To think I have grown out of my friends?

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I must admit I am the first of my twenty-something circle to have dc. We have all kept in contact since school/college.and see each other as regularly as we can.

My DM kindly agreed to watch 18 mo dd tonight so thought I would join my friends on a night out.
First night out for a long long time I must admit but assumed we would be going for dinner, maybe a few cocktails afterwards.

I got out and couldnt believe how drunk my friends were! Vomiting in every corner, abusing bouncers because they wouldnt let them in because they were too drunk. Crying over nothing.

AIBU to wish I had stayed home in my pjs with a boxset and x factor? Or am I just a boring bastard now because I have children? Surely this is not anybodys idea of fun

Touched a nerve?

LOL. If that makes you feel better to think you "touched a nerve" then ok.

I don't know what nerve thats suppose to be, but whatever.

Maybe go and see a doctor about the stick up your arse. Must be painful.

Your posts really are very rude wings, and very funny

I'll have you know I paid good money to have that stick inserted.

Are they good company day time?

I agree havi g children gives a different mindset. Values change

Thank you to everyone thats posted on this thread - been a busy day and dd has been a bit poorly so have only had chance to catch up.

Thanks for the suggestions about seeing friends for dinner etc im not intending to stop seeing them at all, they are lovely people - I think its just the scene I have grown out of. Going out til all hours binge drinking doesnt appeal to me anymore, but it did used to and still does to my friends so think I will just leave them to it in the future.

I worded the OP badly I admitted I was tired. I didnt mean to come across like I thought I was better than them and wished I never started it

Good luck with suggesting "other" things to do. When I suggested cinema, lunch dates, coffee etc. they were always too busy. Plenty of time to dance on bars at night though. :( It was a tough break but I ended up meeting people I could enjoy my days with.

You did not come across like you thought you were better than them, this is just what happens on MN I guess esp in AIBU.

I dont think anyone has said theyre better than anyone.

Hmm. Vomit, tears and chaos on one's own terms, for a few hours out of the whole week/fortnight/month, coupled with laughs, flirting, getting dressed up, and seeing friends... or years of vomit, tears and chaos AND POO on the terms of tiny tyrants, rarely getting to go out, see friends or dress up. I think there are pros and cons to both sides...! OP do you have mum friends? Your old mates sound fun but maybe a bit... rough. It's perfectly possibly to have a big night out without these sub-Geordie Shore antics.

to be honest my 20s lads don't behave like this.

how sad that they think this is fun.

you have other priorities now and yes think you should move on.

oh you didn't come across like that at all op. mumsnet can be wierd sometimes. you sounded fine.

Plenty of people without DCs don't feel the need to get drunk.

Apart from me Limited, up here, alone, cold and bleeding on my high horse.

This stick is getting a bit uncomfortable now, do you think wings will have another go if I get down?

YANBU OP, that sounds like a cringeworthy night out to witness wether a parent or not. (IMO)

We've lost most of our friends who get when we can't go out at the drop of a hat, apparently telling them we have no child are makes us boring and not worthy of their awesome pub outings.

Why is it you're only interesting if you go out and get wasted and vomit? I have a friend who doesn't drink but still goes clubbing. Is she boring?

At what point do you just grow up? I was drinking too much and vomiting at 17. I still love a night out and a drink (doesnt happen much due to having DS), but I don't feel the need to get trashed now. Regardless of having children or not, I just can't be doing with a stonking hangover. Am I boring then?

Or maybe the people that label others as boring don't have much else going on in their lives. If the only interesting thing about you is that you can vomit in a corner and cry a lot, well, that makes you quite boring doesnt it....

Zigzag you are making a reet mess bleeding everywhere god dammit.
I really wish I could get up there and join you but seemingly you have been deemed supremely higher so I shall rest next to you on my lanky pony.

Thank you for enabling my superiority complex Ltd, I might let wings mop up the blood if she apologises

You are most welcome oh supreme one

Bows

Please please please can i mop your blood?

I think that anyone who thinks that is a good night out are the ones BU. But then, I led a completely boring life and only ever go out occasionally for dinner with friends. Nothing to do with having children because I don't and I very much resent it when assumptions are made about my childless state and my lifestyle - often by women who have children.

'Please please please can i mop your blood?'

I'm afraid not Ltd, you're not inferior enough.

Only wings will do

But wings shouldnt be allowed to touch such superior blood!!I'm not worthy sob

There comes a point in most people's lives when they realise they need a friends transplant.

Ive had about five transplants and a half because half the organ had gone insane.

Some friends are for life, others are for shorter periods.