aibu so sad about christmas

[hottea7]

So a long story short 3 weeks ago my husband was involved in a rta and knocked off his bike cycling home from work, he suffered severe bruising and whiplashhe cannit work and is self employed, we hsve no money nothing. All our meagre savings have paid the bills. We have 6 small children and christmas is 4 weeks away, he is very down and does not think he will be able to return any time soon, I know I should have savedfor a rainy day but life juxt happened I xuppose I just honestly dont know what to do, I have about £100 left how iamgoing to afford food shopping for a family of 8 let alone christmas aibu to be so fucking sad for my lovely children?

Good luck op you will come through this and have a good Christmas.

I totally understand how you are feeling. DH started a new job two weeks ago, after five months off sick following an rta... He came home yesterday, the company has folded, no job and no benefits as he signed off due to starting work. We now have to apply again.

Have you got family who buy pressies for the children?

Cool that's just awful sorry, today I have spoken to our local cab and have a meeting tomorrow, I have called a debt company called step change to give us advice on our debt situation, I have organised to go and watch the light switch on in our town on Saturday night and I outright asked my mum to lend us some money, she did not realise it was so bad and she said she will see what she can do . I love rubbish magazines like take a break so are going to make paper chains out of strips of those. Thank you for helping me get my head in order

Hottea so glad you can see a way forward now. Good luck.

Have you started present shopping, how much do you need?

I know how you feel. My dp was knocked off his bike...funnily enough exactly the same xircumstances....on a roundabout....some twat rushing and didnt look. But he drove off.

My dp was left on the side of the raod. The bike in pieces...a shattered hand/wrist. Broken ribs and cheek.

The police never caught him .dp was employed with a college at the time. He was not allowed more than a week off. He had to go back to doing manual and hard work ( mechanics and engineering) with his arm in a cast and in agony.

His hours got cut and he had to leave. He was doing manual labour but his hand has mever been the same. Ended up having full reconstructive surgery and could only take 3 days off after. Never had an insurance payout. Theres claims going through...one for medical negligence and one for the accident....we are a year on and they have not payed out yet. Hes had to move jobs yet again and we have not bewn payed for 7 weeks so far. Its crap. Christmas is non existent. Im not sure what you can do....im no help in that way.

Although im finding lots of littlw ways to make it fun. We are going in walks collecting holly to make wreaths. Differwnt cradty bits like that. Making saltdough dexorations. V v cheap.

I had a thread on here about exchanging christmas cards for the kiddies. I cant link but if you pm me we would be happy to send some cards out...always nice for kids to rexieve post! My ds uas had so much fun opening the ones we have recieved and making and swnding onws back.

Hope it gets better for you.

One of my friends had an accident and a claim, he was able to take payments from potential compensation to keep him going
can your solicitor try for this?

please forget presents! The OP needs to concentrate on food, shelter, bills etc.

CHRISTMAS DOES NOT MATTER. Health and security matter!

God so sorry about typos. Not wearing glasses and on phone.

Special- I dont know how to go about claiming anything as we have had no luck. The op seemed upset abput the lack of christmas for the dc. So I thought id suggest some things that could lift their spirits whilst all the important stuff is being sorted out. :)

st vincent de paul society are good in situations like yours -svp

Absent I am do sorry that is shit, message me your address and the kiddies can exchange cards they would love that, roadwalker I will get him to email him about this and try and find out. Thank you

Good luck.

So November was a short month and December he doesn't look able to earn anything?
I don't know how you were planning on managing the bills and xmas all on Nov/Dec wages with 6 children but the Salvation Army, CAB etc are all worth chasing up. And take your mum up on her offer.
I can see that claims can take weeks.

My mum was one of 7 during the war and they had nothing either but as posters have said - they have each other.

I would rather be with tons of siblings that sat alone with a big toy.

I know its hard but when your at the wire like this, its your attitude and way of looking at things that can make the difference between misery or a fab time.

Whiplash is nasty and I can understand why he is reluctant. It leaves you feeling fragile. I hope he is making sure he gets all the physio he can on the NHS. My sister didn't appreciate how bad it could be - doctor didn't really explain and has a result had massive problems years down the line.

A quick call to the Salvation Army to get your name on the list. Ours gives out a box containing ingredients for Christmas dinner and gifts. Mostly it is run and organised not by the church but volunteers who are parents who benefitted themelves in the past and now want to give back. At least our group is.

Call St Vincent de Paul for similar. Where I come from they run a Christmas party on Christmas Eve for families who need a bit of help and it is great fun. Don't know what they do here though but I expect it will be something.

Food bank vouchers are there for people in situations like yours. You can get these from the Jobcentre but also most civic and church organisations, and schools.

Your children will have the perfect Christmas if they are loved xxx

Sorry about all this. Sounds bloody awful. But he's being a nitwit. Either he gets off his patoot or else. You cannot shoulder this alone and his injuries are not enough to prevent effort in short term. Thank god. Funny where the silver lining lies sometimes.

Def tell schools. They can help.