to want my phone back

[ScornedWoman]

My ndn goes through phases of using my phone a lot.
The last few days it's been about 10x a day. They usually take it home with them as " it's a private call." I let them, as I don't want my DC overhearing their dramas/drug deals etc.
She took it at about 5pm yesterday, then asked for it again an hour later. I reminded her that she already had it. It hasn't come back yet.
They're definitely still alive, as they were banging about and shouting until 3am, and I've heard them on and off all evening.
The neighbor was drunk/stoned, as usual, and blood splattered (not so usual) yesterday.
My friend thinks I should get it back and only let them use it in genuine emergencies. I dont really know how to stop them asking, now that they know it works at their house. Also, their lives are a never ending succession of emergencies. Yesterday was, apparently, a sword attack.
I'm wondering if they've just forgotten, or whether they're still using it.
Am I being petty wanting my phone back?

[coffeeinbed]

Might be time to find your fury, WomanScorned.

[ThePinkOcelot]

Wow, just wow!

[ScornedWoman]

I help/ protect myself by avoiding conflict/confrontation with the violent, alcoholic junkies I have no choice but to live next door to. They consider themselves my friends and thus, I have not been burgled or threatened myself!
There are times when I don't see or hear from them for weeks on end. I absolutely do not encourage any communication/ contact with them. Our houses are joined. We share an entry porch. Avoiding them is not always possible. A feud would be even worse than this!

[50shadesofmeh]

What thee hell, you are letting people set up drug deals etc from your landline? Are you mad?

[coffeeinbed]

Yep, and you get housed next to nice people who let you use their phone.

[ScornedWoman]

The police acknowledge that it is more cost effective to know where the most prolific offenders are.

[cantheyseeme]

And you send your DS to retrieve said phone. Fuck a duck.

[redshifter]

This is brilliant. Keep going.

[optimusic]

Erm the laptop and prepaid dongle was a government scheme to help families get online. THe scheme was called home access.

If they are really a part of the POS then you are also committing a criminal offence. A part of the POS is rehibilitation. You are giving them means to access drugs, and be involved in other criminal activities by providing your phone and any other means.

They would not have got the child back either because of a reduction in HB. If that's really the case, then go to the media, because at the moment, thousands of families are facing eviction because of reduction of HB on much needed rooms.

[ScornedWoman]

I've never heard them doing drug deals from my phone, but it occurred to me that they dont mind me hearing calls to social services, police, DWP etc, but that, increasingly, they say they need to make a personal call.

[BopsX3]

If you and your neighbours are in social housing then complain over anti social behaviour. For example - the arguing, shouting, emotional blackmail, piss heads knocking on your door at stupid I clock and waking you up to ring them a taxi etc etc. Keep complaining every single time something happens. They will eventually get evicted. You won't have to move and you won't have shitty neighbours anymore. Problem solved!

[ReluctantBeing]

Optimistic, that's worrying.

[ReluctantBeing]

Sorry, optimusic.

[cantheyseeme]

Cue the excuse to not report them.

[AmberLeaf]

Very funny.

[ScornedWoman]

He was in voluntary foster care, ie, with a friend's family, with the knowledge of services.
My DS is 19, and less likely to get drawn in to a conversation than me, as he is less polite/sympathetic/less of a mug, than me.

[bunchoffives]

I understand and admire your attitude OP. You are very wise to take the long view on this and have the compassion to consider the child.

Would it be worth buying a cheap mobile and PAYG sim for them to use. Consider it a Christmas gift to your closest NDN no irony there

I suppose someone's got to live next door, but 5 years? Surely your HA must think you've served your time?

[ScornedWoman]

Report them to who?
The police, SS, the Housing Association? All of who provide them with support to keep their home and child?!?

[cantheyseeme]

Give me strength!! Yes discourage the scrounging dickhead neighbours from asking off of us by BUYING them a gift. Thankyou.

[BopsX3]

Report them to all of the above! Even though they may have helped them that doesn't mean you should have to suffer for it. They have a duty of care to you too. They can't keep them there if they're disturbing everyone else. Plus, if they've been evicted or reported before etc they'll soon run out of chances. HAs won't help them forever.

[mrsWast]

i am agog. i don't think i've every actually been agog before, but i am now.

i can't decide who is more batshit insane in this scenario. your next door neighbour's mil knocks on your door late at night to ring her a taxi and you do it???'

just, wow. complain to the housing association, complain to social services, complain to the police and, in between complaints, offer the neighbours a cheery 'FUCK OFF'.

good lord.

[mrsWast]

ever been agog. bollocks.

[BopsX3]

I agree with cantheyseeme

If they can afford drink/drugs then they can afford to buy themselves a cheap phone.