christmas present from parents. Stocking from santa. AIBU to not get it?

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Help me out here please. DH and I are having a disagreement about Christmas traditions. We always try to compromise, as I come from Poland and our traditions are very different, but there is one I just don't get. St Nick always used to 'bring us' all the presents under the tree when I was a child. The anticipation, the magic of it I still remember to this day.
In DH's family, santa always brings stocking presents (i.e. Chocolate, socks and other cheap tat. The main presents are from your parents, aunts etc AIBU not to get this one at all? What's the point of actually telling the kids all about Santa if all he brings are a few chocolate buttons and some pants?
Please explain to me how it works in this country, thanks!

We do pillowcases left on beds from FC containing some of the smaller items that they have asked for on the letter that has been sent to him. FC never brings the big present. But the pillowcase is full of lovely things, nothing boring like pants or socks (except the novelty converse socks for DDs!).
Then the main present from us and all the other bits from us too are under the tree, some of them go under as and when I wrap them on the run up to Christmas, along with all the other family presents before we deliver them. I always save their main presents and other bits to put under once then go to bed on Christmas eve so it's more exciting.
Family presents are from family.
But we haven't ever whipped them up into a FC frenzy so it's all quite low-key really.

We sent our presents to Santa and he delivered them for us, along with a few extra from him.
So a huge pile of presents delivered by the great man himself, but the kids were aware that they needed to thank some relatives. They also knew that some presents were from us, so we got kudos for that

I would rather see my dds face full of wonder and amazement at all the presents Santa brought, than have her thank ME for them. She'll thank me one day anyway when she knows the truth.

I was brought up to think that all my relatives sent the presents to Father Christmas for him to deliver to me. But there would always be something small from Father Christmas.

They only believe in Santa for such a short time though.

There will be plenty more years in the future for us parents to get the credit for the gifts.

Make it as magical as you can while it lasts I say, they will be teenagers asking for money before you know it. :o

Well I was brought up with everything was from FC and my sister still does this.

We don't, we do stocking from FC and the rest from us under the tree. We see both families on Christmas day so the gifts to us and the children are from them.

Stockings are only for children, no adult stockings in this house, and secondly I want to be thanked by the children for choosing their gifts and buying them.

When my eldest was 4 he asked me why his Aunty bought him a present but not her own children. Now that was a hard one to get round.

Presents from family are from family
1 present from me and 1 from their dad

Everything else is from Father Christmas not Santa he's the bloke that advertises coca cola

The dcs are way past believing but play along happily for my benefit

When I was little all our presents were from Father Christmas, including main presents and stockings. However, if we'd had relatives, presents from them would not have been from Father Christmas. They would have been from aunt x and uncle y etc. when I still believed I was still incredibly grateful that Santa had got me those gifts and that gratitude transferred over to my parents when I found out he wasn't real.

I think we'll do the similar with ours, but with their main present being from us.

In our house, Santa has always brought the stockings and 1 main gift which is never wrapped up so you can immediately see what he has brought.

All the other presents under the tree are labelled and are from everyone else...including some from DH & I so there are no awkward questions.

This is the way it was for both of us as kids and I think it's much more believable & fair, so I'm glad we both agree!!

Bah humbug to all thee Santa snobs.

Father Xmas brings a stocking which is chocolate coins, orange, jelly beans, perhaps socks and a little toy or crayons.

One "main" present is from us and the kids buy each other a present too. Then FC also leaves a few other wrapped presents (much smaller) around the tree too.

Mine are all older now, youngest is 12, but I always said Santa brings 1 present and then they could write a list for me and then I would decide what was suitable/affordable, so they knew not to expect everything on their list.

Sometimes they asked Santa for big things like a bike, but one year middle DD asked for a plastic mouth organ which cost £1.79

And yes, Santa did deliver!

Stockings were never really talked about, just always assumed that Santa left them as well.

Everything was always from FC here too-and that's what we did with our kids also.

Presents that other people bought were given from them iyswim.

I never found it odd that parents didn't buy-it was just accepted-just as it was accepted that FC only visited children.

As you can see from responses, OP, there is no standard way its done.

FWIW, in our family, Father Christmas delivers everything until they stop believing in him
(he even delivers the tree chocolates and puts them on the tree even when I forgot one year and woke up at 3am realising I had forgotten something )

Children in the family believe that gifts from GP's or other family are sent by them, to FC, so they can also be delivered by sleigh.

I never understood why parents wouldn't want to get the credit for the presents

We do as your husband does, though now our kids are 7.5 and 9 they know full well that Santa doesn't exist anyway. We never did the whole MASSIVE OVEREXCITEMENT thing either so it really wasn't the end of the world for either of them to work it out, they just think its funny that we should pretend Santa brings things instead of us. Family presents have always been from family, again I want my children to say thank you and appreciate that people have bought them gifts.

"why all the gift tags were in my mother's handwriting"

Ah yes me too Miaow, which left me without a leg to stand on when my DCs started doing it a few years ago!

The kids have never questioned santa's authenticity, because he always wraps his presents in different paper with different tags and the tags are written in different writing with a different pen!

Everyone knows this

Santa brings any presents that me and dh buy and the rest of the things come from whoever bought them. Santa also brings the stocking stuff - we only do stockings for the kids.

I remember when I was a child we used an actual sock which was really unfair as my brothers had much bigger feet than me and my sister so they got more stuff

Stocking is from FC/Santa here, and it always contains pants! In our house getting pants/socks is the 'bad present.' so if you have been naughty all year your stocking will be filled with only those items- for truly terrible behaviour, legend has it that they will have already been worn, though luckily that has never happened so far.

In reality there will be a mix of small fun gifts and chocolates alongside the items of underwear. This is because, although FC knows that you have been generally well behaved, those few minor indiscretions haven't gone unnoticed by him

All other presents bought by other people are labelled as such of course. They are either placed under the tree before the day or given directly on the day/afterwards. FC does usually leave a few extra medium sized things under there as well though, but mixed in so the DC have to hunt them out.

I don't give the DC their present addressed from me (their main present) until Boxing Day when it will have appeared under the empty tree in the morning. I don't know anyone else that does this and most people think I'm cruel to make them wait, but actually they love it that way!

In our house house Santa brings all the main presents and a stocking and we wrap a present up to go under the tree from us. All presents from relatives and friends are tagged from them.

In our house Santa left presents on the bed. Presents under the tree were from relatives etc.

There were no presents from parents which we never spotted must be a bit dim

The big giveaway for me was when Santa wrapped everything using masking tape which I had never seen in anyone else's house

We do stocking from Santa, and one or two 'big presents' by the tree from Santa. Everything else is from us or whomever else buys it

The thing is if you do it all from Santa you have potential issues to me:

One is not thanking the people who got it for you.

Another is Great Aunty Maude saying "I bought you that train, do you like it?" and them either giving an answer which GAM thinks is rude ("you didn't give it") or it letting on more than she thinks.

You also have the relative that you didn't see before Christmas giving the present to them and them going "why do they give me one?"

Or the "everyone else at school says their mummy bought them a present-you don't love me or you would have got one too..." type of thing.

I don't think that it increases the magic to let them think Santa brought them all anyway.
We have stocking presents first thing in the morning
Family presents after lunch
Extended family and godparents next day (or when we get back from visiting).

Then they haven't got the anticlimax thing of having opened all their presents at 8am