Warning long and a little complex.
I have a DD9 with SN - social and communication disorder. She experienced bulling for quite a long time at her precious school, one of the girls involved was an adopted child with a parent who felt she could do no wrong. The girl would basically Chinese burn my DD's arm every day and had on one occasion strangled my little girl. I had been into school about this but was basically fobbed off and told my DD was exaggerating this and other incidents.
( A cahms nurse did an observation and actually confirmed the bulling plus my daughter being used as a scape goat by the teacher for any problems in the class and my DD is now at a different school)
However in the summer term before I moved her, this parent shouted at my daughter as we were in the school car park, asking her what the hell she had done to her dd. I asked her not to shout at my daughter and if she had any problems to speak to me or school. She also told my daughter to 'shut her gob' when my dd said she hadn't done anything and had no idea what the lady was talking about. School and some great friends did deal with this, and the woman apologised eventually. I gave permission for school to tell her my daughter had a SN and my friends also told the woman that my daughter had lost her farther recently. My DD was extremely upset at some strange woman shouting at her for no reason.
I hoped by moving school we would avoid this toxic woman as well as the bulling but as we live in a village it has not been 100% possible.
My DD went into the local shop and this woman was in the there and in a sneary voice asked if she liked her new school and had she made any friends. My DD looked her straight in the eye and said 'Its non of your business' and walked out. Rude, but to be honest as far as I was concerned understandable. We have since avoided the shop.
Then last week we were in Tesco's and while I was doing the self check out DD went to change a t shirt in the clothing section. She came back and said I saw MRS XXX over there. I said did you and she just went quite - not wanting to make a drama I did not ask any more. The next day my DD told me that the the woman had told her to 'Fuck of you little bitch'
Now I know INBU to be appalled at this woman, but DD and I have talked it through and she is ok .
However I have been told by a friend this woman is going before the fostering panel next week and the though of her having vulnerable and possible SN children in her care is not sitting well with me. She has shouted at someone else's child without even knowing both sides of the story, and even when told my DD was vulnerable chose to swear at her again.
I happen to know one of the lead SW's who advise the panel - do I 'report' what's happened and possibly ruin her fostering career or just step away?