christmas present from parents. Stocking from santa. AIBU to not get it?

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Help me out here please. DH and I are having a disagreement about Christmas traditions. We always try to compromise, as I come from Poland and our traditions are very different, but there is one I just don't get. St Nick always used to 'bring us' all the presents under the tree when I was a child. The anticipation, the magic of it I still remember to this day.
In DH's family, santa always brings stocking presents (i.e. Chocolate, socks and other cheap tat. The main presents are from your parents, aunts etc AIBU not to get this one at all? What's the point of actually telling the kids all about Santa if all he brings are a few chocolate buttons and some pants?
Please explain to me how it works in this country, thanks!

Our version as kids, and the one I'm gently imposing on DH (for reasons that will be obvious later)

Santa brings stocking, main present and a few random bits that usually go in a little pile under the stocking (book, selection box, new pyjamas). 1 medium present from Mum & Dad, other presents from family members. As much as possible hidden away and put under tree on Christmas Eve.

Santa presents opened first thing. Then get dressed (sometimes mass, sometimes visiting friends) then family members hand out presents (and when we were home extended family would arrive then and more presents exchanged).

Worked well for us.

In DH's family the story given was "Santa allows us to go out to work to earn money to buy presents" There'll be none of that bah humbug going on in our house (and seeing as DH is a big Christmas fan I don't see him disagreeing any time soon)

I like that vvviola
I think stocking can be opened first thing. And then get dressed etc.
I like the idea of breaking it up and waiting for some presents later.
I'm not keen on ravaging all presents first thing. Mainly because of the comedown involved, getting showered and dressed and tidying up. I think it's nice to spread it out a bit and not look over my shoulder to a mountain of mess.

I'm half polish and now I have a DD I have also been thinking about this and although it doesn't matter this year (DD will be 6 months and we're not making a fuss this year) this is my plan...
Presents as they arrive from family and friends through December get put under the tree and are from the person to be opened on Christmas day and appropriate thankyou cards sent out afterwards to the person. On Christmas eve we will put 1 surprise present out from the 'gwiazdka'. On Christmas morning she will get a stocking from Santa and a present from mum and dad. We've always as adults put our small sized presents in a stocking so that it's got a combination of 'nice' gifts and the cheaper joke gifts and stocking fillers like chocolate orange, gold coins etc so will probably carry on with this approach.

Ditto sparrow8 in this house.

Santa brings all the pressies I get to first that dd hasn't seen and delivers them along with a small gift from him that usually relates to the main gift and dd opens that first as a tease to the main gift. Dd knows Santa is just a delivery boy and that I (because I'm the strict one in our house) decide what he will bring.

Everyone does it differently that I know but in all cases the kids know the parents dictate what Santa does.

Stockings and 1 main present from Santa.
My 3 year old is already as excited about come shopping with me to 'buy' her baby sister and her dad a present from her as anything else. How do they learn the joy of giving if Santa does it all??

We always had a stocking from Santa with little prezzies and always had stuff like selection box, bubble bath, new toothbrush etc in there too. We could open these once we were up (but not before 6.30am!). Then we all got up and dressed and breakfasted before we did presents under the tree, which were from mum and dad. I hope to do similar with DS when he's older .

Small stocking, choc coins, stationery, socks, cheap tat in bedroom from Santa. Sack by tree specifically for Santa to fill for smallish, medium presents. The main present from us to dc. All family presents under the tree. Santa only brings children presents but the adults don't want to miss out so that is why they exchange gifts too.

We've always done the presents under the tree are from Santa and we take gifts to other family members and sometimes get gifts from them too. Stockings were never something we did growing up but I do now but my DD is to young to understand it all

Santa delivers everything but mam and dad, aunts and uncles send those gifts to Santa to deliver.

If all presents are from Father Christmas, then presumably you can't let your children see you buy any presents for anyone, or let them hear you talking about it, or involve them in choosing a gift for someone, until they are old enough to not believe any more.

When I was little, stocking was from Santa, all gifts bought by mum and dad were actually from Santa, presents bought by aunts, grannies, etc were from them. When I was very little I also thought the gifts my mum and dad gave to each other were from Santa but thinking back I don't think they ever actually said this, I just assumed.

FC only brings stocking in our house, and whilst they do sometimes contain pants and silly Christmas socks, they also contain lots of silly little hints which Mummy would never buy because they are clearly a waste of money .

All presents are from whoever paid for them and appear under the tree overnight although it has never been clear if FC puts them there.

All of the above represents a complete triumph of my family traditions over D's, because I do all the work am more bothered about it all than he is.

here our present to the children are from santa but they know grandma and granddad get them presents to all different but this was how I was brought up

When I was little everything was from Santa. I have told the grandchildren that as long as there is a child under 10 in the house Santa brings the presents and after that it is parents/family/friends.

FC buys the stocking gifts. Ds has informed me that there will be chocolate and toys in there. So that's me told!

We get the bigger stuff.

Anyone do the historical "santa" story about how the Bishop of wherever lobbed some gold coins down a poor man's chimney so his three daughters didn't have to become prostitutes? No? Thought not....

Its not difficult to divide up presents between Santa and parents, that's what we have always done, so Santa brings 1 main one and a few others plus fills the sticking obviously. I really don't get why people would attempt to pass off presents other people apart from themselves as from Santa. And I don't get why some parents are desperate for all the credit and need all the thanks either....my boys are always grateful for anything we and Santa and get them!

Stocking...not sticking!!

In my house everything under the tree is from Santa and nothing turns up under the tree untill Christmas Day but anything from other family is from them, until such time as they realise that Santa is really mum wandering around with muddy wellies and reindeer glitter then tags say from mum but no big deal is made of anything being from mum because we still have believers and believers in waiting.

Dido - my Mum tells a story of how I came home from (vaguely but not hugely religious) Montessori primary school at about the age of 6 telling her a sanitised version of that story and how I knew who Santa really was. (The school was St Nicholas's so they put a fair bit of emphasis on the St Nicholas story). Strangely enough somewhere between the 8th(?) of December and the 24th my memory got a bit hazy and I conveniently forgot the whole story

I'm in Ireland. Santa brings some toys and a stocking. DH and I give our kids a pressie as I think it always helped them to see families exchange presents and give presents (no matter how small) themselves.

Any presents bought by family for my kids are credited to them. When mine were little I preferred the present giver to give my child the present themselves. I just felt that the children understood it wasn't a present from me if it wasn't handed to them by me. Also it was lovely for the present giver see the childs excitement over the gift.

I also found from experience that presents received over a period of a few days worked out best for us than one huge amount on one morning. When they had all the presents at once they were overwhelmed. I do remember one christmas where my dd cried because she just didn't know what she should play with next!

Thats what works for us. Plenty of other families do a variation on this so its really about your family and what works for you. My sis does it differently despite growing up together in the same house.

Father Christmas brings stocking or one small gift everything else comes from who brought it. (father christmas can't get to every one with lots of thinks so asked all the people who love you to help him)