christmas present from parents. Stocking from santa. AIBU to not get it?

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Help me out here please. DH and I are having a disagreement about Christmas traditions. We always try to compromise, as I come from Poland and our traditions are very different, but there is one I just don't get. St Nick always used to 'bring us' all the presents under the tree when I was a child. The anticipation, the magic of it I still remember to this day.
In DH's family, santa always brings stocking presents (i.e. Chocolate, socks and other cheap tat. The main presents are from your parents, aunts etc AIBU not to get this one at all? What's the point of actually telling the kids all about Santa if all he brings are a few chocolate buttons and some pants?
Please explain to me how it works in this country, thanks!

Stocking is from santa, presents are from whoever bought them. And thank you cards should be sent to all. Not sure where the confusion comes from.

There isn't one way.

Everyone does it the way they like the best.

Some people have santa bring everything, others allocate one gift (either a major one or a small one), others have him fill a stocking, some don't do santa at all.

It has to be what makes christmas fun for each family. What other people do is no good if it's not right for you.

oh yes, but it's mostly (but not always apparently) quite bad form to take gifts from relatives and rebrand them as from santa.

Everything is from Santa here. However, this did result in one very sad DD crying to her grandma because I didn't get her anything.

Now I say we send money to the North Pole.

Imagine a family where funds are limited, and another very wealthy family, and children get all the presents from Santa, then this begs the question, Why does Santa treat children differently?

I think it is fair of Santa to bring presents for the stockings.

The compromise could be to have something nice in the stocking rather than cheap tat, and maybe one or two presents from Santa under the tree?

My husband is Polish, not sure I get the point spending money on his family's presents, and address them from Father Christmas, and never getting any acknowledgement whether mil loved her new apron, or not.

You're in luck. Everyone does it differently!! Our family was an 'everything under the tree from Santa' family. I then experienced a 'stocking from Santa and things under the tree from people' family. When DS was small I went the first route and now he's a teenager and post-Santa, I go the second route.

All presents that DH and I buy for the DCs are from Santa and are placed in the living room in separate piles, each child has their own stocking which identifies whose pile is whose. Any presents from family are from that person and nothing to do with Santa.

yep stocking is from Santa, main presents from mum, dad, granny or whoever.
but if santa only brings 'chocolate buttons and some pants' he should be sacked!!
as other posters have said, every family have their own traditions, just make your own.

BTW... my Santa stockings may contain chocolate buttons but never pants. I think that's actually illegal.

I think it's each to their own. Growing up, all the presents I got Christmas morning were from Santa, and when we visited family the presents I got their were from those family members iyswim. Iy seems odd to me that santa would just bring one!

Some people do what you do, some don't. Each to their own.

I know one family where santa brought everything but the tags said 'from santa, from auntie x' or who ever, The children were told santa brought it all but some things came 'because aunty x asked sants to get that for you'

That's the way it's done in this house. Father Christmas brings the stocking, presents under the tree are from family and friends.

But everybody does it different.

here, santa does the stocking and main gift, the rest are as labelled from various relatives and us

In our house all the presents under the tree are from whoever put them there. Then a pillow case is left out in the living room which Santa fills (with all the stuff from mum and dad). Then there's my parents who are a law unto themselves who bring round several tonnes of presents which they claim Santa left at their house by mistake. :)

Your DH is right. Stockings from Santa but not just with coins and pants in them but also some small fun presents. All other presents come from real people. It saves the asking for a puppy/pony/GTA and then being disappointed as you can just say you can't afford it or whatever.
Also, and I may be flamed for this, but I've never subscribed to the 'getting the children massively excited'. We kept Santa reasonably low key and the DC's loved Christmas, they weren't dreadfully upset when they found out about Santa and they still get stockings even though they're grown up now.

We have stocking from Santa and also some main presents from him too. We then have presents from us and other family members as normal.

i remember the nursery teacher asking ds, what did santa bring you, and he replied "a book" - she was quite unimpressed. Santa brings the small gifts, parents and relatives bring the big major presents.

but the excitement of santa, or father christmas. as that he comes in the night in secret and the children wake up to find the empty stockings they left at the end of their bed/outside their room as they got older, filled with gifts.

Stockings always contain pants and a toothbrush

Stockings from santa, presents under the tree from people in my household however in my sil its all from santa so one year nephew said he wanted a tablet from santa and his parents could get him a bike. Another family member does a big pile of presents in the bedroom as well as a stocking from santa then another pile under the tree from parents. There is no set way.

We do stocking and main gift from Santa.

My (not at all) Dsis does everything under the tree from Santa. This means that my DNeice and DNephews think I have never bought them a gift at Christmas, which makes me equally and .

I'm in Ireland and we do it how you do it. My wife is English and they do it like your husband. I refuse to give in

Stockings of little bits from Santa here. Big gifts from family and duly acknowledged as such (though Santa sometimes leaves one biggish one under the tree). We want the kids to appreciate that gift giving involves money and thought from people who love them, and not just some bountiful largesse delivered from on high. It also stops them asking for all the random junk off the TV.

DD is already questioning the logistics of Santa and the evident inequalities of the world. Makes it much easier to explain if they see only gifts that are within a reasonable limit. There is still plenty of magic and excitement in their Xmas experience.

In our house, mummy and daddy buy the presents, Santa collects them from us and if they are good, he will leave them under the tree along with presents from family. If they are naughty, Santa might hold a present or 2 back and decide to give it to another child somewhere else in the world. Our Stockings are only small and contain presents that the Dc's can open before they wake us up!!

The stockings from Santa school of thought means children will probably believe for longer. It's more of a 'foolproof plan', as parents get to join in the whole present buying festivities without it having to be a competition of beliefs.

I am adopting this idea although I was brought up with father Christmas bring all presents, I stopped believing at 4, so am hoping ds gets to keep that bit of magic for a bit longer.