To think MN should not turn into arguments

[lindalooloo]

I very rarely post on here but i do lurk a lot . I have noticed that recently reply's to posts appear to becoming more and more argumentative. I have just read a thread and whilst lots of posters were supportive there was as normal the few posters that disagreed with the OP and made it quiet obvious they did by basically calling the OP stupid. I know that not everyone in the world will ever agree but does it have to get into sarky comments that insult people, i know we all hide behind our screens and i'm sure the people who post some of the comments wouldn't really say them in the "real world", but if we have our opinions we should be able to share them without making out the other person is wrong for even thinking different. a simple "i understand what your saying but my opinion is " would be much nicer.

I am sorry to post this but I just wanted to get it out there. I will now go back to lurking in the background.

What happened to the thread where the woman was angry at her ex not taking their kids out when his new wife had just had a baby? Was it deleted?

I think it's irritating when people get cross if you don't agree with them over really trivial things. Subjects like politics and related topics are different and I can see why people get annoyed about these.

some on here are so knowledgeable about certain subjects, i post my little remark on and feel quite stupid, but i have said my point and learnt from them too

at times i do not want to look at the more serious threads other times i do, at times i want to be supportive but without telling someone what they should be doing

we all give something on here and we all gain even when we are giving

I think sometimes the 'intelligent ones' so to speak can be very sneery,a lot aren't but some are , in a cliquey sort of way.

I have actually witnessed posters between themselves egging each other on '%433 should be here soon...' 'great post @+# as always' andother such smuggery , as we've recently seen certain posters getting idulgences in behaviour because they are popular.

A lot about the net is very like school tbh.

i agree howling

Hmmm, some folk are certainly very articulate, but think we will have to disagree about the indulgences of certain posters.

I'm not at all articulate, but I know what I feel, and will read and join. I do agree that we all give and we all gain.

Debate and argument is good. How that evolves, less than ideal sometimes.

I think some people do come on AIBU just because they are very angry people and/or self-righteous people looking for someone to vent it at. I think the pack mentality just makes it even worse.

(Other times, posters do just have a bad day, and we have all probably posted a bit insensitively when feeling tired and emotional).

That's the point I was trying to make Green Velvet,

I actually think it's quite rude of you to mostly 'lurk' but come and tell people how they should or shouldn't be posting

I also think it's quite silly to complain about it being too arguementative on MN when you mainy lurk on Am I Being Unreasonable.

Then to say 'I'm sorry to post this'

with no arguments it would be pretty boring.

It would be shit with no arguments. Just everyone saying 'i agree'.

Sometimes people are twats here and they are told they are been twats.

Chippingin your opinions are very valid I did not mean for it too sound as if i was telling people how they can and can not reply I was merely stating what I had observed in my opinion.
I do now realize that because I have only participated in a small area of the site i have not looked at the whole picture.
I was clearly sharing my opinion and no one has to take it on board , i was just putting it out there.

Once again thanks all for the different answers and i have taken something positive from all of them even the arse one.

I have to admit that I have called someone stupid on here before. I think I was having a bit of a bad day anyway and the person in question was comparing not giving a child a special brand of food to starving a child, it wasn't the OP but another comment, it really really annoyed me as it WAS a stupid comment and I didn't see it to be necessary, relevant to the discussion and it was likely to upset the person who posted the AIBU (she really wasn't being unreasonable, I feed my kids own brand food all the time and they thrive!)

I do think more recently there are a few posters who just leap in with an aggressive response, sometimes not even relating to the actual question asked. I find all that a bit unnecessary tbh. a good constuctive argument debate can be good but sometimes just no need for the nastiness when the op has not been goading for it or posted anything outrageous.