Are some women really this close???

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I'm watching an episode of SATC and I just nearly spat my tea out in shock when Samantha) went into the bathroom with Carrie to help her remove her diaphragm which was stuck

Now I know some female friends can be really close, and I know that SATC isn't real life....but seriously.....are there women out there who are genuinely this close to their friends???

If someone I knew collapsed in a club toilet they would be going to hospital.

Alcohol poisoning is pretty serious. As is having your drink spiked.

Yes I have a friend I have done something similar with. We don't discuss it but that's what friends are for

Then she was not in a position to consent to what was happening.

tigerbomb you never weed in front of your husband?
Wow!

Dear God no I have never done anything like that and nor would I unless it was a life or death situation !

I'd do it, or get a friend to do it if needed. Obv I'd go to the docs if possible, but if that wasn't an option I would ask a very close, good friend to fish it out.
My closest female friends have seen everything of mine and I have seen everything of theirs in the decades we've known each other.

My dh had impacted bowels in Africa when on training and his mate had to dig him out with a spoon

Now that is yuk

If someone is incapable of carrying out basic self care tasks then they are in no state to consent to strangers fishing around in their vagina, except those acting in a professional capacity.

I asked my friend to be my midwife!

Ok, so leaving her covered in her own shit, puke & period blood is somehow kinder & more ethical than getting her cleaned up and allowing her a bit of dignity?
I get what you're saying about consent & that but could you imagine turning up to a&e with a pissed up woman on a Saturday night because you needed someone to wipe her arse & change her tampon??

After a drunk night out my then DP's brother was doubly incontinent. I helped strip, bath and redress him and then sat up checking he was OK. I had been a nurse for 10 years by this point.

Various friends have had me have a quick look at something and some have been very personal. I can usually manage my own issues by myself with a deep breath, a shot of brandy and a mirror.

OP, you do know that sometimes people put their fingers and other objects or body parts inside each other's vaginas for well, fun?

I really wish I hadn't read this thread. It's the embodiment of the term "too much information."

BLEURGH at "dig him out with a spoon". Just bleurgh, and puke, and reeeeally?! Couldn't he use his own finger or something? Plus how much would it hurt to have a spoon dug up there?!

In answer to the op: yes, some women are that close! I remember being similarly close to my uni friends, and I'm sure if one of us had needed help it would have been gladly given.

Mrsmindcontrol in the situation you describe your friends sound lovely. I'm sure that girl really wouldn't have preferred being dumped at a and e or her family being told.

Yeah, I'd scoop stuff out of my best friends fanny. No issue here!

Think I would point my friend in the direction of her GP rather than poke about her privates trying to locate a diaphragm
I am never going to be that close to my friends

^Really? You guys would have left her in the recovery position while she was puking & shitting herself? And then presumably toddled off to bed, happy in the knowledge you'd done all you were comfortable with.
Wow. Nice.^

One, I don't think touching someone without full consent is "nice". I'd be very upset if I happened to remember I had had a stranger fishing in my vagina. And touching someone with out consent is sexual assault. You have no way of knowing how someone will react the next morning to a stranger touching them without full consent. Maybe they will be grateful maybe it will be a real trigger of previous abuse.

And two a 40 year old in that situation needs to learn a fucking lesson.
I don't know why people think having stories like that are funny, it's not, it's disgusting and dangerous. And I would question why an unaddicted person let themselves get in to that situation and think maybe this is the wake up call they need. I think the people out with her would have a good idea if she had drunk herself in to this situation..if she was acting like that and the alcohol didn't tally with the mess I was dealing with I'd take her straight to A&E to check for a physical illness or spiking.

I said I would watch her in recovery position, not leave her. But honestly if there was a risk someone is that bad off it might be a situation where you take them to see a HCP anyway.

I would do it if I had to.

not just for a close friend. needs must

I'd be horrified if someone changed my tampon whilst I was unconscious.

caitlin17 you might have preferred strangers doing that for you to HCP, but many people (myself included) would not. They are all strangers to you but at least they are medically trained and will have dealt with worse. You can't know how this woman really felt. It's best not to guess.

my friends wedding dress was ridiculously huge a bit of a faff I had to help her to the toilet on her wedding day I did draw the line and wiping though

BlackholesAndRevelations laughing so much at your name and the comment you picked ti quote! It fist so well

re: the tampon changing, I think I would only do this for a DD, not a friend and not a stranger - I do agree, they could end up claiming sexual assault, and people need to think of THEMSELVES first sometimes.

For the same reason I would not expect DH to go unaccompanied to assist a drunk/distressed/distraught young woman, because he would be putting himself in a position of vulnerability - to have someone else there or call the professionals is sometimes better than helping on your own.