to not make her a seperate meal?

[fairy1303]

DSD lives here full time.

She is currently having a massive meltdown because I have told her we are having... shock horror... CASSEROLE for dinner.

We have this about once a month, it's cheap, easy, healthy.
I know she doesn't like it.

I have said that is what we are having, no I won't make a seperate meal.
She is telling me not to serve her any. She doesn't want it. She is crying because she 'isn't allowed any dinner'. She has phoned MIL to tell her. She is about to phone my mum to tell her too. She has phoned daddy at work to tell him.

Now, I'm pretty strict. I'm also aware of the wsm stuff.

AIBU to say: that is what we are having. There will be nothing else?

Or am I being too hard on her?

She's 8

I think it will get to the 1000 posts fairy without 'the horrors of leftovers'.

Toys - I grew up thinking my parents were quite lax. I now realise they were tyrants for serving me runner beans when they knew I didn't like them!

I only eat sprouts at Christmas in order to have fuel against dp's bum.

Fairy, who'd have thought it? She must really really hate that casserole.

Ooooh mousmous that sounds completely delicious!

That reminds me, have people started to put their sprouts on to boil for Christmas yet? Can I get away with leaving it until next week?

Sprouts go on to boil in the same week that I make the Christmas cake - so tomorrow then.

Ok, fairy, so you don't know. Nature wins by a mile - don't congratulate yourself too much!

Who said I was little - there you go projecting! And I certainly am not offensive. I just disagree with your attitude to eating (although you basically handled the OP situation correctly - in the end) and am simply taking a chance to advocate a more inclusive and interactive menu planning and cooking process, so that everyone can feel like they have a little bit if control -within reason. I would also like suggest that any old concoction does not tasty casserole make. Sorry about that, but it's true.

Youthecat - in fairness, she is having it with chicken kiev (her favourite) - but especially asked me for some casserole with it!

Prepares for onslaught about the horror of mixing my utilitarian slop with a ready made kiev

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I like sprouts, even though we almost never had them at home. DH hates tgem precisely because they were served to him every week. Mmmmm…
sprouts

Did you eat it, toys?

Her mother will eat nothing but cod or chicken nuggets. No joke.

Nurture. Not nature.

'mixing my utilitarian slop with a ready made kiev'

All sounds very Soviet!

Oh my goodness, fairy! That will be.. interesting. And very proteiny.

Imagine the flatulence!

Calling Toys an offensive little person is distinctly not on

Neither is her telling me that I am force feeding my stepdaughter utilitarian slop, don't care about her feelings, probably because I'm not her actual parent.

Oh and I can't cook.

She has been extremely offensive.
Disgustingly so.

Ahem.. sorry, but your sample of 1 is not representative of the overall findings. Anyway, I don't remember if I did always eat the sprouts. They weren't compulsory.. Not like at DH's house.

Neither is your sample my love.

I never said anything about you not caring about her feelings, because sge us "only" your step daughter. Never ever nentioned that AT ALL. And I know it's not nice to be told something you have cooked is not actually very attractive (rather sounds like a cupboard emptying, protein-packing exercise), but I am only being honest about it, as have many others. This may possibly be a factor in why DSD claims(?) to dislike casserole: as you don't work with even a vague recipe, the quality and taste of the casserole probably fluctuates according to whatever leftovers you lob in it each time.

Yeah. I didn't notice her being 'disgustingly offensive' at all tbh.

It is actually!

No it isn't.

Tbh there have been plenty more offensive towards the OP.

How do you know I didn't follow a recipe?

I said quite clearly it was an adapted SW one.

I have found you to be very offensive. Others have also pointed this out.

I made my cake yesterday so you're right, I should probably get cracking. So to speak.

Thanks Beeyump.