To think children need to learn to wait their turn?

[BerniceBroadside]

Took dc to a family fun day. Just me as oh working, before anyone says why didn't I double queue. (I wouldn't anyway.)

Queued for face painting. Not too far from the front when two women ahead of me called over five children from the craft table who duly jumped in the queue. Had to wait another 20 minutes. Their father was queuing for them in the santa's grotto queue.

Went to watch the show. Has missed out earlier as it was full so got their early. After they let us in the marquee went straight to front row. Man in front refused to let us sit down as he was saving seats. When to sit in empty seats in row behind, woman was saving seats. Ended up at the back as people had piled in behind us. Called them a bunch of selfish bastards, appreciate was being unreasonable in doing so. I should have just sat down, but dc didn't want to do so as adults had said no.

Queued to see Santa. Bloody woman rang her oh to bring the kids over when near the front. Several other children with an adult also had to shove past to meet their other parent near the front. Said wasn't on, got told wasn't fair to make kids queue for ages. Complained to one if the people running it who did not care a jot.

None were tiny tots and I'd guess all but one were older than dc.

Appreciate some children may be unable to queue due to disabilities, but most can. I dislike queuing, but surely waiting your turn is a skill children need to learn?

And, to rub salt into the wound, dc didn't have time to do craft so now I've had to get the bloody glitter out at home. Glitter! Fucking glitter! Bastards.

There, not their. Glitter has addled my brain.

My son who suffers from epilepsy cant queue for long especially in the heat as it can cause a severe seizure. He looks 'normal' so please dont judge.

Yabu it isn't like they pushed in their parent was queuing.

You were right the first time with 'their'

Yes, I appreciate that some children can't queue, I said that. However it's doubtful that every single one of the approx 20 odd people who didn't queue had a disability so severe that they were unable to queue at all. And some were able to be left more or less unattended at the craft table.

So they go and do something with parent a whilst parent b saves their place in another queue?

That's not fair on people with only one parent/minder.

YANBU.

It sound every badly organised and I would have been cross too.
There should be no saving of spaces.

creamy the vast majority of children aren't SN we can't excuse all just for a minority. If the parent explained a child had SN I'm sure most people would be accommodating but the vast majority are just rude and entitled types.

You would hate us.

When we went to Disneyland Paris, a few times one of us would queue whilst the other took the kids to see the nearest character/gift shop/whatever would interest them.

We also saved seats with a couple of the Disney shows where the doors would open 30 minutes before the start, so we had 4 seats at the front.

I didn't really give a flying fuck about the people tutting as we went by tbh!

Really, it's fair that some children got to do three activities in the time it took my dc to do one?

Parent in each queue and children doing a third activity on their own?

And there was me thinking it was a family day, not a stand in a queue on your own day.

I agree that the family pushing in with 5 children and therefore adding 20 minutes to the wait had a bloody nerve. It would piss me off too to be honest. YANBU.

YANBU. DS has ASD. Queues are not fun for us. DS has to decide if he wants to cope with the queue or not do the activity. We plan ahead as much as we can to minimise our queuing anyway to minimise impact. It works for us. Hoping it will work in DS's favour in preparing him for life.

I only know from my experience my 13 year old dS would be mortified if i told a queue of people he had a disability. I used to think differently until my ds had a seizure and an ambulance was called when we were at Thorpe park. We now get the looks and tuts etc. we don't push in but normally use disabled entrance or whatever system is in place.

But it's not 'adding 20 minutes' at all.

The queue will still take the same length of time to go down...there are just a few less bored and whiney kids having to wait.

I think one adult taking one child off is one thing, but to try to push in 5 children into a queue really is taking the piss.

At least if everyone is the queue you can see how long the wait is, and maybe choose not not bother. Its annoying when you do queue, you've nearly got to the front and then about 5 kids end up pushing in front of you.

Keeping, I'd have sat down in your 'saved' seats and not given a flying fuck what you thought...

Some parks in USA ask people to leave the park for this.

YANBU. Very rude parents. No doubt their kids will be just as rude when they grow up. Good manners are hard to find these days.

KeepingUpWithJonses Part of the etiquette of queuing is that you know how long the queue is! One parent could reserve the place for one child (as long as they weren't getting face painted too) but they cannot (by any normal etiquette reserve the place for 5 since they only have 1 place themselves.

It's extremely rude.

Yanbu op this really pisses me off to. Particularly saving seats!
Children do need to learn to queue. Your children had to so why don't the other children?

I've never seen loads of kids pushing in anywhere.

I mean, really, if you see an adult queuing alone for face painting / Santa etc you'd assume there will be extra child or children joining them anyway.

The saving seats thing especially...that is the biggest 'yabu' to me.

You see people saving seats everywhere...in restaurants, cafes, cinema's etc. 'You go grab a seat/table and I'll get the drinks' - surely everyone does this?

I would have looked at you like a loon if you'd given me a mouthful for telling you certain seats were taken!

So their parents were the ones queuing?

keeping Disney don't usually allow saving seats behaviour so I'm suprised you got away with it and staff back up other visitors in this matter.
I too would have told you tough and sat down.

YADNBU. Rude it is I tell you. I would have sat on the seats and said sorry you can't save them, we have all paid the same. I wouldn't give a flying fuck as it seems these types don't give a flying fuck either - thank you KeepingupwiththeJones for clarification on subject.

I had a woman saving a parking space a few months ago. Standing in it! I drove at her as she waved her arms and I kept going till she jumped out of the way. Told her no, not on and did not engage further. I am a polite person until people take the piss. It's liberating so next time try it, OP.

In general YANBU, unless the queue turns out to be ridiculously slow and very hot or cold.

Eg. Clearwell caves in the Forest of Dean has Santa and very pretty displays, I highly recommend it.

However, we got there when it was very busy due to several coach loads of Brownies (pesky things Brownies, I know I used to be a Brown owl ).

It was really cold and everyone ended up letting their DCs go and play to keep warm.