to not make her a seperate meal?

[fairy1303]

DSD lives here full time.

She is currently having a massive meltdown because I have told her we are having... shock horror... CASSEROLE for dinner.

We have this about once a month, it's cheap, easy, healthy.
I know she doesn't like it.

I have said that is what we are having, no I won't make a seperate meal.
She is telling me not to serve her any. She doesn't want it. She is crying because she 'isn't allowed any dinner'. She has phoned MIL to tell her. She is about to phone my mum to tell her too. She has phoned daddy at work to tell him.

Now, I'm pretty strict. I'm also aware of the wsm stuff.

AIBU to say: that is what we are having. There will be nothing else?

Or am I being too hard on her?

She's 8

I have never been to a formal meal where there is only one option, but even if there was they are normally meals which have multiple parts (meat, veg etc) rather than being a casserole type dish so at least it is easy to eat just the bits you like. I certainly wouldn't eat something I didn't like though!

I eat anything. I find it cringeworthy when adults are fussy, tbh (there seem to be a fair few of them on this thread!). I wouldn't call veggies 'fussy' but I would expect them to eat anything and everything veggie.

I would never cook two hot meals for kids of an evening. I'd be broke and knackered. All the food I cook is palatable and therefore perfectly fine for children to eat. And they do

OP, your DSD is lucky to have fresh, home-cooked, nutritious food for dinner! Stick to your guns and best of luck!

I think it is ridiculous to make meals that you know she hates.

What food do you find abhorrent - why not make that for yourself tomorrow.

"And yet I also have a daughter who will eat anything (apart from salmon and mushrooms) from steak to foie gras, you name it, she will eat it and I haven't been strict - I've let her find her own way.

I just don't get how expressing a taste preference is bleating. I meal plan quite easily taking her likes into consideration."

(just out of interest - how many children have you got?)

And I have no problems with my children having taste preferences. If I take them out for a meal I try to accommodate these preferences, if I can do it and keep everyone happy. But I'm not going to prepare them a separate meal at home because they don't fancy what I'm cooking.

She doesn't hate it! She normally eats it. It just sounds as though it isn't her favourite.

"I certainly wouldn't eat something I didn't like though!"

What - not even out of politeness? Respect and consideration for someone who has worked hard to prepare you a meal?

Dare I say it - rude and ungrateful, much?

I don't think disliking certain foods makes you fussy. I am not a fussy eater but I really can't stand lamb -even the smell knocks me sick - so I wouldn't eat it.

Yermina - I have one DD.

Sometimes I fancy eating salmon though - rather than me never eating it, I prepare her something else so we're all happy.

I'd be quite happy to do the same with more children had we been able to have more.

Not even out of politeness, I am not going to force myself to eat food I don't like. I will eat other parts of the meal but I am not going to eat food I dislike. I would say it was rude to expect someone to eat something they didn't like personally!

Well, obviously OP knows her stepdaughter and can better judge if it's a bit put on.

Sounds pretty unappetising to me tbh!

"And yet I also have a daughter who will eat anything (apart from salmon and mushrooms) from steak to foie gras, you name it,"

Steak and foie gras? I raise you winkles and liver. (not together! )

"Not even out of politeness, I am not going to force myself to eat food I don't like. I will eat other parts of the meal but I am not going to eat food I dislike. I would say it was rude to expect someone to eat something they didn't like personally!"

Are you 12?

I allow tge kids to have 1/2 things they hate and will never be made to eat, everything else they have to try everytime it's on their plate.

am I the only one wanting your recipe

No, I am an adult and as such I will decide what I want to eat.

She ate it. All of it.

I gave her some couscous to go with it (she loves couscous) - she tried to say she didn't want that either, didn't want ANYTHING, everyone carried on as normal - she polished off the lot.

For those that are asking - it is some adapted slimming world recipe - sort of a take on a veg tagine type thing I guess

Chick peas
Lentils
Baked beand
Chopped tomatoes
Whatever veg there is
Veg stock
Bit of cheese added at the end
I put sausages in (veggie) because it makes it more edible for DSD.

We normally eat it on its own esp if potatoes in it but had couscous today and it was yum!

Amberleaf what about a formal dinner? A work thing or being invited by someone you don't know well or a wedding?

As Sirzy says, Most meals of that nature have more than one option.

I like most things anyway so not an issue that would come up much.

If I went to a formal 'do' that served up veggie casserole I think I would leave as quick as and go home for something nice

"Yermina - I have one DD.

Sometimes I fancy eating salmon though - rather than me never eating it, I prepare her something else so we're all happy.

I'd be quite happy to do the same with more children had we been able to have more."

More fool you I say.

But hey ho, some of us have better things to do like mumsnetting than spend evenings playing a short order cook to cater for the dietary whims of our children.

Good result fairy!

Thanks!

Now I just have to concentrate on getting her to stay in the cupboard under the stairs after doing her chores

Good for you for sticking to your guns!

So she didn't 'hate' it after all - it just isn't her favourite. I see nothing wrong with expecting a child to eat something they have previously eaten.

Well done!
You were being perfectly reasonable in the first place-glad you stuck to it.

Mmmm-couscous:-)

I made lasagne tonight. DS2 loves it. DD doesn't like it. DS1 likes it without cheese on.

I made it without cheese, let DS2 choose the accompanying veg and did chicken nuggets and waffles for DD as the oven was on anyway. I have tried enough times to know that DD genuinely doesn't like lasagne and now in the routine of when I make it she gets as above or a tin of soup. She is fine with that, DS2 gets his favourite and no stress.

I often make 3 different things on a weekend for lunch and it doesn't bother me as most of the time I cook one thing and all is fine.

That sounds pretty horrific

Ha ha! She ate it in the end. Shows you were right not to make something else. Hope she phones MIL and tells her...