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To tell someone I'm re-gifting their present to me?

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SocksinBoots · 16/11/2013 04:33

One of my neighbours, who I help with letters and phone calls, brought me in a gift last night. It was a fancy, beaded, embroidered, sleeveless cardigan and she was really excited about giving it to me. I was very grateful, although it's totally not my taste, that she had thought of me as I've always been really happy to help her and her family and didn't expect anything in return.

Problem is she urged me to try it on and I felt I had to to be polite. DP was trying to conceal his amusement but I could tell that I looked ridiculous.

I am feeling a bit shitty about what I ended up saying. I told her that it was so nice that, with her permission, I would like to give it to DM for Christmas and it would really help me out because we are so skint at the moment. It's true that we are skint and it's also true that my mum would like the cardi and it would fit her.

She kept saying that she wasn't offended but I could tell she was. I feel like a shit for hurting her feelings.

WIBU?

OP posts:
SocksinBoots · 17/11/2013 11:00

I don't know prince. I remember your post and it wasn't a PA IMO. I haven't reported any posts on this thread as personally I'd prefer them all to stand.

Anyway, I shall hide the thread now. I only opened it again because I felt bad for not saying thanks to all the posters that have made me feel better. So, thank you Smile

OP posts:
JohnnyBarthes · 17/11/2013 11:29

Oh the irony of some of the posts here, berating the OP by being fucking horrible.

SunshineMMum · 17/11/2013 11:41

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toffeesponge · 17/11/2013 11:44

Maybe a better way would have been to graciously accept the gift, your partner not to act like a dick and then in a few months pass it discreetly to your mother and if the neighbour asked say your mum really liked it so has borrowed it for a do.

toffeesponge · 17/11/2013 11:45

You saying you were skint and it would help you out made it much worse imo.

toffeesponge · 17/11/2013 11:53

Please don't go back and say you are putting it away for special occasions. There is absolutely no need to do that at all.

It is the fact you thought it was an okay thing to say. Like you didn't realise it was rude.

Go and apologise. Acknowledge you were rude, you are sorry you upset her and say it was very kind of her to think of you.

You saying the neighbour is the same age as your mother does not explain your rudeness.

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