Not happy about DD (9) watching scary 15 film at sleepover last night

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DD (9) had a sleepover at a friends house last night. The friend is a near neighbour and in her class at school but was the first sleepover at her house. DD came home this morning really spooked, said she didn't even want to go upstairs on own because she had watched "Sixth Sense", scary 15 film about seeing the dead, at the sleepover. Really annoyed that friend's parents thought this was appropriate for 9 year olds. Thinking of sending the following text "X says does"t want to sleep on own tonight as too scared after watching 15 film Sixth Sense last night! Don't know if you were aware what they were watching?".

What do you think? Gives friend's mum the get out that she could say "sorry, wasn't aware, should have kept closer eye". Which might be true of course. Don't want to have fallout, small village and all that but don't feel I can just let it go if DD is going to spend time there in future.

sixth sense isnt a scary film really.. and it is also a PG not a 15

Did your dd want to watch it in the first place?

It's a 15.
It would have frightened me to death aged 9. I wouldn't be very happy.

Yanbu and it is a 15 not a pg

As far as scary films go it's quite tame really.

apologies.. I thought it was a 12 and google said PG, which was the USA rating not the uk one

even so, I didnt find it a scary film and would have let a 9year old watch it without worry

Frightens me.

My nearly-9 year old would be terrified of it.

I also wouldn't show a 15 film to 9 year olds, I think you should say something.

I found it very frightening when I saw it, perhaps they didn't realise.

Reminds me of going to a friend's 12th and watching nightmare on elm street (largely from behind the sofa) and being freaked out for mONTHS.

My dd is 9 & gets scared at scooby doo sometimes so i dont think the rating is anything to go by.

Have u seen the film youself? Have u spoken to your child about why they are scared?

BBFC says PG.

It's a 15, it is scary and I'd definitely say something. There are a lot of 15s out there that are much worse.
www.amazon.co.uk/The-Sixth-Sense-Bruce-Willis/dp/B00004SC8K

It's def a 15 and no way should she have been allowed to watch it without your permission so yes I would say something.

www.bbfc.co.uk/releases/sixth-sense-1999-5

It's the trailer that's PG not the film.

Why is the BBFC disagreeing with itself?

Ooooo. That explains it.

I wouldn't be happy at all! Certificates are there for a reason and what one child can cope with others cannot. It is not the right of the other parents to choose if it is appropriate, only yours! I agree with your stance to say "not sure if you were aware..." that way they will know you're not pleased, hopefully if the situation arises again (which I would be inclined to not allow another sleepover there) they will ring you first. I don't think you are being un reasonable at all.

MrsTerryPratchetts link is to the trailers, which a few were PG. The film was 15.

I would say something if it has frightened her. Preferably in person not by text though.

The movie starts with a crazy guy shooting himself so whether it is PG or 15 it should not be watched by a 9 year old.

I'd be really cross, I hate scary movies. I have a distinct memory of seeing 'a time to kill' when I was about 12 and it haunting me for months, not a thriller but adult themes that really freaked me out.

I'd send a text, a phone conversation would be too confrontational for me!

Well it scared me when I first watched it at about 25! It's got some blood and gore in it as well as lots of jumps, its v spooky.

I'd definitely say something. She might not have been aware and might have been confused by the trailer being pg! :)

I wouldn't be happy. They have the age classification for a reason. A couple of years too young max. I think I'd have a quiet word.

I would say something too - if you are inviting other people's children, then you need to show something age appropriate, regardless of whether you think it's particularly frightening or not, or if your dc watch it or not. However, I personally think texts are not the best way, I would speak in person or phone.

Putting a 15 cert film on for 9 year olds is not on!

At the very least they should have asked you if you had a problem with your DD watching it.

As you live in a small village and don't want to fall out I wouldn't suggest sending a text but instead bring it up next time you bump into the parents - just tell them your DD was spooked out and you were a bit surprised they put it on.

YANBU to be annoyed, it wasn't for the mum to decide.

She was responsible for what they were watching, don't give her the get out clause.

I was really fucked up by seeing 18 films my friends older sisters were watching when I was about the same age.

Although on the slightly bright side, I'd rather DD watched a film that was considered too creepy than too violent, even though spooky can play on your mind just as much.

I find it really scary! Especially the kid in the cupboard on the stairs......

But the point in question - the answer you'll get is 'oh I thought it would be fine'. And the lesson you learn is to be specific about what you do and don't allow your friends to decide on your behalf. I know this ving had exactly the same conversation myself ( having been shocked that anyone could think that a 15 was fine for a 10 year old)