Babies, am I ready?

[Flowerybitch]

I think I would like some mums advise on this one please... Me and my fiancé are getting married next year (I will be 24) I feel very broody and want to start trying for a baby straight away, my OH wants to leave it a few years first (he's 27). We have lived together 4 years and I know he wants kids eventually but not yet.. To the mums out there should I wait or start trying straight away? I feel like I'm/ where ready but We have the rest of my life's to have children but then I feel like we are only getting older too... How old we're you? Were you ready? Should we wait a few years?

What a thoughtful post, KeepingUpWithTheJones. Thank you for writing it as I couldn't have put it better myself.

Enjoy being married for a little while. Once your wedding is over you will be in a lovely post-nuptial bubble. Enjoy it! We suddenly had £300 per month extra after the wedding because we had been putting £300 per month aside to pay for it. We took little trips and had lots of 'us' time. By the time we had our daughter we were both ready. It felt right, not rushed. Dont put a time limit on how long you wait, just enjoy the time you have together and relax knowing that you have it all to come. You might find that, in a year or so, your DF wants to start trying, but you must let him come to that conclusion on his own.

Doesn't matter how ready you are. If your OH isn't ready then you'll have to wait. You both need to feel ready.

Give yourselves a year as a married couple to enjoy being married, save a bit of money ect. Then discuss it again with him. Once the weddings over and you have both had a bit of time, perhaps show your serious by saving some cash on your own; discuss it with him. He may have had a change of heart by then and feel more ready.

Thank you gonewiththewind your exactly right if I can't ask experienced mummy's who can I ask lol... Really useful advise :-)

Wait, your partner clearly isn't ready as he has told you this-be an adult & listen to him.

I understand where you are coming from me and oh are in similar situation except he is 30 and I am 23, all I have to do is google horrible birth stories and realise I'm really not ready yet!