IANBU - friend was rude

[Mintyy]

Went out for dinner the other night.

Three of my friends were already there when I got to the restaurant.

One was talking (about something major, I soon found out) and the other two were listening.

However the listening two looked up and smiled when I got to the table but the talker just carried on talking, it was a bit awkward tbh!

One of the listeners briefly explained what the talker was talking about, to put me in the picture. The other listener said "let's just say hello to Mintyy and then you can carry on".

Talker was rude, yes? She is someone who can't generally be stopped once she starts but it's basic manners to pause and say hi to someone else joining your group?

Maybe, but as you said, it was something major so whats the big deal? Is her needing to stop and say hello to you far more important than what she was talking about?

She should have stopped, said "hi Mintyy, I was just telling x and y about z" and then carried on if it was important. Would have taken 30 seconds.

No, CrapBag, just basic manners.

Exactly Elbow. I wouldn't have demanded everyone change the subject the minute I sat down!

Iwnbu because friend who said "shall we say hello to Mintyy before you carry on" obviously noticed too.

But it depends on what it was about and how 'involved' she was about it. Was she telling them about the death of someone close to her or something like that? Surely in a case like that then basic manners are not high on a persons agenda.

She was rude

No, she wasn't, but even if she was I think she should still have paused for breath to say hello.

She was rude, but you are being precious.

What SaucyJack said.

Fair enough, but she was rude. That's what I asked about.

We all had a lovely evening btw .

Were you late? Maybe she was being a twat about that and trying to make some sort of point?

Why are you posting in Am I Being Unreasonable when clearly you don't want any views which differ from your own? I've ever understood that.

What saucy said. She hardly stood up and shouted "fuck off" in your face. Its not that big a deal really is it.

Blokes just don't do this sort of thing.

I really find it hard to understand females in this sort of context

How major? Was she distraught? Was it major and distressing and so on? Hard to tell.

Soupy, I am indeed posting in aibu, but I laid my cards on the table in my op, therefore no need to post unless you agree with me.

I mean, it does sound a rude, but I can imagine a situation where rudeness is less important than letting someone vent.

Yeah it is a bit rude but understandable in the circumstances and not worth making an issue of.

Was she upset? Is she going through a major life change/relationship breakup/job loss? If so I'd say forgivable.

Its fairly far down the spectrum of rude behaviour.

YABVU posting on here and wanting everyone to agree with you!

IA not!

Errm, YES YOU ARE

back in the playground :-)

Unless she was in tears or close to tears then the 'normal' thing to do would be to pause for a second, make eye contact with you, smile and/or say hi, sorry just n the middle of a story then continue, filling you in later.