To think its a bit sinister when couples have a joint Facebook account?

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Is it just me or is it a bit weird when couples have a joint Facebook account eg his name/ her name/ surname?

Apart from anything else you've no idea which one of them is posting but aside from that it seems a bit too controlling and distrusting for my liking.

I completely understand people who don't like Facebook full stop but this hybrid seems proper strange to me.

The only people I know with this, she is very much in charge. With good reason as every other male in his family spends too much time in Thailand IYKWIM.

That's my point MrsTP, there always seems to be some sinister undertone where this is the case.

Quite possibly. However, I have learned over the years that the inside of other people's marriages is a mystery to me.

YABU. I know one couple who do this to see photos of their beloved nieces and nephews thousands of bloody photos which they really don't care about and, as neither of them actually wanted a fb account, they did a joint one and whoever has the misfortune to sees the photos first puts a doting comment.

I know some couples who have a joint email for the same reason, although with email they have separate addresses too.

I think it's strange.

You are probably right Mrs TP, behind closed doors and all that.

It just baffles me. It's not exactly hugely inconvenient to each have your own account.

It is totally weird, creepy and controlling.

What CeliaLytton said. Nothing strange about it at all. I don't have a joint one, but I only use mine if there's no other choice.

Oh, I know people like this. It's really odd.

One couple also have pages for their dogs

I don't get how it's controlling.

I have married friends who share the same email address.
Controlling husband. All very dodgy.

How can it not have an element of controlling? They are individuals, they are not some mutant creature morphed into one being so why do they feel the need to represent themselves as one being on a social network site?

Because some couples get all weirdy-couply like that.

I don't see how it's controlling though.

It's controlling because some couples do it because they don't trust each other to hVe individual profiles.

Ah okay I see.

The couples that I know who do it (only two) aren't controlling one another. They are more of the 'look how happy and in love we are' camp which is just...

It's confusing knowing which one posted sometimes. But normally they post sickening happy love statuses.

You might be right alexa. I'm not even a big feminist or anything but I am my own person and I genuinely don't understand why anyone would want to be represented as a co-joined being in this way.

As I said, you don't evenknw which if them s posting unless the refer to the outer or something with identifies them.

Having seperate accounts is fine but having to share an account definitely rings controlling alarm bells to me.

Can't even begin to correct that middle paragraph!

It is strange - have 3 friends who have this and as you said you don't know who is posting - tbh I think it's generally the female

Also have friends who have accounts for their dogs/ horses/ cats and some have them for their children an tag then in pics and they are 6mts 2/3yrd old. Weird !!!

I've certainly never seen it as controlling (with the people I know) and it's just all very show-offey.

They post a lot about where they've been for dinner and they check in everywhere and post happy lovey dovey pictures and it's horrific.

I've never come across this before, but yes it sounds a bit weird.

Similarly I can't stand the joint (or even worse, whole family) email addresses. When I mentioned it to someone who had one she replied rather smugly 'Oh but DH and I have no secrets from each other'. Maybe not (neither do Mr Gain and me) but I sodding well have secrets from your DH thank you so much.

Email contact stopped fairly soon after that!

I have a couple in our family who do this but it's simply because they aren't bothered enough about facebook to do individual accounts but its also the only way of seeing photos of their nephew. They have a joint email for any family things but do also have individual ones too. No controlling going on just apathy and laziness

Ah, see, my aunt and uncle have a joint FB account, tho it tends to be my aunt who comments on stuff. They mainly use it to keep up with family, there's no way they'd want separate accounts, they'd think it was a waste of time.

They also have a joint email account, you just address your email to the one you're after.

I don't find it in the slightest controlling in their case, but that's maybe because they're slightly tech-phobic and in their 60s, if I knew a young couple doing the same I'd be very

Yanbu, I find it slightly creepy too, I have a few people on my Facebook with these.

My aunt and uncle have a joint FB account. But they're quite old, barely get IT, and have emigrated and only use it to tell the family what's going on and check how we are, so I let them off.

In every other way, it's beyond weird. Whether it is controlling or 'oh, look at us, we're soooo happy together', it's weird.