There's a bit of a back story here.
I've been with my 'd'p 4 coming up to 5 years. He has his own place, I have mine. I have 5 year old ds from previous relationship. Started going out when ds was about 10 months.
P has got form for falling out with me and saying that he's not happy. I used to try to resolve things even when I felt that he was in the wrong. Never worked, infact he seemed to just used this to his advantage that I was 'desperate' to sort it out. Now I just say, fine, noones holding a gun to your head to be with me. Seems to have worked and he doesn't do it so much now.
Biggie is he won't commit, when I say he won't, he says he will and is, but we don't live together, not married, he doesn't want more kids.
To show his 'commitment' he's started staying over 6 nights a week instead of once on the week and at the weekend. Potentially putting me at risk of benefit fraud as I claim working tax credits as top up to my salary. And even though we aren't living together, (he owns his own house, has his own bills), I'm sure it wouldn't look good and I wouldn't even want to be in the situation of having to answer the questions. But, he's supposed to be moving in any time soon and I didn't want to rock the boat, so I've been letting it go.
For a while my house has been a bit of a tip as I haven't been keeping on top of it, I'm the only one who really does anything in the house and I'd sort of given up, over half term I did a big clean and got most of it lovely and clean and tidy. I don't expect a spotless house, but it needed doing. All week I cooked ds and dp lovely from scratch meals and made cakes, at the weekend (last weekend) I asked p to help me to have a quick tidy up Saturday morning, to keep on top of it, he said he'd hoover the stairs which was great, he did this while I did some washing and gave the skirting boards upstairs a quick wipe and we both did ds room, spent about 30 minutes in all tidying before we all went out. Sunday I cooked a roast and asked p to wash up while I bathed ds. And Monday we were both off work so after a day in town he helped me to put some washing away in my room. I hoovered the living room and p said I was 'mad'.
He was supposed to be coming over to stay Wednesday, I get a text at 4.00pm just saying 'not coming tonight'. His reasons he were he was tired and finished work late and his clothes got wet at work (he has clothes here), and this was all said to me in a horrible tone of voice on the phone before he hung up on me. This annoyed me only because if he's moving in soon, will he not come home because he's tired and wet?
I left it at that, but heard nothing from him all night, or all day Thursday. He did text Thursday night saying he's sorry and had a lot on at work and that I don't deserve this.
I've sort of had enough of the moods and the silent treatment, I haven't even bothered trying to ring him to sort it out as he doesn't answer the phone when he's in one of his moods.
Forward to tonight and he's text to say that he's sorry for being funny he just has a lot on his mind. I asked to know what on earth's going on, and his response was. He's unhappy with me being clean and dragging him into it, he's annoyed with me as on Monday we went into town for lunch (I paid for this lunch, although he did buy me a coffee and a top) but I moaned as Nando's sat us on a table with someones leftovers, we left and went to pizza hut and I moaned that they took half an hour to take payment. In my defence I never moan about eating out and I'm never usually fussy so moaning was a one off for me. Same with the cleaning, I almost never ask him to do anything.
Am I being so unreasonable asking a grown man who's practically sharing my home to spend one hour over 3 days helping me to tidy up?
Oh and what really got my back up is ds had parents evening last night, he had a lovely report and when I told p he didn't even acknowledge this. We also promised to take ds bowling tomorrow and he seems to have forgotten or not give a shit about that either.