To think most of us don't post about the most important or worrisome things going on know our lives?

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That in fact some of us keep these things private because we don't want to get found out in rl or just want a bollenaise recipe or to let off steam room like to we would to our friends?

Really getting annoyed by people saying is that all you have to worry about about?

Of course it isn't, and no one is really dim enough to assume that you only post about the important in your life

I agree, I use MN for entertainment. I very rarely talk about the downs in my life unless it's specific to a thread.

No YANBU.

I actually think it's an incredibly rude thing to someone. Worry is subjective to the person, not relative to what's going on in someone else's life.

I agree. Even though I have nothing to hide in RL I would hate to be outed. I know people who are MNers but they don't know my NN and vice versa. Discussing private/important things could give me away. And I prefer to use MN for just entertainment too.

I agree

AIBU, in particular, used to deliberately be only about trivial things

YANBU. That's not what I use MN for personally, I am all for the trivia and having a laugh. Possibly a bit of debate but not a bunfight.

BUT I totally don't mind trying to help if people have posted their deeply personal problems because that's how they use the site.

I agree.

I'm a bit like that in rl though too. The people I share my big, serious concerns with are few, however I'll pass the time of day with anyone.

YANBU I have never put anything serious/private on here. Having seen the way some posters get ripped to shreds on here I don't think mn would be a place where I would post looking for support about something important.

YANBU

I don't think it's fair to beat someone up if they are actually really worried about something small. It's all subjective isn't it? I really like a phrase on I saw on here once - your broken leg does not make my stubbed toe any less painful.

People who do the sneering strike me as (huugggee generalisation here) as attention seekers tbh, it's like they want you to suddenly give all your attention to them in a FB "what's up babe" kinda way. Either that or they just can't help themselves striking out in a fairly safe place when they're having a shit time (I prefer to think it's that and can forgive it). It's very rarely a real attempt at trying to make someone feel better about what they do have.

It's not hard just not to read a thread surely - the internet is a pretty big place to distract yourself or find something relevant to what you want to think about.

In debates it's usually a shit way of trying to get some winning ground back i.e. you are discussing HS2 = you don't give a shit about babies dying in Syria . Yes I am only capable of holding one opinion and concern at a time. Blockheads.

I agree. It drives me up the wall. Along with that snide and nasty 'first world problem' bollocks.

I've said it before (today in fact) but it is perfectly possible to have both major and trivial things going on in your life and to want to post about one, or the other, or both, or neither and just talk about cheese if you want to! You simply can't deduce what is going on in someone's life by one thing they choose to post about and you're a fool if you think you can.

The ignorance and arrogance of someone assuming that if you're talking about something that they consider trivial that means you have nothing that they consider to be of actual importance is staggering.

Joyful I have seen some fantastic support on here over the years. However, the way I've seen some posters rip apart an OP in a way that was totally unnecessary has made me very wary of ever posting anything really personal here.

YANBU. I use MN for entertainment too. I try not to give away personal details because I don't want to be outed. Although over time the details I give out will add up, I suppose.

I tend to find myself drawn to AIBU which surprises me because I am non confrontational and very easy going in rl, but I do get involved every now and then, and love a bit of a (gentle) bunfight, when it then becomes time consuming. MN doesn't affect me in RL though, I treat it as a sort of fun hobby.

I agree with you about the phrase 'is that all you have to worry about?'. It's a put down, and the only possible answer can be 'of course not you fucking idiot, but I have come on to a chat forum-well to chat'.

Completely agree OP.

Yanbu, it's up to the individual what they post, if you fimd something too trivial to respond properly, why respond at all?

i skim the stuff that doesn't interest me or that i can't offer anything useful or entertaining to.

i joined MN mostly for entertainment as NM became a bit tedious for me. i didnt expect to use the advice boards as i had heard about people being ripped to shreds on them, yet i received some fantastic and invaluable advice that i wouldn't have found in r/l. i don't see the point in "don't you have more to worry you" replies, they don't help, they are not entertaining and they are basically pointless.

Completely agree with all of the above. It winds me up so much that people take the time to post comments asking the OP if that's all they have to worry about. Yes it might not seem important to you but it's clearly important enough for you to post bitching about it. Why not just ignore the thread instead of trying to make the OP feel shitty?!

YANBU.

We've had some rather grim family worries and I find reading about people's more everyday worries on here to be a welcome distraction. I wouldn't wish the concerns we've had on anyone.

I love aibu it has a weird mix of posts both trivial and serious that is what makes it fun.

YANBU. I don't understand these comments.

I love that MN is a mix of the trivial & significant. It's heartening that you can come here for serious support (and get it) but also spent part of that session sniggering over some other poor sod's embarrassment, or pondering the important issues in live (best soup, most snogworthy etc)

cross post with horridestmum

Yanbu at all I come on here and see it as a cross between Facebook and a good magazine... I never post about my problems on fb either or talk about them to anyone in rl. I am more than happy to pretend everything is great to everybody.

totally agree. what can seem trivial to one person can be very very important to another.

it can help to get perspective but to be dismissive is unacceptable.

Rarely I post about RL problems. MN is my only real support though.