To name my baby same name as my SIL's brothers child?

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I have never met her brother or family as they live abroad and have never been introduced to them when they come to visit my brother and his wife. Somehow though,(maybe through my magic crystal ball), I was supposed to know the names of all his children.

Since I told sil what I want to name dd, she's been taking the piss out of the name saying she knows some ugly children with the same name and that my brother has been laughing at how it rhymes with dd1's name, trying to put me off. She also let slip that it's her nieces name, so can't be used again. . She's just trying to make me hate the name so it's not used again.

Today I've been told again how my brother has been laughing at the name and that it's a really popular name now and everyone is using it. I've told her that I don't care, it goes well with my other two children's names and that I like it.

AIBU to name my baby a name that I love and my dd loves too. I feel like if I name her that name I'll be forever looked at as keeping a name to piss off sil.

(There is a long history between sil and I, loads of threads: the sil who told me not to talk to people at a wedding because all the women there were apparently richer than me).

YABU if you don't name your child what you want to. It's none of their business so tell them that x

She has no say. YANBU.

Name your dd whatever you like and don't let this awful woman bully you into thinking anything else.

Can you avoid having to talk to the daft cow ever again?

I have a J and a K on my side of the family and a J and a K on Dhs side of the family. They are all my nephews and it makes absolutely no difference to anyone. We also never get confused.

call your DD whatever you want and ignore everyone else.

Use the name you love and fuck what cowbag SIL thinks.

She sounds delightful.

Laugh right back at her and name your baby what you want.

We neeeeeeeed the name

And she's a bitch

Love, call your baby whatever you want to.
Your SIL and DB are horrible bullies.
Can you avoid contact with them?

Or reply with 'oh whatever' to their comments.

Just don't get drawn into discussing anything with them.

Best wishes to you.

Use the name-with any luck it'll piss her off so much you won't see her again!

What name is it?

Call your DD what you like, no one owns a damn name and its not like your in the same social circles is it.

Also, what is the name?

She's mental. And a bitch. If you were havering, you must now use the name, if only to piss her off. (Joking, but do use the name you want)

What a horrid sil. Don't even give her the satisfaction of getting to you - your child your choice, screw her!

Use the name you love - ignore your SIL!

Your SIL's brother's child. So you are talking about your brother's wife's brother here. What relevance does someone so removed have to any decision you might take and why are you even allowing them space to have an opinion about this.

Your sister in law's brother's child?
I was trying to work out who that would be in relation to me.

I think the woman who is married to OH's big brother might have a brother. I neither know nor care what his name is or if he has any children or what they are named.

YANBU

(Although I would avoid using a name that rhymes with DD1's name)

How weird. Silly woman.

Next time tell her it's getting a bit dull now and it's not changing your mind. Has her brother told everyone else with a child that name to rename their children to avoid a clash?

don't tell people intended names, only once they're born and it's a done deed. If you change your mind once baby is born as sometimes happens she will see it as a victory.

NearTheWindmill I worked it out to a different not actually related at all and none of her business person.

Use tge name: for a bit of peace pretend to change it, make it something awful

yabu to speak to or have contact with such rude and nasty relatives.

call your baby what you like and stop seeing them.

Why do you even listen to this woman?
seriously why? how is your child going to have respect for you if you say to her when she is older "Oh I wanted to give you a different name the one I liked, but a relative laughed at it, so I couldn't!"
Names have no copyright, plenty of people have the same name,
I think the real issue is why you keep letting your SIL and brother get to you ?