence people have died and had capable lungs for transplants but never signed up. I know I aibu and people have there own reasons but its ok to still be angry right ?
Why dont people sign up, what will they lose by signing.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I don't think you're BU. I don't understand why people don't sign up either.

I don't know, I'm sorry. Hope you and your family have a wonderful Christmas, even if it is spent in hospital.

:( you poor thing. Id be angry too and have been on the donor list since I was about 10.
My ex always said that he wouldn't allow my organs to be transplanted as he didn't want me cut up,. we argued about it loads of times.

Sorry it just upsets me at how many working life saving organs go in theory to waste

This is why opt out/compulsory donation should be seriously considered. I'm so sorry for everything you're going through and hopefully you get what you need soon x

I don't think YABU, I would be angry too in your shoes.

I don't understand why anyone wouldn't sign up. Especially for people who would accept a donor organ if they needed one, but refuse to sign up.

I don't think you're unreasonable at all. I've signed up to the register, so has my H and we've discussed our wishes with family. I agree it's so important.

I am signed up to donate absolutely anything that they can take and simply cannot understand why people wouldn't sign the register! I bet they would be quick enough to accept an organ should they need one.

Fingers crossed that your DD gets what she needs xxx

I'm sorry you're in this frightening and frustrating position, and hope you get good news soon.

We are all signed up in this house (this thread has reminded me to register DC3).

Given how few people die in suitable circumstances for transplant anyway, even most people on the register won't end up being donors. We need every qualifying death to result in a transplant - the best and maybe only way to make random deaths (typically road deaths) even remotely meaningful, IMHO.

Oh and to add YANBU x

I am so sorry mumofbeautys, I have a doner card as do my (grown up now) kids. I would be comforted, if the worst happened to my kids, that their death would leave a lasting legacy to someone, easing their suffering and bringing life and health again.

It should be opt out shouldn't it. That way everyone has opted in unless they go to the bother of registering otherwise.

I must remind dd about picking up a donor card.

I really hope your dd gets her transplant soon.

I feel so angry about the whole thing from the lack of donors to the selection of who gets them !

I have registered for organ donation through my driving licence. I was asked at some point (can't remember when!) and I have a code on my licence that indicates I wish to be an organ donor. I had completely forgotten about it until I looked up some of the codes out of curiosity! Hopefully more people will join this way, as it takes no actual effort. (Prior to getting a driving licence I had been meaning to join the register but not got round to it, which I think many people are guilty of).

I also agree with the 'opt-out' suggestion. I'm registered. Didn't know if I could register the kids or not? (8 and 5).

Without thinking too much about the emotions surrounding where a donor would come from, I really hope a viable lung comes up for your DD soon.

yadnbu.

What is it that makes you angry about the way recipients are selected out of interest?

I'm signed up. Never talked to DH about it actually so I'm not sure if he's signed up.

I'm signed up for the lot. My Dad put the same in his will but the silly fecker hadn't told any of us about it, so his were wasted. Agree with poster up thread who mentioned opt out. Best wishes to you and your wee woman xxx

I've thought for many years that default should be donation, and anyone who feels strongly that it isn't the right choice for them/their loved one needs to come forward and say no. Having said, it's such a terrible time, I can understand why healthcare staff put gently persuading bereaved families to consent to donation low down the priority list.

However, when my dad died, my mother was very pleased to be asked about donation. In fact, he was in such poor health that most of the possible organs were not usable, but his corneas were transplanted. And tomorrow I'm taking mother to see a specialist with a view to having a cornea transplant!

Anyone wondering can sign up here.

And yes you can register the DC on their behalf.

That would probablt cause too much woo woo but what I mean is the demand for transplants is greater than whats available . I believe that certain people who lets face it didnt even look after themselves after a transplant and defiantly not before

It's a really difficult subject from so many angles mumof, and I'm so sorry you are in this situation.

Dame thats so weird ! Hope your mums transplant goes well.

YANBU at all, I'm sorry you and your DD are having such a terrible time.
I can't bear to think of 'wasted' organs either.